Author Topic: My mum is misremembering things, acting very strange, making things up... (Read 8676 times)

mattD · « **Reply #120 on:** January 22, 2023, 10:17:45 pm »

Sorry to hear this mate, it's one of those traumatic situations we all experience with loved ones, I know I have.

All I can say is you are not alone mate, and I'm sending you all my best wishes. Thinking of you and take care.

kj999 · « **Reply #121 on:** January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm »

Mum passed away last night.

it seems she got an infection during the first round of chemo. It just took over her body so fast, leading to rapid organ failure.

At least she didn't suffer too much.

Thank you for all your kind words throughout this RAWKers

Wabaloolah · « **Reply #122 on:** January 22, 2023, 11:30:59 pm »

Quote from: kj999 on January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm

Mum passed away last night.

it seems she got an infection during the first round of chemo. It just took over her body so fast, leading to rapid organ failure.

At least she didn't suffer too much.

Thank you for all your kind words throughout this RAWKers

aw bloody hell, I'm so sorry to hear that mate. RIP to your Mum and my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time for you all

duvva 💅 · « **Reply #123 on:** January 22, 2023, 11:38:47 pm »

That’s brutal, I’m so sorry for your loss.

Sending all my love to you and your family. It sounds like you have a good network of friends and family but I’m sure I speak for all - you know your RAWK friends are here if you need us

Crosby Nick · « **Reply #124 on:** January 22, 2023, 11:47:27 pm »

So sorry to read that. Take care.

Son of Spion · « **Reply #125 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:03:56 am »

Ah no. That's so sad. 😢

I'm not sure I can find the words, so I'll just offer my condolences and say people are here for you if you need us.

Love to you and all your family.

RIP your beautiful Mum. ♥️

Chakan · « **Reply #126 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:48:34 am »

So sorry to hear KJ, really condolences to you and the family! As you say at least she didn't suffer and it was quick.

Thinking of you in this tough time.

RIP and may she truly rest in peace.

😢

John C · « **Reply #127 on:** January 23, 2023, 07:40:02 am »

Sincere condolences mate, that's terrible for you & your family.

The G in Gerrard · « **Reply #128 on:** January 23, 2023, 07:50:44 am »

Quote from: John C on January 23, 2023, 07:40:02 am

Sincere condolences mate, that's terrible for you & your family.

Slippers · « **Reply #129 on:** January 23, 2023, 08:08:14 am »

Ah no,that's awful.

Thoughts are with you and your family.

KillieRed · « **Reply #130 on:** January 23, 2023, 08:27:00 am »

Hi KJ,

So sorry for your loss.

ScottScott · « **Reply #131 on:** January 23, 2023, 08:31:00 am »

So sorry for your loss mate, absolutely heartbreaking and I hope you and your family are OK

redbyrdz · « **Reply #132 on:** January 23, 2023, 09:03:47 am »

So sorry kj. Look after yourself, and your family.

DelTrotter · « **Reply #133 on:** January 23, 2023, 09:10:52 am »

Really sorry for your loss kj, condolences to you and your family. Wish there was more I could say to help but we're around if you need to chat or anything! Take care mate.

El Lobo · « **Reply #134 on:** January 23, 2023, 09:24:48 am »

So sorry to hear mate, condolences to you and your family, Absolutely heartbreaking

I've been a good boy · « **Reply #135 on:** January 23, 2023, 09:25:04 am »

To go from completely healthy to this in just a few months is devastating

RIP

Grobbelrevell · « **Reply #136 on:** January 23, 2023, 10:18:58 am »

Quote from: kj999 on January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm

Oh mate, I'm truly sorry to read this.

I've been following this thread and hoping for your updates to bring positive news. My thoughts are with you, your dad and your sister at this dreadful time. It sounds like you have a good family around you, including your fiance, but as others have said, if you ever want to unload somewhere else, there are plenty here for you and willing to listen. Speaking personally, I often find it easier to talk to people that are separated a little bit from things and over the years, RAWK has been unbelievable in terms of providing a forum to open up in some of my darkest moments, and for some amazing people to offer objective advice, or even just an ear to listen. I'm more than happy to chat if you ever needed to (I'm in Perth these days, so on the same time zone as you as well, I think).

Look after yourself, mate.

.adam · « **Reply #137 on:** January 23, 2023, 10:24:15 am »

Very sorry to hear of your loss, mate.

reddebs · « **Reply #138 on:** January 23, 2023, 11:30:59 am »

So sorry to read this devastating news kj condolences to you and your family.

As others have said, we're all here for you if you need us.

RIP 💔

AlphaDelta · « **Reply #139 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:08:42 pm »

Truly gutted for you mate

I've been in this place and all I can say is look after yourself, use your friends and those closest to you.

Take care, YNWA

paulrazor · « **Reply #140 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:34:48 pm »

I have only just seen this thread and paid a visit as my Dad has dementia and it sounded like this first off

Gone through all the posts and all I can say it I am so sorry

Nobby Reserve · « **Reply #141 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:49:09 pm »

Quote from: kj999 on January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm

Mum passed away last night.

it seems she got an infection during the first round of chemo. It just took over her body so fast, leading to rapid organ failure.

At least she didn't suffer too much.

Thank you for all your kind words throughout this RAWKers

Condolences, KJ. Take care, mate.

red_lfc_costello · « **Reply #142 on:** January 23, 2023, 12:59:14 pm »

So sorry mate. RIP

ChaChaMooMoo · « **Reply #143 on:** January 23, 2023, 01:06:50 pm »

Sorry to hear that mate.
Our deepest and warm condolences to the family.

Hazell · « **Reply #144 on:** January 23, 2023, 01:48:17 pm »

So sorry to hear that mate. Deepest sympathies to your and your family.

