Topic: Alcohol Issues - The Carl van Riel Memorial Thread

[Johnnyboy1973]

Dont fuck either. There's a monastery out there with my name on it.

[gerrardspetal]

I love Joey

[Johnnyboy1973]

Yeah,but your obviously doing other stuff,im guessing ?

I wank profusely.

Only joking.

Yeah, I do stuff. I need to do more.

That's the thing with debauchery, it makes life so simple. Get money - get fucked up. If you do it well enough you never have to stop and think.

[Sir Harvest Fields]

I wank profusely.

Only joking.

Yeah, I do stuff. I need to do more.

That's the thing with debauchery, it makes life so simple. Get money - get fucked up. If you do it well enough you never have to stop and think.

this man has a good point

[250505]

Unbelievable what happened last night, couldnt fucking walk/talk.

Dont remember any part of the night though, and now feel like shit.


P.S I am a newbie

[CheshireDave]

Unbelievable what happened last night, couldnt fucking walk/talk.

Dont remember any part of the night though, and now feel like shit.


P.S I am a newbie

Does your bumhole hurt?

[jooneyisdagod]

Unbelievable what happened last night, couldnt fucking walk/talk.

Dont remember any part of the night though, and now feel like shit.


P.S I am a newbie

Did you moan with pleasure when taking a dump this morning ?

[Rusty]

Hey Harvest and ACHP, how did you both go over the weekend?

[Sir Harvest Fields]

well, my internet is down for a while now till i can pay the bill lol but i had 4 pints watching the game and that was it. i been well ill lately so i not fely like drinking. Morphine tablets person that I find irritating me out too much to get pissed lol. as i said before, you cut down and feel worse for it lol.

[And Could He Play]

Hey Harvest and ACHP, how did you both go over the weekend?

went out on friday, havent had a drink since.

[Seebab]

What happened to CF999? haha

[John C]

Its a long time since I was as pissed as I was last night.

[Welshred]

well, my internet is down for a while now till i can pay the bill lol but i had 4 pints watching the game and that was it. i been well ill lately so i not fely like drinking. Morphine tablets person that I find irritating me out too much to get pissed lol. as i said before, you cut down and feel worse for it lol.

4 pints is good considering what you're used to drinking, sounds like you're cutting down well?

[Rusty]

went out on friday, havent had a drink since.

Sounds like good progress - have you had your daughter in the nights since Friday?

EDIT: ps I don't mean to be nosey, just trying to keep up the moral support!

[Rusty]

well, my internet is down for a while now till i can pay the bill lol but i had 4 pints watching the game and that was it. i been well ill lately so i not fely like drinking. Morphine tablets person that I find irritating me out too much to get pissed lol. as i said before, you cut down and feel worse for it lol.

From the sounds of it you've given your body a lot to deal with over the last few years - its only natural that it will give you some shit back now that you've cut down the grog!! But in the long run there's no doubt at all that you will definitely feel better and healthier if you can keep cutting the booze down.

Stick with it fella, there's light at the end of the tunnel, and people to help you get there.

[Grobbelrevell]

I did that.

I went to SE Asia and got twice as pissed for half as much.

Im there now. In Laos. Half litre bottle of Beerlaos for about 30p. In Vietnam they had draught beer for 14p.

God bless you SE Asia.

[AndyInVA]

Its now exactly one month since I poured all the alcohol down the sink and have not had a drop since. This was very hard last weekend as I was surrounded by drink at my in laws over Thanksgiving. In perspective, I'm 40 years old had drunk some alchohol just about every single day since I was 16 and quite large amounts at times.

It can be done.

Edit. I will add to that, its easier now I have a wife I love and a seven month old. I dont think there is any way I could have given up booze in my 20's. I was too stupid, too immmature and enjoyed it too much. The lows did not seem as low as the high of the highs. If anyone can totally give up booze in their 20's and low 30's, they have my utmost respect.

[Corkboy]

Its now exactly one month since I poured all the alcohol down the sink and have not had a drop since. This was very hard last weekend as I was surrounded by drink at my in laws over Thanksgiving. In perspective, I'm 40 years old had drunk some alchohol just about every single day since I was 16 and quite large amounts at times.

It can be done.

Edit. I will add to that, its easier now I have a wife I love and a seven month old. I dont think there is any way I could have given up booze in my 20's. I was too stupid, too immmature and enjoyed it too much. The lows did not seem as low as the high of the highs. If anyone can totally give up booze in their 20's and low 30's, they have my utmost respect.

