How is everyone doing. Usually a very tough time of year to be giving up booze. I hope everyone is doing well in their own way.
Managing better than I thought I would be - arguably drinking too much when I do go out but only once a week tops (and not a weekday), managing to get myself out of bed the following day rather than wallowing in self pity, and most importantly not having any "added sugar" when I do go out.
I've got an acquaintance though that is really struggling and was going to see what the forum thinks - he has moved over from Ireland to London to get away from some trouble over there. Not 100% sure if he was actively in trouble or just likely to get in trouble but either way.
He is meant to be cutting back the booze and that (part of the reason for the move) and is coming into c. £500k inheritance in the new year which he wants to put towards covering costs of him studying and then looking to open his own business which is great.
Thing is, the last couple of weeks I have had messages off him asking me to get him stuff - the first one was 11am on a Tuesday and he had already had a few Jack and Cokes so wanted a ticket to go out on a mad one.
I had gone out of my way to delete any contact who could possibly get me one so I explained that to him (don't want to be a dick and have a pop at him about trying to get stuff off a lad you barely know on a Tuesday morning as that won't help him) and so he gets on at me nagging asking me to ask around. Eventually just have to ignore him.
His cousins mum (who he is living with over in England) has said he can't stay at hers if he is drunk due to having kids there and being worried how he will act - as a result no one heard from him for 3 days as he was holed up in a Travel Lodge to stay out the way.
Got another text off him on Friday (having not heard from him since this previous incident about 3 weeks or so ago) asking if I could get some "for his mate". He gave it large about how he was getting off the booze and all that as well and I just thought - don't try and bullshit someone with the same problems as you as it stands out a mile off.
Again, just explained that I couldn't help him as I didn't have any numbers but said if he fancied coming over to chill and that he could. Shockingly he didn't take me up on it and next I heard was this morning off his cousin to say he had go to her mum's friend's at 4am on Saturday morning, steaming, looking for somewhere to crash out.
Horrible situation and this lad is just cheating himself really but everyone is emotionally invested in helping him, and his cousin bunged him a grand to help him get settled, has helped him with a CV and that and he is just throwing it back in his face.
Anyone here had to help alcholic/drug addicted mates? Suggestions?