Topic: Cancer

[Wabaloolah]

Found my wife unconscious on the floor Tuesday night. Results today shows that she has a tumour in her brain. We have two daughters aged six and eight.
We were also told that she will likely make a recovery after surgery, but you never know before everything is done. After reading through some pages in this thread, I realise that we are far better off, for now, than many others. But still, it's a difficult situation. My wife is usually the strong on, the one of us who keeps calm whereas I always think worst-case scenarios. It's difficult seeing her this vulnerable.

I'm not fishing for sympathy here, my friends. I'm not a prolific poster but I've been a Rawkite for many years. This place feels like home and I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

bloody hell mate, that must have been a hell of a shock for you, fingers crossed that she beats this bastard disease

[Crosby Nick]

Best of luck to your wife, and to you and your family dalarr.

And very sorry to read that Terry.

[jillcwhomever]

Found my wife unconscious on the floor Tuesday night. Results today shows that she has a tumour in her brain. We have two daughters aged six and eight.
We were also told that she will likely make a recovery after surgery, but you never know before everything is done. After reading through some pages in this thread, I realise that we are far better off, for now, than many others. But still, it's a difficult situation. My wife is usually the strong on, the one of us who keeps calm whereas I always think worst-case scenarios. It's difficult seeing her this vulnerable.

I'm not fishing for sympathy here, my friends. I'm not a prolific poster but I've been a Rawkite for many years. This place feels like home and I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

So sorry to hear about this, it must have been a terrible shock for everyone. The thing is they can do miracles with cancer treatment now. All you can do is take each day as it comes and take some inspiration from people on here who have recovered. I have everything crossed for your wife. Oh and use this thread as a shelter to come to when you're finding it difficult.

[fowlermagic]

Mum was just diagnosed with Stage 4 and riddled with it unfortunately but at 88 she has had a great run and dodged a few bullets over the years as was a very heavy smoker. Trying to deal with the news but you get to that age something is going to get you as every year is a huge bonus. Will miss her when the day comes but right now she's in good form. What have you done if in a similar boat as trying to spend more time with her just reminiscing. Want to catch a few chats about her life, meeting Dad etc on video. Just printed out a great pic of their wedding day n got her to sign it with love from her to all the family. Any suggestions are welcome. 💕

[reddebs]

Mum was just diagnosed with Stage 4 and riddled with it unfortunately but at 88 she has had a great run and dodged a few bullets over the years as was a very heavy smoker. Trying to deal with the news but you get to that age something is going to get you as every year is a huge bonus. Will miss her when the day comes but right now she's in good form. What have you done if in a similar boat as trying to spend more time with her just reminiscing. Want to catch a few chats about her life, meeting Dad etc on video. Just printed out a great pic of their wedding day n got her to sign it with love from her to all the family. Any suggestions are welcome. 💕

Sorry to hear that but as you say every bit of time now is a bonus. 

Find out if there's any bucket list type things she'd like to do and try your best to help her tick them off.

Other than that just enjoy whatever time you can with her 👍

[Terry de Niro]

Mum was just diagnosed with Stage 4 and riddled with it unfortunately but at 88 she has had a great run and dodged a few bullets over the years as was a very heavy smoker. Trying to deal with the news but you get to that age something is going to get you as every year is a huge bonus. Will miss her when the day comes but right now she's in good form. What have you done if in a similar boat as trying to spend more time with her just reminiscing. Want to catch a few chats about her life, meeting Dad etc on video. Just printed out a great pic of their wedding day n got her to sign it with love from her to all the family. Any suggestions are welcome. 💕

So sorry to hear this, and what Debs said is spot on.

Sorry to hear that but as you say every bit of time now is a bonus. 

Find out if there's any bucket list type things she'd like to do and try your best to help her tick them off.

