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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1440 on: August 12, 2012, 09:29:45 am »
Just had the news that my Mum has cancer of the lung, the liver and the kidney. Absolutely fucking devestated at the news. I'm in bits here. Had to put this on here to try and ease the pain.

I'm very sorry to hear that olly. Like Elli says keep talking if it helps you. You can also PM me if you want to. I lost my dad to cancer 7½ ago when he was just 56, so I can fully relate to what you're going through mate...

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1441 on: August 14, 2012, 01:03:22 pm »
My uncle's funeral was yesterday, he got an excellent send off. His daughters each prepared tributes to him which were lovely. I haven't been to a huge number of funerals but to me it was noticeable how grief stricken everyone was. So, so many tears shed for a truly wonderful man. The wake was held at his golf club, where the flag has been at half mast since he passed about 10 days ago which I thought was a lovely touch.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1442 on: August 14, 2012, 02:36:51 pm »
Just had the news that my Mum has cancer of the lung, the liver and the kidney. Absolutely fucking devestated at the news. I'm in bits here. Had to put this on here to try and ease the pain.

I don't know you but my thoughts are with you. I hope you and your family find every crumb of comfort and strength going.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1443 on: August 15, 2012, 10:23:30 am »
Haven't popped in here for a few months. Just want to add my condolences to those who've had someone close to them pass, and my very best wishes and crossed fingers for those fighting it.
 
It's the best topic on the forum by an absolute mile this, some lovely people around.
 
 

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1444 on: August 15, 2012, 10:54:06 am »
Cheers everyone for the kind words and thoughts.
The specialist cancer nurse has just visited my mam. Was so very helpful. Just waiting to see the Oncologist, and then my mam will decide on any treatment shes offered. Mam has taken the news better than me or my three brothers. Shes been amazing.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1445 on: August 17, 2012, 12:13:49 am »
Mam has taken the news better than me or my three brothers. Shes been amazing.
Tell her to stay brave & strong mate.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1446 on: August 18, 2012, 06:58:37 pm »
My dad was diagnosed with cancer in February this year, and after battling very bravely against it he passed away at 1035 this morning. He went comfortably, peacefully and pain free which is a huge blessing and my mam, sisters and I were all there when he passed and were able to say goodbye.

We've spent most of the last 2 days in the hospital at his bedside, and he woke us all at 0315 this morning telling us he'd had enough, was ready to go even though he didn't want to, that he was sorry and that he loved us all. Even though he'd had enough, he still fought right until his last breath, and the chat we had with him in the early hours of the morning was the most lucid and comfortable he's been for the last 6 months, and we were all laughing and joking together which is an amazing last memory. The chat lasted for a very long time, and he went through all his affairs and what he wanted to happen after he died, including making sure we stopped all his benefits and pensions haha.

As he was in a little bit of pain towards the end, and was struggling to breath, the nurses decided to sedate him as otherwise he'd have been in distress and a lot more pain. Just before he died though he looked around the room to see if we were all there, and all ready for him to go, waiting for my sister to finish a phonecall to her husband and my other sister to get back from the toilet. We're all so pleased that he went on his own terms, when he wanted and how he wanted, instead of the disease taking him away from us.

The most amazing thing was happening though. During the final few hours he was nodding, smiling, waving and giving the thumbs up to someone/something in the corner of the hospital room where no-one was sitting. At one point he said "I want pork for supper". All of his mannerisms were extremely similar to those of my Granddads, who passed away 11 years ago, and we're convinced that my granddad was there in the room with us to come get him and look after him. That may seem strange to a lot of people, but we're absolutely convinced there was someone else in the room with us.

None of us know what we're going to do without him around, and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life, and I'm really dreading the funeral in the next week or so. We're taking so much comfort in that he wasn't distressed or in pain, and we all know he'll never truly be gone and he'll be with us all forever!

RIP Dad. I love you so much!
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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1447 on: August 18, 2012, 08:07:01 pm »
My dad was diagnosed with cancer in February this year, and after battling very bravely against it he passed away at 1035 this morning. He went comfortably, peacefully and pain free which is a huge blessing and my mam, sisters and I were all there when he passed and were able to say goodbye.

