Someone said something to me the other day which pretty much hit the nail on the head for me - "the price of ambition is sanity".
I went to university when I was 18 and quit after 6 months because something inside me said it wasn't the route for me. I joined a company when I left which is called Cobra where they basically promise you that following a program, you can end up owning your own marketing business. It was door to door sales with no basic salary and I got suckered into it for 9 months. I did pretty well and realised again, that this wasn't the route for me in life. 2 months after, I got offered a job working for a financial brokerage in Dubai so I moved out there and lived their for 7/8 months. Again, I didn't enjoy it and something told me that it wasn't the place for me. I left in January 2010.
I'm quite an ambitious person and I hate standing still in life. I'm also a perfectionist with absolutely everything and "suffer" mildly from OCD. Being a perfectionist makes me want to be perfect in the way I look, act, how people perceive and how I approach my job. And we all know nobody is going to be perfect. I was unemployed in 2010 for 8 months because I just couldn't find anything so moved to London for a job where I've been working since September. While I was unemployed, I had an epiphany and realised what I wanna do with my life and am now chasing that. I know this is the right choice because it feels a lot different to before.
Anyway, I guess I've been most frustrated with life since the time I came back from Dubai. It stretches longer than that though. In chasing all these ambitions and not living a "normal" student life like most of the people my age so a lot of my friends have dropped off the map which, in the grand scheme of things, I don't mind because they have cleared any distractions for me.
I don't know where this is leading so I'll cut to the chase. I don't drink alcohol so I don't go out clubbing or anything. If I go to the pub after work with some people on a Friday, it's only for a few hours until they all get drunk and I can't stand it anymore. As I said, I moved to London in September and most of my time outside of work has been slowly moulding my craft to chase my ambitions (which are going to kick off in the next couple of months). I don't want to say what it entails, I believe I'll be successful in it, but I want it to remain low key for now. I will say though that it partly involves writing.
Anyway, for the first month or two of being in London, I would race home, do some writing, go to bed, wake up, go to work and repeat. This helps me keep focused on what I want to achieve and it distracts me from any negative emotions I have. All this kind of drained away since around December time.
Now, I'm going to work looking forward to getting away from that place, only to come home and sit around doing nothing looking forward to going to work to get out of the apartment. My problem is more frustration than depression as I know I've had to be patient and continue to be patient for a little while longer.
It may not sound as much but from where I am, I look around me at people I know or in public and feel like an outsider. I feel like if I go on to facebook and see all my former school mates and their friend groups and indeed my own friends who I barely know now, I'm standing on the outside looking into a room with a party going on inside that I can't be part of. I despise where I work because it's a sales job and I'm not a salesperson. I'm good at sales, but it doesn't fit into my personality at all and I constantly seethe at the people around me and if I have a bad day, like today, then I analyse everything much, much more than I should.
For example, I was sitting at work in a bit of a mood looking forward to going home. Then I realised I would go home, eat, go on the internet for a couple of hours and then come back to work the next day and everything would carry on. I was sitting on the train back tonight questioning my own existence and asking myself what the point is in going on. I'm not suicidal and wouldn't ever contemplate it, but sometimes I wish I could just disappear. I hold on to a beacon of light in my ambition and know that I'll be successful in what I'm pursuing and of that, I have no doubt, but sometimes like today when I'm drained physically and emotionally, I don't understand what the point is. I lose that hope and ambition and don't get why I do what I do. My weekends are mostly spent at home watching the football or films with my mate, or surfing the internet or whatever. Until I'm working on what I need to be then I'm going to continue being this way. I fucking hate it. I pride myself in being a strong person mentally but this is really fucking my head up. I don't have the motivation to write. I push myself into doing some but it comes out all shit because I can't concentrate and am not "in the zone" enough to be bothered so I stop.
I know that there are probably some simple solutions to this like going out and meeting new people, trying to reacquaint myself with others, get involved with people from work and all that. I've tried it and didn't like it. Not because I'm a hermit or anything, I'm actually a pretty outgoing person, but because I see no point in doing it. It won't add value to my life and won't help my career. I've had offers from girls to go out and stuff, I've tried getting close to someone but I'm just too up and down for anything to work. My life actually depends on fulfilling what I want to fulfil because there's nothing else for me other than that. I can't picture myself in any other scenario and each day I'm not working towards fulfilling it, it eats away at me and I get more and more pissed off and frustrated about the situation I'm in.
I know it's only a couple of months until I'm on track. Right now, I'm in a massive rut. I can't make any close friends because they don't think on the same level I do. I don't mean that to sound arrogant but I have an assurance with myself with what I'm going to achieve that people don't understand. I'm quite flippant in small matters in life that I can push aside with ease that are a big deal to others than I can't get myself involved in because it hurts other people.
I haven't reread this to see if it makes sense and I'm not going to. I just let things flow out of my head and I feel like writing a lot more than this because it barely feels like I've scratched the surface (to coin a cliche). There are some things written in this thread which seem like a massive deal in life which I can't comprehend ever going through and respect the strength of some of you. I was hesitant to write this as you can tell from my earlier post because I didn't want to come across as some whiny, arrogant, spoiled kid or something when others are going through a lot more than me. That's as much as I can think of right now in a nutshell.