Other than that just enjoy whatever time you can with her 👍

[jillcwhomever]

Mum was just diagnosed with Stage 4 and riddled with it unfortunately but at 88 she has had a great run and dodged a few bullets over the years as was a very heavy smoker. Trying to deal with the news but you get to that age something is going to get you as every year is a huge bonus. Will miss her when the day comes but right now she's in good form. What have you done if in a similar boat as trying to spend more time with her just reminiscing. Want to catch a few chats about her life, meeting Dad etc on video. Just printed out a great pic of their wedding day n got her to sign it with love from her to all the family. Any suggestions are welcome. 💕

So sorry to hear this, but you are absolutely right about just making the most of her time left. They wouldn't operate on my mum when she had cancer so we just made her life as comfortable as we could. Speaking with her about the past is a wonderful way to share whatever time is left, I would organise a favourite music night for my mum where I would play all her favourite records and like your's she was in good form and would lap it up. See if you can take her out from time to time, see a sunset or just go to a favourite place, just to break up the boredom. I would also encourage her to spend time at a hospice, as I found with my mum she enjoyed her day away from us, as I suspect some of the time she was not wanting to show her pain. It's a break for her as well as you, my mum loved the one at Clatterbridge and she seemed to really blossom there. Accept help as well from the McMillan nurses, the one we had was wonderful became like a member of the family to us and was someone we could talk too about anything that bothered us. As well as look after your mum, listen to your own needs as well, that is so important. I wish you the best of luck in this. 

[fowlermagic]

Thanks so much for everything 💕great advice is always welcome as we are trying to get a handle on it all. Im with her every day and the rest of the family are stopping by for a good old chat most days too. Going to take her and her best friend out for a drink in the next week or so and hopefully enjoy a good time together as I do my version of Driving Ms Daisy with two ladies in their 80s. We will have as much fun as possible until the day she goes. There will be tears mixed in with laughter. Life

[pazcom]

Mum was just diagnosed with Stage 4 and riddled with it unfortunately but at 88 she has had a great run and dodged a few bullets over the years as was a very heavy smoker. Trying to deal with the news but you get to that age something is going to get you as every year is a huge bonus. Will miss her when the day comes but right now she's in good form. What have you done if in a similar boat as trying to spend more time with her just reminiscing. Want to catch a few chats about her life, meeting Dad etc on video. Just printed out a great pic of their wedding day n got her to sign it with love from her to all the family. Any suggestions are welcome. 💕

just spend as much time as you can with each other. My dad passed away from Prostate Cancer a few years ago and towards the end (last 6 months he was around) I went to Scotland to stay with him a few times, I'm in Essex, so not the easiest journey. But it was great to spend quality time with him. We talked about our families, stories from the past and hopes for the future. We laughed and we cried together.

[Fitzy.]

Found my wife unconscious on the floor Tuesday night. Results today shows that she has a tumour in her brain. We have two daughters aged six and eight.
We were also told that she will likely make a recovery after surgery, but you never know before everything is done. After reading through some pages in this thread, I realise that we are far better off, for now, than many others. But still, it's a difficult situation. My wife is usually the strong on, the one of us who keeps calm whereas I always think worst-case scenarios. It's difficult seeing her this vulnerable.

I'm not fishing for sympathy here, my friends. I'm not a prolific poster but I've been a Rawkite for many years. This place feels like home and I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

All the best mate

[Fitzy.]

Sad for you. I guess she’ll want her loved ones around more than anything.

[Fitzy.]

After my leukaemia diagnosis in May…I was informed by the hospital this week that I’m no longer under close supervision so no more weekly visits. Just pop in once a month to get drugs.

NHS is incredible.

[Chakan]

Great to hear Fitzy! All the best

[jillcwhomever]

After my leukaemia diagnosis in May…I was informed by the hospital this week that I’m no longer under close supervision so no more weekly visits. Just pop in once a month to get drugs.

NHS is incredible.

Fantastic news, I am so pleased for you. 😀

[reddebs]

That's fantastic news Fitzy 👍

[Fitzy.]

Cheers guys!!

[mattD]

Found my wife unconscious on the floor Tuesday night. Results today shows that she has a tumour in her brain. We have two daughters aged six and eight.
We were also told that she will likely make a recovery after surgery, but you never know before everything is done. After reading through some pages in this thread, I realise that we are far better off, for now, than many others. But still, it's a difficult situation. My wife is usually the strong on, the one of us who keeps calm whereas I always think worst-case scenarios. It's difficult seeing her this vulnerable.

I'm not fishing for sympathy here, my friends. I'm not a prolific poster but I've been a Rawkite for many years. This place feels like home and I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

Sorry to hear this mate. Writing this down on here helps, such experiences are most painful and isolating in life.