We've spent most of the last 2 days in the hospital at his bedside, and he woke us all at 0315 this morning telling us he'd had enough, was ready to go even though he didn't want to, that he was sorry and that he loved us all. Even though he'd had enough, he still fought right until his last breath, and the chat we had with him in the early hours of the morning was the most lucid and comfortable he's been for the last 6 months, and we were all laughing and joking together which is an amazing last memory. The chat lasted for a very long time, and he went through all his affairs and what he wanted to happen after he died, including making sure we stopped all his benefits and pensions haha.

As he was in a little bit of pain towards the end, and was struggling to breath, the nurses decided to sedate him as otherwise he'd have been in distress and a lot more pain. Just before he died though he looked around the room to see if we were all there, and all ready for him to go, waiting for my sister to finish a phonecall to her husband and my other sister to get back from the toilet. We're all so pleased that he went on his own terms, when he wanted and how he wanted, instead of the disease taking him away from us.

The most amazing thing was happening though. During the final few hours he was nodding, smiling, waving and giving the thumbs up to someone/something in the corner of the hospital room where no-one was sitting. At one point he said "I want pork for supper". All of his mannerisms were extremely similar to those of my Granddads, who passed away 11 years ago, and we're convinced that my granddad was there in the room with us to come get him and look after him. That may seem strange to a lot of people, but we're absolutely convinced there was someone else in the room with us.

None of us know what we're going to do without him around, and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life, and I'm really dreading the funeral in the next week or so. We're taking so much comfort in that he wasn't distressed or in pain, and we all know he'll never truly be gone and he'll be with us all forever!

RIP Dad. I love you so much!

This has brought tears to my eyes. I guess the fact he wasn't in pain or distressed is a small consolation but I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1448 on: August 18, 2012, 08:10:08 pm »
Cheers everyone for the kind words and thoughts.
The specialist cancer nurse has just visited my mam. Was so very helpful. Just waiting to see the Oncologist, and then my mam will decide on any treatment shes offered. Mam has taken the news better than me or my three brothers. Shes been amazing.

Very sorry to hear your news, hope the treatment options are good.

I think it's sometimes easier for the cancer sufferer - I don't know, maybe some sort of defence mechanism kicks in and you just focus on coping. But those around of the sufferer, in my experience, only feel helpless and powerless, and that is so difficult when you're seeing someone you love have to go through it all.

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way, and wishing your Mum all the best.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1449 on: August 18, 2012, 08:53:26 pm »
Condolences, Welshred.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1450 on: August 18, 2012, 08:56:17 pm »
Welshred, I wish peace and ease for you and your loved ones!

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1451 on: August 18, 2012, 09:32:47 pm »
Welshred. A truly moving post, thanks for sharing mate.

God bless your father.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1452 on: August 18, 2012, 09:35:43 pm »
Very sorry to hear that Chris, glad you had some comfort from the circumstances. All the best.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1453 on: August 18, 2012, 11:42:56 pm »
Chris I had no idea. Thinking of you. See you soon mate.
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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1454 on: August 19, 2012, 12:46:24 am »
Chris, feeling for you mate. Heartfelt condolences.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1455 on: August 19, 2012, 02:48:24 am »
Heartfelt condolences Welshred, may he rest in peace now.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1456 on: August 19, 2012, 02:52:41 am »
Very sorry to hear that Welshred.

Thoughts are with you.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1457 on: August 19, 2012, 12:10:30 pm »
Thank you everyone

The hardest bit of all this is seeing how upset my mam is.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1458 on: August 19, 2012, 12:44:49 pm »
Very sorry Welshred. Thoughts are with you and your family.

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« Reply #1459 on: August 19, 2012, 09:07:29 pm »
I can only echo what has already been said several times, Welshred. God bless your Dad, yourself and your family.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1460 on: August 19, 2012, 09:45:47 pm »
Welshred, I'm so sorry to read that and like the others said, had no idea you had been going through this.

Your post was beautifully written though and as bitersweet as it is it brought a smile to the have to read how your Dad went on his own terms. I hope you and the family stay strong for each other, make sure you and your siblings look after your mum.

Sorry again, and remember we are here if you need someone to talk to, or just a distraction.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1461 on: August 20, 2012, 07:25:58 am »
Deeply sorry to hear about your loss Welshred

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1462 on: August 20, 2012, 08:02:07 am »
Welshred - what a poignant and beautifully written post. So sad yet so uplifting that your Dad stayed with you all until the end. You should be very proud of him.
As for dreading the funeral I know what you must be thinking - all the grief to go through again for you all in saying a final goodbye to him.
 
