Topic: For REAL Relationship Issues. NOT your latest childish Tinder/Grindr FAIL!!!!!!!

[killer-heels]

Girls sure do like to turn things around on us guys don't they? She cheats on you, it's our fault for finding out about it. She doesn't reply to a text for hours, it's our fault for not reminding her to text back.

Maybe the mental ones.

[Red Genius]

Maybe the mental ones.

You not one then mate?

[Drinks Sangria]

She didn't want anything from you but to fuck you?

And you have a problem with that??

This was largely the response I was expecting, as it was the only one I got from my mates. It's got to a point where humping anything that moves isn't actually number one on my agenda, and I would have liked to have got to know her better beyond her calling me when she felt lonely. Personal growth eh? Suppose it's back to a few months of my room resembling the wreck of the Hesperus. Or something less gross.

Don't get me wrong, a few years ago I would have actually preferred that whole scenario to a relationship, but it felt like a distraction that was doing me no good. Plus, I'm not that keen on sneaking around with anyone who's involved with someone else.

[please, I have my reasons for it but...]

Thing is he wanted a relationship with her Mouth. Been in the same position myself , only to find out she was married with 2 kids  !!

Clooney, we've already seen that movie mate.

[Sir Harvest Fields]

Plus, I'm not that keen on sneaking around with anyone who's involved with someone else.

Is that you Bro ?

[Drinks Sangria]

Is that you Bro ?

Not managed to make the step up to married women yet lad.

[Sir Harvest Fields]

Lightweight

[Samie]

I could take the piss because life is pretty good at the moment  but knowing my luck karma will bite me in the arse so i aint going to do it.

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

I could take the piss because life is pretty good at the moment  but knowing my luck karma will bite me in the arse so i aint going to do it.

Does that mean I can take the piss out of you with no fear of backlash?

[Samie]

Does that mean I can take the piss out of you with no fear of backlash?

choose your words wisely young one.

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

choose your words wisely young one.

Your relationship advice is sub par and it is not missed by anyone.

[Samie]

Your relationship advice is sub par and it is not missed by anyone.

I didn't offer anyone relationship advice you clown.  I can just about tie my shoe laces you think I'm going to offer advice?

[Crosby Nick]

I didn't offer anyone relationship advice you clown.  I can just about tie my shoe laces you think I'm going to offer advice?

Wear velcro shoes?

[Sir Harvest Fields]

I didn't offer anyone relationship advice you clown.  I can just about tie my shoe laces you think I'm going to offer advice?

On tying laces?

[Samie]

Wear velcro shoes?

 

it's a metaphor but I'm sure you knew that already.

[Draex]

Maybe the mental ones.

All girls are mental! Most guys are tossers as well.

[Red Genius]

All girls are mental! Most guys are tossers as well.

but we are all wankers

[Draex]

but we are all wankers

That's about the long and the short of it (for some unfortunates)

[lauz]

This was largely the response I was expecting, as it was the only one I got from my mates. It's got to a point where humping anything that moves isn't actually number one on my agenda, and I would have liked to have got to know her better beyond her calling me when she felt lonely. Personal growth eh? Suppose it's back to a few months of my room resembling the wreck of the Hesperus. Or something less gross.

Don't get me wrong, a few years ago I would have actually preferred that whole scenario to a relationship, but it felt like a distraction that was doing me no good. Plus, I'm not that keen on sneaking around with anyone who's involved with someone else.

Have you contacted her bf (if you know his name) to tell him? Something similar happened to me a couple of years ago and everyday I regret not telling his girlfriend what he was up to behind her back, but I think for me 3 years has gone by so I have no reason to message her...as yet.

[CHOPPER]

Me bird is getting on me tits.




I fucking hate foreplay.

[Roady]

well looks like I am in the singles club again! women. Seriously a fucking nightmare just cant figure the fuckers out at all.

