I don't know what to say to my dad about his cancer. we don't know yet if it has spread or if they've caught it early but still.....I'm scared to ask him about it. I'm scared to bring it up. I keep thinking things will turn out good because the alternative scares me too much.
It will never be easy and it won't get easier. All I can say is, have no regrets, that will hurt you more than you are scared now.
A lad I know, not very well mind, early 20's, picked me out at a party on Xmas Day and had a chat with me as he wanted a bit of advice as he knew what I'd just been/still going through and he himself hadn't talked a great deal with his dad, being blokes, we tend to just bottle things up and deal with the problems on our own. His dad is terminal and this lad is getting married in March and he's frightened his dad won't make it to the wedding. I saw him again the following day and he'd had a long chat with his auld fella, plenty tears, plenty hugs and you could tell a little bit of weight had lifted from his shoulders.
All I really said to him would be the same, stay strong and positive but tell your dad everything you want to tell him and ask any questions you feel is right. There may be...there will be tears but your dad will appreciate every word you say and I'm sure physcology has a big part to play in this, it may not make him better but he'll feel a whole lot better inside and that will be a big help to both of you. Once you've broken that barrier things will be a whole lot easier in the future. Good luck and god bless.
Jason, good luck pal, I'm sure and hoping all will be well.