Author Topic: Dating thesedays.. (Read 20030 times)

AndyMuller · « **Reply #160 on:** June 15, 2023, 08:23:17 am »

I’m not worried whatsoever about people ghosting me etc as before I got into this relationship I was a bit of a c*nt myself and putting in work and ghosting girls too, so I can be ruthless if I need to be.

Ill just save loads for a deposit on a house or even try and buy my parents house I think.

ToneLa · « **Reply #161 on:** June 15, 2023, 09:40:03 am »

Maybe don't add to the ghosting problem, it's all anyone complains about with online dating

tubby · « **Reply #162 on:** June 15, 2023, 09:42:59 am »

Think I posted the same earlier in the thread, but when I was in The Dating Game I gave speed dating a go and it was brilliant, really fun nights every time. Highly recommended.

AndyInVA · « **Reply #163 on:** June 23, 2023, 10:56:27 pm »

Quote from: tubby on June 15, 2023, 09:42:59 am

Think I posted the same earlier in the thread, but when I was in The Dating Game I gave speed dating a go and it was brilliant, really fun nights every time. Highly recommended.

Never tried, looked interesting though. probably really efficient at narrowing down to the few people in the dating pool that showed up that are even close to being a match for you. They never had it in my small town and wish I showed up to ones in the bigger cities about an hour away.

jambutty · « **Reply #164 on:** July 3, 2023, 07:56:40 pm »

Quote from: rob1966 on April 11, 2023, 12:34:25 pm

Dodged a bullet there by the look of it.

I call it a grenade.

Worst thing about dating older is the baggage. Do you really want to deal with someone else's problems when they're probly worse than yours?

Red Beret · « **Reply #165 on:** July 3, 2023, 09:33:18 pm »

I'm thinking of trying again. I'm pretty useless at it though. I carry my own baggage but my life is hardly interesting. People seem to be way too picky or suspiciously open.

reddebs · « **Reply #166 on:** July 3, 2023, 10:01:07 pm »

Quote from: Red Beret on July 3, 2023, 09:33:18 pm

I'm thinking of trying again. I'm pretty useless at it though. I carry my own baggage but my life is hardly interesting. People seem to be way too picky or suspiciously open.

You go for it mate but maybe don't think of it as "trying again" and allow things to develop organically 👍

Red Beret · « **Reply #167 on:** July 4, 2023, 10:46:17 am »

Quote from: reddebs on July 3, 2023, 10:01:07 pm

You go for it mate but maybe don't think of it as "trying again" and allow things to develop organically 👍

Indeed. It seems difficult for anything to grow naturally these days. There's a lot of impatience in the world and people only see the surface. I often feel immediately on the defensive and that I have to justify myself.

AndyMuller · « **Reply #168 on:** July 5, 2023, 08:54:47 am »

Bit shit like init? These apps are shite.

AndyMuller · « **Reply #169 on:** July 17, 2023, 11:58:50 am »

Been hit with a 'Take Care' message after a fourth date.

On to the next one.

ToneLa · « **Reply #170 on:** July 17, 2023, 12:46:34 pm »

Dating apps: proof of ghosts

damomad · « **Reply #171 on:** July 17, 2023, 01:47:38 pm »

Seeing this pop up, I've went and downloaded Hinge, haven't really looked into why it's different or if it's any better than the others.

Was at a wedding last weekend, would be a shame not to put the photos to use.

Ziltoid · « **Reply #172 on:** July 17, 2023, 02:28:01 pm »

Quote from: ToneLa on July 17, 2023, 12:46:34 pm

Dating apps: proof of ghosts

I see dead people

rob1966 · « **Reply #173 on:** July 17, 2023, 04:50:29 pm »

Quote from: damomad on July 17, 2023, 01:47:38 pm

Seeing this pop up, I've went and downloaded Hinge, haven't really looked into why it's different or if it's any better than the others.

Was at a wedding last weekend, would be a shame not to put the photos to use.

I thought you'd written minge at first

Dr. Beaker · « **Reply #174 on:** July 17, 2023, 05:13:38 pm »

Quote from: damomad on July 17, 2023, 01:47:38 pm

Was at a wedding last weekend, would be a shame not to put the photos to use.

