Me again.
Thanks for all your best wishes!
Since I last typed, we were called on Friday night to say she had taken a bad turn and we should come in immediately, we were there in 20 mins and stayed with her for the next 48 hours, while she drifted in and out of deep sleeps she kept asking why we were all there and who was looking after the kids? A mammies instincts never change I suppose.
On Sat she asked my wife to get a pen and paper and she proceeded to call out each of the 6 grandkids names and a what she wanted to buy them, ranging from a PlayStation game for the eldest to a doll for the youngest, my daughter Ella who's only 7 months old.
I was instructed to go shopping then and bring everything back to her. We did that on Sunday and wrapped all the presents and put them beside her bed, we then brought all the grandkids in and she tended to them all with what little energy she has, the twinkle in her eye returned and her beautiful smile, I struggled to contain my emotions but we held it together for both her and the kids sake, it was a beautiful bittersweet time and we even took a few photos, not something I'd do but she encouraged it and I'm so grateful to have one or 2 more pics now to cherish, especially one with my one and only child.
We were advised to go home and rest last night by her team as we will need our energy when the time comes, we met with the team again this morning who examined her and said that she has deteriorated a lot over the weekend and is now in her final days, while we knew that its still so hard to hear.
I'm home now chilling out for a while and have decided to stay with her overnight tonight, my brother and sister are there with her now, the docs said that when her time comes they expect it to be very sudden so we want to make sure she's not alone.
I'm going to bring the laptop with me tonight and start putting together her eulogy while she sleeps beside me, I have done 2 before but for your own mam is a different ball game, I'm hoping having her beside me will inspire me to convey the emotions I am going through (any advice would be greatly appreciated).
I have never been in a Hospice before but I have to say the last 3 weeks have really opened my eyes to the kindness and dedication shown by the staff and volunteers, it's more than just a 'job' to them, it's a way of life, it's made me think long and hard and I know when all this is behind me I will do something to pay it back, whether it be as a volunteer myself or in the form of charity, they really are inspiring.