It's a good thread but there are two themes here that perhaps need the spotlight. You (generally speaking) need to take a step back from the logical when you say we did a, b, or c as a country, as a community to radicalise this kid or that. See a logical kid sees the UK part of a coalition bombing a Muslim country and may get angry. Yet, it doesn't need logic at all for a lot of people to sink their identity seekers onto something. Over the years, from what I've seen of a lot of the foreign crowd, these are fundamentally defective people, and that is the bigger issue imo. A lot of problems, some from their family, some self-made in their lives and that's them looking for a release, something to hang on to. This mechanism has nothing to do with the finer points of Islam.
To use a facile example, no 4 in class can see a Muslim brother get the shit kicked out of him on Saturday night for nothing, notes it, weighs it up against the positives - quality of life, ease of upward mobility, a generally fair system of government, environmental standards, consumer protection etc etc and makes his call. No 40 in class sees that brother filled in, blanks everything out and uses it to form a crusade of aggression. This crowd of foreign wannabes looking for a cause, I would say they're a lot more no 40 than 4.
This personal profile comes before everything else, always, when it comes to assessing a person. Go easy on the self-flagellation, the geopolitical issues are there and need to be worked on of course, but there are bigger factors in play in shaping the minds of these kids.
Secondly, I don't think she's getting much support on here at all, so no need to accuse anyone of that. Most versions of let her in to stand trial posted on here involve her then being prisoned / rehabbed and the kid getting taken away, she's actually better off being kept away compared to this scenario; strong UK currency, she can buy a comfortable life for the kid and herself with support from her parents in the hinterlands of an amenable country. The big mistake was being exposed to the publicity, for a number of reasons.