Ray K · « **Reply #145 on:** January 23, 2023, 02:07:00 pm »

Oh I'm so so sorry to hear that KJ. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Saltashscouse · « **Reply #146 on:** January 23, 2023, 02:42:58 pm »

Quote from: kj999 on January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm

Mum passed away last night.

it seems she got an infection during the first round of chemo. It just took over her body so fast, leading to rapid organ failure.

At least she didn't suffer too much.

Thank you for all your kind words throughout this RAWKers

Really sorry to hear this KJ i really feel for you mate .

There are no words that take away the grief and pain but remember YNWA

God's Left Peg · « **Reply #147 on:** January 23, 2023, 08:37:17 pm »

Been following your story KJ and am truly truly gutted for you.

Lost my mum nearly 2 years ago to juvenile dementia and it's like having your heart ripped out.

So very sorry for your loss.

Take care pal. YNWA.

spen71 · « **Reply #148 on:** January 23, 2023, 08:45:27 pm »

So sorry for your loss mate.

If you fancy a chat PM me. I lost both parents within a year 2020/21, so I know how the feeling is

kj999 · « **Reply #149 on:** January 24, 2023, 04:37:05 am »

Thank you everyone. Your kind words and thoughts are very helpful.
Now into the grieving process.
I never expected to be able to deal with losing my mum and I know it's early days but I just don't know what to do. Feel hollow, feel pain, feel sick, feel angry, feel sad.

peelyon · « **Reply #150 on:** January 24, 2023, 07:30:16 am »

Quote from: kj999 on January 22, 2023, 11:28:58 pm

Mum passed away last night.

it seems she got an infection during the first round of chemo. It just took over her body so fast, leading to rapid organ failure.

At least she didn't suffer too much.

Thank you for all your kind words throughout this RAWKers

So sorry for your loss. Hold onto that memory of you giving her that hug. I'm glad she didn't suffer.

reddebs · « **Reply #151 on:** January 24, 2023, 08:21:24 am »

Quote from: kj999 on January 24, 2023, 04:37:05 am

Thank you everyone. Your kind words and thoughts are very helpful.
Now into the grieving process.
I never expected to be able to deal with losing my mum and I know it's early days but I just don't know what to do. Feel hollow, feel pain, feel sick, feel angry, feel sad.

There is no right or wrong way mate, just your way.

All those feelings and others are perfectly normal. Some will be stronger than others, some will come, go, then come again.

There's no time frame either and there's usually no warnings as to when you'll cry or shout or shut yourself away. Don't judge yourself or others if they seem to be dealing with it differently.

Allow yourself to feel them all but take care of yourself and your family too.

Time does heal but nobody knows how long that'll take 😔

JerseyKloppite · « **Reply #152 on:** January 24, 2023, 09:15:07 am »

So sorry for your loss KJ. It's hard to conceive of something so devastating happening so quickly. Life can be terribly unfair.

Remember all the good times you shared and find support in your family, they're the only ones who really know what you're going through right now.

liverbloke · « **Reply #153 on:** January 24, 2023, 09:15:13 am »

just catching up on this - sorry to hear that mate that's really dreadful news

my condolences to you and your family

Dubred · « **Reply #154 on:** January 24, 2023, 12:28:19 pm »

Take care of yourself KJ.

Son of Spion · « **Reply #155 on:** January 24, 2023, 02:03:53 pm »

Quote from: kj999 on January 24, 2023, 04:37:05 am

Thank you everyone. Your kind words and thoughts are very helpful.
Now into the grieving process.
I never expected to be able to deal with losing my mum and I know it's early days but I just don't know what to do. Feel hollow, feel pain, feel sick, feel angry, feel sad.

As Debbs has said, all those feelings are normal. All I would suggest is not trying to fight against your feelings. It's better to accept them being a normal reaction to having your world turned upside down and inside out, then making room for them.

Making room for what comes up, and being willing to experience it despite the pain that brings, will see you work through your grief in a healthy way.

We all deal with grief in our own way. Yes, do make room for the feelings and emotions that come with it because they are part of the normal and natural process, but on a day-to-day basis, if/when you need to cry, do so. If you don't feel the need to cry, then fine. If you need to sleep 20 hours straight, do so. if you want to stay busy, do so. It's your process, and as long as you're not trying to block it all out in a dysfunctional way, just do what feels right for you.

You'll work your way through this, so try to trust in yourself and trust in your process.

Love to you. ♥️

kj999 · « **Reply #156 on:** February 15, 2023, 03:51:16 pm »

Today was Mum's cremation. It was a completely private, non-attended event. This was her wish, and Dad's.
We had an online event last Friday whereby people posted on mum's Facebook wall a tribute, gathered with a few friends if they wished,took some photos, and said goodbye in their own way. It was lovely to see pics and tribultes from all over the place. We already told everyone that mum's cremation would be a completely private, non-attended event. It was at 8.30am this morning. I simply lit a candle, sat in my garden in Bali, held my fiancee and my cat (my mum loved my cat, Kolo, she called him her 'Grandcat' coz I don't have any kids...) sang YNWA and then had a minutes silence, the three of us, thousands of miles away... and said our final goodbye.

Rest in Peace, Mum.
Forever in our hearts.

.adam · « **Reply #157 on:** February 15, 2023, 04:06:54 pm »

Sending much love your way mate. YNWA and RIP to your Mum.

Saltashscouse · « **Reply #158 on:** February 15, 2023, 04:07:32 pm »

Thinking of you mate , no words can ease your grief and pain but things get a little easier as life goes on .
YNWA is never more apt :'(

El Lobo · « **Reply #159 on:** February 15, 2023, 04:07:39 pm »

Sounds like she had the send-off she wanted