Great post. This is probably 90% of how I feel about things. Since this board is so horribly adversarial it often seems like we’re diametric opposites, but I really don’t think that’s the case - with one pretty significant exception (see below) I think both you and I are seeing that there’s a glaring absence in the way we live now … it’s more than an atomisation, it’s been an active turning away from the idea that there are any objective values and that it’s even appropriate for us to pass values on between ourselves, or wisdom from generation to generation – it’s like the only seemly way to be is to be non-judgemental, and work everything out for yourself, without prejudgment and (nominally) without influence except what happens to be the fashion at any particular time. That’s an unspeakably lonely way to live, and imo it’s slowly driving people mad.
Another way to put that it’s fundamentally against our natures. We aren’t blank slates and we physically can’t make that our ideal - we need community, and we just don’t have time to reinvent every wheel. So what happens is we don’t live like that at all, and instead we look for exactly those qualities in other places. I was struck by this post while I was away:
Christianity hides its evil under the veil of morality. They might not be lynching people, but they’re happy to destroy lives. Be it the Catholic Church exacerbating AIDS in Africa or Roe v Wade in the US, it happens today.
which is moronic even on its own terms—if there must be an evil side in the whole Roe v Wade thing, it can’t on any sensible view be the one seeking to protect the unborn—but it illustrates the point well. There’s a running joke on here to the effect that I think atheists have no morals. Other than in a semantic sense, that’s not what I think – what I’ve repeatedly said is that atheism lends itself to *any* values.
“When a man stops believing in God he doesn't then believe in nothing, he believes anything”, if you like. This mentality (and apologies to the poster for putting the boot in, but obviously my objection is to the message - I’m sure you’re a perfectly nice fellow; the PM exchanges I’ve had in my time suggest nearly everyone on here is lovely once you get away from the toxicity) wants to believe in something, but all he has is his politics, so he has to resort to “evil”, the biggest word in the book. The problem, I think obviously, is that politics shift and change, so if that’s your guide then the anchor that you need to live a proper human life just isn’t there. This not only risks driving people mad and lonely, it actually denies them an important core part of humanity and even puts them at risk of doing evil (as I would put it) things themselves. If your political tribe turned evil, how could you even know? Without an objective source of morality, you can’t. You’re at the mercy of what your tribe might deem expedient from time to time.
So that’s my 10% disagreement with you; the value of religion as that objective source. Even then I don’t think we’re that far apart, because I know you do see the value of a set of codified wisdom, but can’t be doing with the metaphysics. What I think is fundamental, and I expect you disagree with me, is that it must be objective (in the sense of being handed down from on high, not man-made and man-changeable) and have at the heart of it something that we can’t understand, because it’s that bit of faith/unprovability/magic which turns it into something that’s beyond what might be expedient from time to time. Of course there’s massive scope for argument in such a code – being honest, that’s probably the main thing for me, that kind of weekly communal practice of philosophy; it doesn’t sound much like the social aspect that your aunt enjoyed, in terms of social anchorability, but perhaps it isn’t so far away.
(Also, although you do have a tendency to ascribe the most reactionary views to religion, I do have to take issue with that; being protestant to my core, I have to emphasise what I see as the almost-duty to work out the meaning for yourself and that there’s plenty in there which would be very far from reactionary, even if I’m not entirely convinced that this approach to religion doesn’t bring problems of its own; indeed at times I’d be inclined to ascribe a lot of these issues we’re discussing to a kind of protestantism-gone-haywire; but that’s definitely not a discussion I’ll be having here).
Your story about your aunt moved me because it’s such a great example of a life well-lived, but also because I happen to have lost two family members in the past six weeks myself. Neither were religious but one service was and one wasn’t, and the difference was immense. As it happens, it was the non-religious one which got the really bumper turn-out (though both were good) – the difference was in weight and heft of the actual ceremony. I found it incredibly stark. The religious one could draw on and fit his life into a continuum of importance, significance and meaning stretching back 2,000 years; the other had just nothing to draw on, except cliches and family anecdotes. Everyone could see it and was embarrassed so we put it behind us, but I found it really saddening, having seen the two in succession - it was just so unworthy of the occasion, whereas the religious one left you in no doubt that this was a life that
mattered.
I came away with thoughts maybe not unlike your own – what have we done to ourselves, imagining we could live without a culture so meaningful, something that our own ancestors took meaning from and shaped for themselves and for us? And yes, turning away from the gatherings, the local communities, and even participating in things for the sake of participating; and even doing so in the sneaking suspicion that you may not measure up, and what does that mean?
So yes, I recognise your thinking, and something a lot like it is what’s prompted this turn in my life these past few years. Your mileage will of course vary, but my conclusion was that region is the only game in town, and that I have no real choice but to at least try. That’s really the root of where I’ve been coming from on this thread. Make of it what you will, and perhaps in some sense it might even be a useful couple of avenues to keep thinking about these things.
PS I’ve gone in over the ball on you a couple of times as we’ve disagreed on this thread over the past year or so. As this will probably be my last post on rawk—majorly disappointed with it for reasons mostly not to do with this thread—I feel like trying to make up for that is the least sour way for me to go out, so please accept my apologies for that, and all the best.