[Drinks Sangria]

Have you contacted her bf (if you know his name) to tell him? Something similar happened to me a couple of years ago and everyday I regret not telling his girlfriend what he was up to behind her back, but I think for me 3 years has gone by so I have no reason to message her...as yet.

Nah, and I don't really see a reason to do so. Yes, it's a bit harsh that she's fucked around behind his back but I don't really feel that I should be the one responsible to tell him. Doubt he'd greet me telling him I'd been giving it to his missus several times a week too kindly either. Their relationship is already fucked, and I'm not sure it should be on me to make him aware of that.

[Mouth]

Nah, and I don't really see a reason to do so. Yes, it's a bit harsh that she's fucked around behind his back but I don't really feel that I should be the one responsible to tell him. Doubt he'd greet me telling him I'd been giving it to his missus several times a week too kindly either. Their relationship is already fucked, and I'm not sure it should be on me to make him aware of that.

He was probably hiding in the wardrobe.

[J-Mc-]

Nah, and I don't really see a reason to do so. Yes, it's a bit harsh that she's fucked around behind his back but I don't really feel that I should be the one responsible to tell him. Doubt he'd greet me telling him I'd been giving it to his missus several times a week too kindly either. Their relationship is already fucked, and I'm not sure it should be on me to make him aware of that.

to be honest mate, if you tell him straight up, tell him you didn't know, i think he'd obviously be pissed off with you but at the same time, grateful that he knows what a cheating twat she is.

[lauz]

You sure? If my boyfriend was playing away behind my back I would want to be told, as long as you tld the truth and say you didn't realise etc he might not be angry,as you aren't the one to blame.

[TepidT2O]

Last page of this thread is absolute comedy gold..


Cheers chaps!

Tantric .....

[J-Mc-]

Or maybe he already knows and their relationship isn't monogamous? Truth is, none of us know the two people involved and every relationship is different. Not really anyone else's place to make judgments on what is right or wrong according to their own expectations of a relationship.

In a thread titled relationship issues with a vague idea of what's happened going from a post, people are of course going to make judgements.

If it was monogamous then surely she'd have told him from the start instead of hiding it? If it's indeed monogamous and she is good looking as he says then she'd have a number of lads after her and wouldn't have told him about her fella as she could have just moved on from him and found someone else to get in bed.

[Mouth]

Or maybe he already knows and their relationship isn't monogamous? Truth is, none of us know the two people involved and every relationship is different. Not really anyone else's place to make judgments on what is right or wrong according to their own expectations of a relationship.

Exactly, like I said he was obviously hiding in the wardrobe watching and yanking it like a bell ringer on speed.

[Brian Blessed]

In a thread titled relationship issues with a vague idea of what's happened going from a post, people are of course going to make judgements.

If it was monogamous then surely she'd have told him from the start instead of hiding it? If it's indeed monogamous and she is good looking as he says then she'd have a number of lads after her and wouldn't have told him about her fella as she could have just moved on from him and found someone else to get in bed.

but what if it's monogamous?

[Drinks Sangria]

Or maybe he already knows and their relationship isn't monogamous? Truth is, none of us know the two people involved and every relationship is different. Not really anyone else's place to make judgments on what is right or wrong according to their own expectations of a relationship.

No, they're monogamous. Well, he is anyway. And he thinks she is.

You sure? If my boyfriend was playing away behind my back I would want to be told, as long as you tld the truth and say you didn't realise etc he might not be angry,as you aren't the one to blame.

It's not that I'm scared of him or that I purposefully want to hurt him. I just don't see how it's my responsibility to tell him. If that makes me a bastard then so be it, I suppose.

Exactly, like I said he was obviously hiding in the wardrobe watching and yanking it like a bell ringer on speed.

Think he had a camera too. There was a slight whirring sound and I've never been in such a well-lit bedroom.

[JerseyKloppite]

What, you slipped, tripped and it just fell into your hands?