AndyMuller · « **Reply #175 on:** July 20, 2023, 10:49:22 am »

Been friendzoned haha.

Not that I was even looking for anything serious after coming out of a 12 year relationship a month ago!

PeterJM · « **Reply #176 on:** July 21, 2023, 10:51:11 pm »

I've landed a date with an absolute belter who admittedly is way out of my league. I'm not going to overthink it as i normally do as i really like her and i don't want to be the master of my own downfall. When did it all become so difficult???

damomad · « **Reply #177 on:** July 21, 2023, 11:05:21 pm »

How can you be sure she is out of your league?

She might see it the other way around or even level par. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

It’s deadly though, I’ve been getting matches a plenty and I’m having the exact same confidence issue. Just need to set up the date and it matters fuck all if there’s no connection there anyway.

Titi Camara · « **Reply #178 on:** July 21, 2023, 11:12:05 pm »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 21, 2023, 10:51:11 pm

I've landed a date with an absolute belter who admittedly is way out of my league. I'm not going to overthink it as i normally do as i really like her and i don't want to be the master of my own downfall. When did it all become so difficult???

Don;t get pissed, be yourself, make sure to breathe, when's she's talking actually listen don't be in your own head, when you talk be sure to do so with both your heart and mind and not your cock, be vulnerable, open doors for her....and if you think the mood is right give her a wee slap on the bottom as she goes through.

Granted that last one isn;t for everyone

Samie · « **Reply #179 on:** July 21, 2023, 11:56:53 pm »

Look if If I can land someone you all can. When I met my fiancee initially the joke between family and friends was" Is she blind, deaf and desperate?

I bet you fuckers are wondering that too now.

RedSince86 · « **Reply #180 on:** July 22, 2023, 10:49:25 am »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 21, 2023, 10:51:11 pm

I've landed a date with an absolute belter who admittedly is way out of my league. I'm not going to overthink it as i normally do as i really like her and i don't want to be the master of my own downfall. When did it all become so difficult???

Good luck!!!

That was pretty good advice on the post above.

Rooting for you!!

The G in Gerrard · « **Reply #181 on:** July 22, 2023, 10:51:55 am »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 21, 2023, 10:51:11 pm

I've landed a date with an absolute belter who admittedly is way out of my league. I'm not going to overthink it as i normally do as i really like her and i don't want to be the master of my own downfall. When did it all become so difficult???

Hope it goes well.

Claire. · « **Reply #182 on:** July 22, 2023, 02:46:28 pm »

Quote from: Titi Camara on July 21, 2023, 11:12:05 pm

Granted that last one isn;t for everyone

It isn't for anyone, you trying to get the poor c*nt arrested?!

afc tukrish · « **Reply #183 on:** July 22, 2023, 05:42:32 pm »

Quote from: Claire. on July 22, 2023, 02:46:28 pm

It isn't for anyone, you trying to get the poor c*nt arrested?!

Or smacked cross the face...

Chakan · « **Reply #184 on:** July 22, 2023, 05:51:18 pm »

Quote from: Claire. on July 22, 2023, 02:46:28 pm

It isn't for anyone, you trying to get the poor c*nt arrested?!

Quote from: afc tukrish on July 22, 2023, 05:42:32 pm

Or smacked cross the face...

But just imagine if she gives a sly smile.

PeterJM · « **Reply #185 on:** July 22, 2023, 05:56:40 pm »

Quote from: RedSince86 on July 22, 2023, 10:49:25 am

Good luck!!!

That was pretty good advice on the post above.

Rooting for you!!

Quote from: The G in Gerrard on July 22, 2023, 10:51:55 am

Hope it goes well.

Cheers! I'll keep you all posted on how it goes.

AndyInVA · « **Reply #186 on:** July 23, 2023, 10:20:12 am »

Quote from: AndyMuller on July 20, 2023, 10:49:22 am

Been friendzoned haha.

Not that I was even looking for anything serious after coming out of a 12 year relationship a month ago!

Friend zoned is not too bad. Better than ghosted which I always used to hate.

Any woman serious on dating is not going to let her self get emotional with a guy just out of a 12 year relationship. Friend zoning you is her way of telling you that you are not ready.