You're not alone in those feelings of yours, this place is a great place for kind empathetic folk as I've found, hope it makes you feel a little less lonely.

[John C]

The contrasting situations of this disease.
Dalarr, our thoughts are with you & your wife mate.
Great news for you Fitzy.
Everyone keep fighting.

[Fitzy.]

The contrasting situations of this disease.
Dalarr, our thoughts are with you & your wife mate.
Great news for you Fitzy.
Everyone keep fighting.

Cheers John.

Yeah, it’s a crapshoot

[Hedley Lamarr]

Got told last night that my Dad has lung cancer, he's typically Blasé about it, he's a tough bugger, survived a brain tumour, a nasty crash, all sorts he just keeps going.  My mum is a mess though as is my sister, I don't think I've processed things, me and my brother are looking at things logically with what some people might consider a sort of coldness, it's not that though, he's my best friend, it's just how I cope with stuff, I'm calculating when I need to talk to my kids, my sister's kids (she hasn't told them, but they'll definitely know something is up), a mix of confusion and denial I think.

He's 70 now and smoked for 50 of those years, I guess you can't do that sort of shite and get away with it.

[Fitzy.]

Got told last night that my Dad has lung cancer, he's typically Blasé about it, he's a tough bugger, survived a brain tumour, a nasty crash, all sorts he just keeps going.  My mum is a mess though as is my sister, I don't think I've processed things, me and my brother are looking at things logically with what some people might consider a sort of coldness, it's not that though, he's my best friend, it's just how I cope with stuff, I'm calculating when I need to talk to my kids, my sister's kids (she hasn't told them, but they'll definitely know something is up), a mix of confusion and denial I think.

He's 70 now and smoked for 50 of those years, I guess you can't do that sort of shite and get away with it.

Sorry to hear that mate. He sounds like a fighter!!

[fowlermagic]

Amazing how many families go through this every day. Madness as hopefully one day medical advances will crush 99% of cases. Until then we will see love ones go through awful suffering. Sending you all a huge hug today.

[Slippers]

Mr Slippers' mum has been receiving treatment for bladder cancer for almost a year,she had a scan earlier this month and they spotted something 'concerning' so she's had to have a biopsy this week.

Now we wait.

[Hedley Lamarr]

Sorry to hear that mate. He sounds like a fighter!!

Thank you.  He's basically lost his voice and gets a tad breathless but baring that he'd been relatively decent until today, he had a rough morning but managed to get some food down him and seems much brighter now.  We've told all the kids and they've been exceptional, my lad is a bit all over the place but they're as thick as thieves so it's understandable.  Consultant on Monday and I guess we'll all know where the land lies then, without doubt the toughest ten days of all our lives.  Surprising the people who step up though, I have friends that have known my dad twenty years, not so much as a text, others, such as one I've known less than two years has been amazing, took my mum shopping, brought food down.  When I get back up north tomorrow I'll be buying that chap a pint.

[Fitzy.]

Thank you.  He's basically lost his voice and gets a tad breathless but baring that he'd been relatively decent until today, he had a rough morning but managed to get some food down him and seems much brighter now.  We've told all the kids and they've been exceptional, my lad is a bit all over the place but they're as thick as thieves so it's understandable.  Consultant on Monday and I guess we'll all know where the land lies then, without doubt the toughest ten days of all our lives.  Surprising the people who step up though, I have friends that have known my dad twenty years, not so much as a text, others, such as one I've known less than two years has been amazing, took my mum shopping, brought food down.  When I get back up north tomorrow I'll be buying that chap a pint.

Great when mates step up. Very important.

[dalarr]

Thank you for the replies. This place is simply amazing. My thoughts go out to everyone in this thread.

Surgery went well, but unfortunately the tumour couldn't be completely removed. I lack the English words to describe this properly, but sadly, the tumour is "angry" and she has to go through the next phase of treatment. She's got cancer. Treatment will last for six weeks initially and she has to get this treatment in another city or maybe country. It's absurd and I really don't know what to say.

What I've learned so far is that this disease involves a lot of uncertainty and waiting. I have also learned that our friends and family are for real. We have gotten so much dinner and breakfast delivered by friends, that I cannot remember the last time I cooked!
My admiration for my wife has quadrupled. I already knew she was strong, but the way she's handling this is amazing. My respect goes out to everyone who has had to endure this.