No matter, good job all the same.

[jason42]

Its now exactly one month since I poured all the alcohol down the sink and have not had a drop since. This was very hard last weekend as I was surrounded by drink at my in laws over Thanksgiving. In perspective, I'm 40 years old had drunk some alchohol just about every single day since I was 16 and quite large amounts at times.

It can be done.

Edit. I will add to that, its easier now I have a wife I love and a seven month old. I dont think there is any way I could have given up booze in my 20's. I was too stupid, too immmature and enjoyed it too much. The lows did not seem as low as the high of the highs. If anyone can totally give up booze in their 20's and low 30's, they have my utmost respect.

I stopped when I was 19. I had been working in pubs and clubs since I was 13 and drinking pretty much every night. When I started working for my in-laws at their wine bar/squash club the drinking got worse. In the end it was more of a habit rather than just having a drink to enjoy myself and I just stopped. The missus did as well and pretty much we haven't drunk for 20 years.
It wasn't easy but it wasn't difficult either. The hardest part this past 20 years has been explaining to people that we don't drink. Many people find it incredibly difficult to comprehend that neither of us drink and do their level best to try and force a drink on us. Not drinking at all is almost as much a stigma as drinking too much.

Keep up the good work.

[Rusty]

Its now exactly one month since I poured all the alcohol down the sink and have not had a drop since. This was very hard last weekend as I was surrounded by drink at my in laws over Thanksgiving. In perspective, I'm 40 years old had drunk some alchohol just about every single day since I was 16 and quite large amounts at times.

It can be done.

Edit. I will add to that, its easier now I have a wife I love and a seven month old. I dont think there is any way I could have given up booze in my 20's. I was too stupid, too immmature and enjoyed it too much. The lows did not seem as low as the high of the highs. If anyone can totally give up booze in their 20's and low 30's, they have my utmost respect.

Great effort mate - I echo your thoughts about giving up in the 20s/30s - I'm 29 and still do really enjoy several types of booze - but the number of nights where I go out and get absolutely bladdered on a boys night out have certainly decreased over the last few years.

Good to hear that you've got specific motivation through your daughter, that should help you stick off the grog.

[And Could He Play]

Sounds like good progress - have you had your daughter in the nights since Friday?

EDIT: ps I don't mean to be nosey, just trying to keep up the moral support!

yeah, she went back to her mother yesterday.

[AndyInVA]

Great effort mate - I echo your thoughts about giving up in the 20s/30s - I'm 29 and still do really enjoy several types of booze - but the number of nights where I go out and get absolutely bladdered on a boys night out have certainly decreased over the last few years.

Good to hear that you've got specific motivation through your daughter, that should help you stick off the grog.

In my 20s I didnt have much I cared about. I had a decent job I managed to hold down with no problems and a marriage that was not all that great.

This really allowed drinking to get out of control. Wehn I was single, drinking was always associated with fun and almost no consequences.

As I got older, it became associated with fun less and less and more associated with dealing with the stress of work and to numb the miserable marriage.

Then when I did screw up and do something stupid drink was always associated.

So it went from being fun to being a liability. I realzied I couldnt control it anymore when I met someone new and realized I had something to live for. Its all my own fault. I just abused alcohol way too much.

I echo someone elses point. Alcohol is apwerful drug if you abuse it.

[Rusty]

yeah, she went back to her mother yesterday.

Good luck with the next few days you don't have her then mate.

[Rusty]

In my 20s I didnt have much I cared about. I had a decent job I managed to hold down with no problems and a marriage that was not all that great.

This really allowed drinking to get out of control. Wehn I was single, drinking was always associated with fun and almost no consequences.

As I got older, it became associated with fun less and less and more associated with dealing with the stress of work and to numb the miserable marriage.

Then when I did screw up and do something stupid drink was always associated.

So it went from being fun to being a liability. I realzied I couldnt control it anymore when I met someone new and realized I had something to live for. Its all my own fault. I just abused alcohol way too much.

I echo someone elses point. Alcohol is apwerful drug if you abuse it.

I think that sums it up quite a lot - having something you really care about (family, kids, job etc) can really put it into focus.

I had the same thing with smoking (and would imagine I will have it with booze at some point) - when I got together with my current girl I realised that smoking was actually ridiculous and something I would definitely be better off without.

Once I made that decision, quitting was an absolute breeze and it allowed me to concentrate on enjoying other things in life.