Good luck with it, its a difficult path.

Draex · « **Reply #187 on:** July 23, 2023, 12:19:50 pm »

Quote from: Samie on July 21, 2023, 11:56:53 pm

Look if If I can land someone you all can. When I met my fiancee initially the joke between family and friends was" Is she blind, deaf and desperate? I bet you fuckers are wondering that too now.

Are you sure it's not Capon catfishing you?

rob1966 · « **Reply #188 on:** July 23, 2023, 01:39:19 pm »

Quote from: Draex on July 23, 2023, 12:19:50 pm

Are you sure it's not Capon catfishing you?

Ssshhhh, you'll spoil the surprise

ToneLa · « **Reply #189 on:** July 23, 2023, 06:01:03 pm »

Quote from: AndyMuller on July 20, 2023, 10:49:22 am

Been friendzoned haha.

Not that I was even looking for anything serious after coming out of a 12 year relationship a month ago!

I've gotten with partners after being friend zoned

Love is love, attraction is attraction

Maybe it's a test

AndyInVA · « **Reply #190 on:** July 23, 2023, 06:36:36 pm »

Quote from: ToneLa on July 23, 2023, 06:01:03 pm

I've gotten with partners after being friend zoned

Love is love, attraction is attraction

Maybe it's a test

Me too

Sometimes some other guy pops up who might be a better option then they come back when that one doesn’t work

Didn’t bother me at all

Peabee · « **Reply #191 on:** July 23, 2023, 07:05:42 pm »

One of the things I disliked about dating was when you had to go to some bar you hated. I was on a date and she wanted to go to Revolution, but I didn’t, and the only excuse I could think of was claiming I was banned from all Revs. Yeah that impressed her.

Glad I’m not having to go out dating now. I wasn’t very good.

PeterJM · « **Reply #192 on:** July 30, 2023, 02:56:53 pm »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 21, 2023, 10:51:11 pm

I've landed a date with an absolute belter who admittedly is way out of my league. I'm not going to overthink it as i normally do as i really like her and i don't want to be the master of my own downfall. When did it all become so difficult???

It didn't work out quite how i'd hoped.

The G in Gerrard · « **Reply #193 on:** July 30, 2023, 05:04:17 pm »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 30, 2023, 02:56:53 pm

It didn't work out quite how i'd hoped.

Annoying. What went wrong in your opinion?

PeterJM · « **Reply #194 on:** July 30, 2023, 06:24:25 pm »

Quote from: The G in Gerrard on July 30, 2023, 05:04:17 pm

Annoying. What went wrong in your opinion?

Her past relationships are still a big obstacle in her life. It's a shame as she's a really lovely person. I'm gutted for myself as i wasn't even looking to meet then she appeared and that changed.

The G in Gerrard · « **Reply #195 on:** July 30, 2023, 07:48:50 pm »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 30, 2023, 06:24:25 pm

Her past relationships are still a big obstacle in her life.It's a shame as she's a really lovely person. I'm gutted for myself as i wasn't even looking to meet then she appeared and that changed.

Ah okay. Least it's an experience - going to stay in touch with her?

PeterJM · « **Reply #196 on:** July 31, 2023, 09:36:11 am »

Quote from: The G in Gerrard on July 30, 2023, 07:48:50 pm

Ah okay. Least it's an experience - going to stay in touch with her?

Don't know if there's much point. I'm just going to give her some time and space.

damomad · « **Reply #197 on:** July 31, 2023, 10:54:53 am »

Gutting that, maybe a case of the right person, wrong time. At least 3 weeks isn't too much time invested.

AndyInVA · « **Reply #198 on:** July 31, 2023, 03:16:55 pm »

Some great dating stories on the Bad Dates podcast with Jameela Jamil

AndyMuller · « **Reply #199 on:** August 1, 2023, 10:09:53 am »

Quote from: PeterJM on July 30, 2023, 06:24:25 pm

Her past relationships are still a big obstacle in her life.It's a shame as she's a really lovely person. I'm gutted for myself as i wasn't even looking to meet then she appeared and that changed.

I'm in a similar position. Maybe we are speaking to the same girl