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Hi mate,
You said that you
thought you were doing ok, but I think the reality is that considering what you have gone through, and continue to go through, you
are doing ok.
Getting emotional from time to time is absolutely normal and quite healthy given the circumstances, because it's an outlet for your grief. I remember when you lost your mum, and I remember you telling us how close you were to her. Mate, you are in the process of adapting to life-changing circumstances. This is not easy. As you said, the house that was once warm and full of the light your mum brought into your life, now feels cold and dark. All that is bound to get to you.
I do hope your call to the Samaritans was helpful in some way. In the past I called them a number of times. One night I was on until dawn and, in all honesty, just having that one person to talk to saved my life that night. Quite often, we sit alone with our pain and grief, but I believe that reaching out for support can be useful and helpful. I hope it was helpful for you too.
In itself, loss and the grief that follows means an awful lot of adjusting, adapting and very uncomfortable change. For you, though, there was the added upheaval of trying to keep the family roof over your head too. Almost another loss there for you to deal with, and no end of worry. What I'm saying is your world has taken a direct tactical nuke, and the fall-out from that takes a lot of time to settle and be processed. You are still in the process of working your way through it and coming to terms with things. In short, it's no surprise that you feel like you currently do.
I'm sure the tooth is a small issue in the scheme of what you are dealing with, but when you are down, small things can feel massive. The old story tells us it wasn't the weight of the world that broke the camel's back. What saw him off was the final, tiny straw. My point being that when you are feeling vulnerable, even the tiny things can get to you. Mind you, I'd be upset at the loss of a front tooth too, especially with the complications you've had. I was gutted some years ago when I lost two teeth to abscess and was left with a gap, and that's not even in the front. Personally, I'd be asking the dentist about getting a bridge made if I were in your position, as they are permanent. If you pay for your treatment on the NHS a bridge will cost you around £269.30, which is pricey, but maybe well worth paying.
I can't even imagine how I'd have coped in your situation over this past year. You've had to deal with so much, but you
are dealing with it, you
are coping and you
are adapting, and probably a lot better than you give yourself credit for. If you feel you do need extra support though, I'd definitely use the Samaritans again if it helps, and maybe look to get yourself some counselling sessions. Just having an outlet for your feelings and emotions can help you process them a little easier.
Take care of yourself. I wish you all the very best.