I liked that bit of the story

I found dodgy texts/emails on an ex's phone once. I regret that I looked as it was an invasion of her privacy (which she duly complained about) but they clearly showed she was having some sort of relationship with another guy. She eventually admitted it too. By the time you're checking texts on people's phones to see if they're cheating you're either an extremely paranoid person of you don't trust your other half anyway.

[AB LFC]

I liked that bit of the story

I found dodgy texts/emails on an ex's phone once. I regret that I looked as it was an invasion of her privacy (which she duly complained about) but they clearly showed she was having some sort of relationship with another guy. She eventually admitted it too. By the time you're checking texts on people's phones to see if they're cheating you're either an extremely paranoid person of you don't trust your other half anyway.

I don't think it's paranoia at all. People check their partner's phones for just that reason, never know if they're fooling around behind your back. Me and my ex used to go through each others phones but it actually started with when I once caught her texting some guy, arranging to meet him and stuff. Confronted her and she felt guilty as hell about it all. If your partner refuses to let you look at their phone, end it. No other way around it.

[Malaysian Kopite]

I don't think it's paranoia at all. People check their partner's phones for just that reason, never know if they're fooling around behind your back. Me and my ex used to go through each others phones but it actually started with when I once caught her texting some guy, arranging to meet him and stuff. Confronted her and she felt guilty as hell about it all. If your partner refuses to let you look at their phone, end it. No other way around it.

Wut?

[killer-heels]

I don't think it's paranoia at all. People check their partner's phones for just that reason, never know if they're fooling around behind your back. Me and my ex used to go through each others phones but it actually started with when I once caught her texting some guy, arranging to meet him and stuff. Confronted her and she felt guilty as hell about it all. If your partner refuses to let you look at their phone, end it. No other way around it.

[Mouth]

Show us your papers please, herr Rhi!

[Draex]

I don't think it's paranoia at all. People check their partner's phones for just that reason, never know if they're fooling around behind your back. Me and my ex used to go through each others phones but it actually started with when I once caught her texting some guy, arranging to meet him and stuff. Confronted her and she felt guilty as hell about it all. If your partner refuses to let you look at their phone, end it. No other way around it.

Trust is the backbone of any successfull relationship, if you don't feel you have it unconditionally you shouldn't be in that relationship.

[Motty]

Trust is the backbone of any successfull relationship, if you don't feel you have it unconditionally you shouldn't be in that relationship.

is right
It's never going to last if you have to keep worrying everytime she goes out or each beep of her phone

[Roady]

me and my mrs split up yesterday. Still raw and fucking horrible as she sits directly behind me in work. Already fellas sniffing around her like druggies.Pissing me off.Not her fault that though I guess and in fairness shes been respectful.Its starting to turn nasty though and cant be arsed with that, shes started showing a mad side on text messages etc. Fucking mental they are. the lot of them. looking forward to a weekend on the piss with my mates and forgetting all about it to be honest.Work is fucking unbearable

[shockwave_dave]

me and my mrs split up yesterday. Still raw and fucking horrible as she sits directly behind me in work. Already fellas sniffing around her like druggies.Pissing me off.Not her fault that though I guess and in fairness shes been respectful.Its starting to turn nasty though and cant be arsed with that, shes started showing a mad side on text messages etc. Fucking mental they are. the lot of them. looking forward to a weekend on the piss with my mates and forgetting all about it to be honest.Work is fucking unbearable

Nightmare scenario Roady. If it's one golden rule i have, its not to get involved with anyone from work. Difficult if there's ever a fall out or break up. Ignore it as best you can

[Barneylfc∗]

me and my mrs split up yesterday. Still raw and fucking horrible as she sits directly behind me in work. Already fellas sniffing around her like druggies.Pissing me off.Not her fault that though I guess and in fairness shes been respectful.Its starting to turn nasty though and cant be arsed with that, shes started showing a mad side on text messages etc. Fucking mental they are. the lot of them. looking forward to a weekend on the piss with my mates and forgetting all about it to be honest.Work is fucking unbearable

Them's the perils of dipping your dick in company ink.