I know it might not sound like much help but if you could manage to do it, try and look at the fact that you have - all of you - already experienced a very special and deeply personal saying good-bye to him. Then that can make his coming funeral the chance for all your family to celebrate and remember his life and all of the lovely and warm things he shared with you all throughout his entire life when he was well and healthy.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1463 on: August 20, 2012, 09:56:49 am »
Really sorry to hear about that, Chris. Make sure you look after each other.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1464 on: August 24, 2012, 03:06:05 am »
So sorry for your loss WelshRed, hope you and your family find a way to get through this and I'm so glad your Dad went on his own terms. Thinking of you.

Olly try and be strong for your Mum, I know it's so hard as you just want to breakdown but she will need your strength and support. Hope the treatment options are good.

Well my Mum has just been back yet again, now we start the Rotterdam Regime. Very scary as she has managed so well with the chemo and RT over the last few years but reading up on this one sounds very daunting. She has to stay in overnight whilst they administer it as it can take up to 13 hours. She will lose all her hair, eyebrows etc which is something she has managed to avoid over the treatments thus far and I know she is dreading it. Has me filled with dread to be honest as well and doesn't help that I'm so far away. Think it's going to make her really sick but what I've read says that it does have a good response rate. Has anyone here had any experience of this one? It's going to be the hardest one yet and I'm petrified. :(

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1465 on: August 25, 2012, 09:15:11 am »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1466 on: August 25, 2012, 09:55:43 am »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you

My sincere condolences, olly. If you want to please do not hesitate to PM. I know what you're going through... :sad God bless!

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« Reply #1467 on: August 25, 2012, 01:32:03 pm »
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« Reply #1468 on: August 25, 2012, 02:28:53 pm »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you
So sorry to hear that mate. Stay Strong.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1469 on: August 25, 2012, 02:57:22 pm »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you
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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1470 on: August 25, 2012, 04:09:54 pm »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you

Very sorry to hear this Olly, sending you my deepest condolences. Thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time xx

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1471 on: August 25, 2012, 04:27:33 pm »
So sorry for your loss Olly, YNWA

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1472 on: August 25, 2012, 07:00:43 pm »
My condolences Olly, if you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1473 on: August 26, 2012, 06:52:21 am »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you

So sorry to hear this sad news Olly. May she rest in peace.
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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1474 on: August 26, 2012, 11:00:43 am »
So sorry to hear that Olly.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1475 on: August 26, 2012, 11:40:46 am »
Thank you everyone for the kind words.

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« Reply #1476 on: August 26, 2012, 12:17:47 pm »
Thank you everyone for the kind words.

My condolences to you :(

My uncle's wife passed away yesterday after having struggled with metastatic breastcancer for the past three years. I just found out this morning. It's incredibly sad and even though I knew she was very very ill, it still comes as a shock. I just can't believe she's gone.

RIP T. You were always on my mind.

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« Reply #1477 on: August 26, 2012, 11:57:30 pm »
My Mam passed away early this morning from this God awful disease. She was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Struggling to keep it together this morning. RIP Mam. Will always love you

Awful news mate.  Sounds very similar to my situation.  If you look back through this thread my mum also died weeks after being diagnosed in early 2011.  You're just trying to come to terms with the fact that she has this life threatening illness and before you know it, just as you prepare yourself for the battle, she's gone in a blink.

People say it gets easier etc.  I suppose it does.  But there's not a day passes when I don't think of her.  Yes of course you have memories etc but that's never compensation for the real thing.  Life is never the same again.  A light permanently goes out somewhere definitely.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1478 on: August 27, 2012, 02:26:27 am »
So sorry for your loss Olly, thinking of you and your family.

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Re: Cancer
« Reply #1479 on: October 10, 2012, 04:49:43 pm »
Well I've finally finished my six years of treatment. I still can't quite believe it - every night I feel like I've forgotten something and then realise I don't need to take any pills anymore. It's a bit of an emotional rollercoaster and I'm not quite sure what to do with myself. In a sense it feels like a new battle is starting now - I've got to somehow rebuild my life but I'm not sure what my chances are or where to begin.

But I'm enjoying my freedom  8) I'm starting to make plans and I hope to make it to Anfield at some point soon-ish - I haven't been since my treatment started and I can't wait to get back.

Thank you all for your support over the months, it has meant a lot to me.