I sympathise with the current team. Only because I am exactly like them, only in fan form. I'm the guy who thinks big before a match, but is found wanting when the chips are down. Don't get me wrong, I sing and make noise, but when that nervousness seeps in, I'm guilty as charged and can often found hiding behind my hands too afraid to even speak.
Inside I 'believe'. I've seen enough miracles to know that we can beat anyone and achieve anything. Problem is that when that belief moves onto something more tangible we (and I mean players and fans) struggle to cope.
We beat Spurs in what was probably only the second time this season that the team has got down and dirty (the other being West Ham away). What followed was a week of talk about 4th place, predictions of winning the next 3, 4 or 9 games. As usual we got far too carried away. I'm naturally cautious about our chances before any match (but inside am holding back the desire to just shout out that we'll win 5-0), but I was crapping myself before this one.
It wasn't that I felt Southampton are a superb team, it was the way we as fans dismissed them. It was the way the team sheet dismissed them. We turned up expecting it to be easy (read the pre-match thread) and got our arses handed to us, and deservedly so.
That's why I was so nervous, every time 'we' talk big, we get knocked back down.
'We're in the hunt for second' - Lose next match
'We can finish top 4' - Lose next match
'We just beat Tottenham who are the best team in the country on form' - Lose next match
Of course I'm just a fan, so really it doesn't matter if I'm nervous, but it just seems to me that the players react terribly to any suggestion that we might actually achieve something this season. We had the same problem last year as well iirc.
In the grand scheme of things, the result was not a disaster. Despite my cautious attitude, I figured 6th place on around 60 points this season would be a reasonable first season for a new manager. I still think we are on for around that.
The problems in the game are not purely tactical, although I agree with many that to play a two man central midfield of Allen/Gerrard is asking for trouble (and in a way shows disrespect for our opponents). We're trying to force 4 attacking players in and it just won't work against a team that is halfway decent (unless we also had top players behind them).
Even if we'd started with 3 in midfield I am not convinced we'd have won this one as the players seemed simply not up for it. Why that is and how we fix it I have no idea, because the only pattern I've found has been the one above, related to us screwing up after we start to 'big up' our chances.
For me let's fix the tactical problems first. We should start games away or against decent opposition with 3 men in midfield. It's not like we are in any other comps and need to rest players, so the decision to go all out attack I find baffling. I'm sure the plan was to try to kill them off early, but that's a dangerous game if they sneak upfield and score first.
Additionally, while it's nice seeing 4 men in attack, picking three out of them and saving one as a late sub to 'influence' when players are tired seems like a way to go.
From a player perspective, I don't have a problem with rebuilding from the front and that certainly explains why we leak so many goals. It's clear that Skrtel is going to be replaced and I wouldn't be surprised to see a new left back and keeper, but for now, this is what we have. I feel sorry for Brad jones. I like the guy, he seems like the kind of chap you'd pop to the pub with, but he gives me zero confidence whenever the ball is within 20 yards of him. That might be harsh, and I don't mean it to be, but there it is.
From a mental perspective I seriously have no idea. Why do I (and seemingly 80%) of the ground go as silent as OT when the going gets tough? It needs fixing, but all I've come up with so far is that winning more matches will breed confidence. Problem seems to be though that despite winning the previous three, one defeat knocks confidence more than the wins increase it. Or so it seems.
Anyway, long ramble almost over. I maintain my view that we have progressed well this season and that 6th place and around 60 points would be a good season and illustrate that we are halting the regression. We 'can' finish 5th, but let's keep it realistic. We will lose another game between now and the end of the season. We may lose more than one. Doesn't mean we are shit. Just means we are a work in progress and that's were we are.
Final point to Southampton. Credit to them. Played really well and deserved their win.