Hope you keep going well with it mate!

[And Could He Play]

bevvied now, first time in a week, so its an improvement.

[Rusty]

bevvied now, first time in a week, so its an improvement.

IMHO proving to yourself that you can do a week without getting smashed is a good starting point - the key thing is to put it in context and not think "ah well I got boozed up once so may as well keep on getting hammered".

After this session, try and plan out the next week so that you'll have things to keep you off the grog - some nights I guess you'll have your daughter, for the other nights maybe plan something (gym, going out to the movies or something). That way it won't seem like such a big deal, its not quite "one day at a time" but more like "one week at a time"

Good luck!

[Party Phil]

fucking bollocksed right now, goodnight xx

[AndyInVA]

bevvied now, first time in a week, so its an improvement.

I honestly see that as a good thing

going cold turkey is extremely hard

if you can control your alchohol and not have it as a crutch in your life, I think thats great

well done

[And Could He Play]

I honestly see that as a good thing

going cold turkey is extremely hard

if you can control your alchohol and not have it as a crutch in your life, I think thats great

well done

on it again tonight, but got the baby for three days from tommorow, so i reckon i've done well.

[AndyInVA]

on it again tonight, but got the baby for three days from tommorow, so i reckon i've done well.

well done mate

I did that for a while, I would get blasted when the wife went down to her mums for the day every other Sunday

couldn't even control that though in the end as I would be absolutely passed out on the sofa whe she got home half the time

[And Could He Play]

i'm down to two days a week now, although some might not agree, i think its a massive improvement. i'm rotten drunk now but i am trying. hard work.

[AndyInVA]

i'm down to two days a week now, although some might not agree, i think its a massive improvement. i'm rotten drunk now but i am trying. hard work.

the only people that don't think its an improvement are those that dont understand addiction

addiction is pretty hard to get out of

just go to bed mate

new day tomorrow

[And Could He Play]

cheers mate, taking the baby the grotto tomorrow, i'll be sober  for at least three days. xmas is gonna be a challenge but ill get through it

[jason42]

cheers mate, taking the baby the grotto tomorrow, i'll be sober  for at least three days. xmas is gonna be a challenge but ill get through it

Could you try and work something out where you have your little girl every evening for a couple of weeks which would give you that few weeks without drinking? I know that is asking a hell of a lot but it could make a big difference...

[Rusty]

i'm down to two days a week now, although some might not agree, i think its a massive improvement. i'm rotten drunk now but i am trying. hard work.

Ignore anyone who says its not an improvement - it most definitely is. Personally I think it is a lot more manageably to break it down into a series of smaller steps - cut down first and then gradually you can lower your booze consumption.

I think trying to cut it out completely in one go is a much bigger psychological barrier to break through.

Either way mate it will be hard, but the key thing  as you said is that you are trying and you keep at it - and there's always advice on hand in this thread.

[Jonathan Hall ☆☆☆☆☆☆]

Got to agree, i drink a hell of a lot but not enough for me to want a drink all the time, i also find it very very easy to quit for a month at a time when i think i need to. Usually try and do a month off after xmas (fucked this year as off to Cologne in a month) and as much of the summer as possible.

For ou to be able to go for days without touching any is quite impressive when normally you'd just crack open a bottle or can.

[Rusty]

cheers mate, taking the baby the grotto tomorrow, i'll be sober  for at least three days. xmas is gonna be a challenge but ill get through it

Hey mate just to say if you give your little one back today, good luck staying off the grog.

Good luck Harvest Fields as well, hope the added stress of the run-up to Xmas isn't causing you too much grief.

[And Could He Play]

Hey mate just to say if you give your little one back today, good luck staying off the grog.

Good luck Harvest Fields as well, hope the added stress of the run-up to Xmas isn't causing you too much grief.

Cheers for the support, actually been good this week (the baby went back to her mars on monday). having a DRINK tonight though, arranged night out. not leaving any drinks in the house for when i get home.

[And Could He Play]

Right , been out for a drink, found a couple of cans in the house ahhhhhhh. Seriously though i'm really cutting down. Am i kidding myself?  fuck knows.

[Rusty]

Right , been out for a drink, found a couple of cans in the house ahhhhhhh. Seriously though i'm really cutting down. Am i kidding myself?  fuck knows.

OK if you want to know if you have made a difference to your drinking habits then ask yourself this question:

How much did you drink on average per week a year ago, compared to how much you have drunk per week in the last month?