The world is so cruel and so beautiful at the same time. We have bad days and good days, but we manage to stay positive.

[jillcwhomever]

Thank you for the replies. This place is simply amazing. My thoughts go out to everyone in this thread.

Surgery went well, but unfortunately the tumour couldn't be completely removed. I lack the English words to describe this properly, but sadly, the tumour is "angry" and she has to go through the next phase of treatment. She's got cancer. Treatment will last for six weeks initially and she has to get this treatment in another city or maybe country. It's absurd and I really don't know what to say.

What I've learned so far is that this disease involves a lot of uncertainty and waiting. I have also learned that our friends and family are for real. We have gotten so much dinner and breakfast delivered by friends, that I cannot remember the last time I cooked!

The world is so cruel and so beautiful at the same time.

Oh wow, you've been through it. It's good the initial surgery went well, but as you say this disease is a horrible, unpredictable one as you are finding out. I am so glad your family and friends are showing their true colours, you will both need all that support as you go through the next stage. I hope your wife doesn't have to travel too far for the next course of treatment.    I have everything crossed for you and your wife. I hope you both get some good news soon, hang in there it can be beaten as others have proved on here.

[Hedley Lamarr]

My father passed away on Monday, it had spread to his liver and kidneys and he ended up with pneumonia.  Thankfully his real struggles were brief and he had all his immediate family with him.

Absolute bastard of an illness and my thoughts go out to all those suffering or have loved ones who are suffering. 

[rafathegaffa83]

My father passed away on Monday, it had spread to his liver and kidneys and he ended up with pneumonia.  Thankfully his real struggles were brief and he had all his immediate family with him.

Absolute bastard of an illness and my thoughts go out to all those suffering or have loved ones who are suffering. 

Awful news. Sorry to hear that. RIP

[jillcwhomever]

My father passed away on Monday, it had spread to his liver and kidneys and he ended up with pneumonia.  Thankfully his real struggles were brief and he had all his immediate family with him.

Absolute bastard of an illness and my thoughts go out to all those suffering or have loved ones who are suffering.

So sorry to hear that. It's an awful disease, my thoughts are with you and your family. 

[Terry de Niro]

My father passed away on Monday, it had spread to his liver and kidneys and he ended up with pneumonia.  Thankfully his real struggles were brief and he had all his immediate family with him.

Absolute bastard of an illness and my thoughts go out to all those suffering or have loved ones who are suffering. 

Awful news. Take care lad.

[Hedley Lamarr]

Thank you lads and lasses, my feet haven't really touched the floor this past week so it doesn't seem real at the moment, my priority is getting my Mother through it and then hopefully I'll find time for myself.

My sister emailed the club and they sent a genuinely heartfelt reply and a PDF addressed to my Dad with Jurgen and all the players signatures, unfortunately we didn't have enough time to give it to him but I'm going to get that framed later and hang it up with numerous Liverpool photos that are up in his hallway.

All my love to those suffering both with the illness and from watching their loved ones go through this.

[Red_Mist]

Sorry for your loss Hedley.

[Crosby Nick]

Sorry to read that Hedley, thoughts  are with you and the family.

[reddebs]

Sorry to hear of your loss Hedley, my condolences to you and all the family.

[Ray K]

My father passed away on Monday, it had spread to his liver and kidneys and he ended up with pneumonia.  Thankfully his real struggles were brief and he had all his immediate family with him.

Absolute bastard of an illness and my thoughts go out to all those suffering or have loved ones who are suffering. 

So sorry to hear that. Condolences to you and your family. May he Rest in Peace.

[Hedley Lamarr]

Thanks everyone.  Thank God for Trent.

[The G in Gerrard]

Sorry for your loss Hedley.

[Fitzy.]

Awful Hedley. Sorry for this sad loss.

[Fitzy.]

Had a review meeting with the haematologist this week - four months since the last one.

I was told my lymphocytes (white blood cells) are now back to normal levels - same as someone who doesn’t have my condition.

He suggested another review in 6 months which can be done over the phone.

He finished the appointment by saying “I told you I’d give you a second life”

Which, to be fair, he did say back in April.