The questions you ask based on rationality are what countries where people brought up on observing, questioning, forming their own conclusions...should understand: don't apply as universal. Allow for the irrational aspect.
You deal with a person, it's not about what's fair, what is good for their family - peace, education etc. You first need to assess what's in their own mind, what's been put in, conditioned and how much is independent thought, to know are they even looking at quality.
I haven't lived among Palestinians, but I have had to assess and know, over the years, the environment, mentality, how information travels, how thinking is shaped on a weekly basis by the religious set-up in places like Indonesia, Malaysia, the economically relevant Middle East nations, to then help decide on the company's footprint in these places.
The succinct answer is the numbers to sustainably manage and grow a country are nowhere near enough in these places. What you end up with are two sections, strongly correlated to education and economic situation: one which has bought wholesale into the environment to explain away their shitty circumstances, will fanatically obey and press others to conform; and the other that is as precise, rational as you and me, and will exploit the former.
It doesn't matter what Israel does, only what the group in charge narrates.
Again, it's an issue of numbers. You will have people from a educationally, economically disadvantaged background in a religion centric area that can break through, analyse accurately but that's great for a human interest story, you need numbers to uplift a country. Not enough.
The solution, for me, after you clear out Hamas, ban religion in Palestine, take control of education, provide the necessities fully, wait a full generation. This generation is a write-off mentally.
And then find a solution to the location / area.
The US needs to cut Israel's military funding and Palestinian aid, withdraw. Not it's problem, hasn't been for years, just getting exploited at this point.