Who are you trying to impress with 200 days?
Means nothing when you have your first jar
I find this to be quite an odd attack on me as you don't know me. I find it quite therapeutic to get down how I'm feeling about my life in this thread as it's certainly what I believed this thread was for. I certainly don't mean to piss on anyone else who might struggle with alcohol themselves by showing off or bragging which seems to be what you are implying as we're all on different journeys and everything in life affects us differently.
I've spent time in prison and I've had shit moments in my life so I really don't give a fuck about impressing anyone on here mate but I've always found that constantly being able to self evaluate my life has helped me since then, god knows there has been lots of time for self reflection. My intentions were only to show that I feel that I have made progress with a general life problem that I have had (with drinking alongside that) and perhaps that may embolden someone else who wants to do the same- confirm to them that it is possible to get out of a rut. I'm in a really good place now, but I spend a lot of my time convincing and helping mates and my brother to take a grip of their lives and make strong positive changes.
I felt I was in a life situation which was conducive to drinking lots and I've got a grip on it. I used to work exclusively in bars, but only 20-30 hours a week. That enabled me to earn enough to pay rent, get some food in the fridge, attend a couple of Liverpool games here and there and then sink absolutely all the rest of it because I didn't earn enough to save to get a car or something worthwhile. Bar work also allows for plenty of free drinks and is one of few jobs you can do while pissed. Plus, not having a full time job during the day meant there was never anything to get up for, which was conducive to 'why the fuck not' just keep drinking at a lock in with free beers or to drink every day because my life was pretty empty and revolved around turning up, pouring pints, being bought a couple, drinking at the end of my shift and getting into the next day. I imagine I was probably pretty depressed- though I've never seen anyone about that.
You see, I did University after prison as I was worried about getting a job with my record and being taken on as an ex drug dealer but since I came out of prison in 2011 I've always found some sort of excuse for not trying, or for continuing in the same path to nothingness. My criminal record (at least on the 'basic' check) came off in April 2016 but I used the fact that I had got a girl pregnant on a one night stand as an excuse to continue in the same routine of working in bars, being depressed, drinking excessively to remedy the depression, just getting by, not trying hard to improve my lot and coasting through life.
At the start of this year on the second of January having got involved in my sons life and now in a relationship with the girl and it going well I was sitting in a bar drinking what was left of my disposable income for the week, six months away from turning thirty and I thought to myself if I'm not going to make changes to my life now then when am I? I could be forty and still be doing exactly the same thing as I am now. And what sort of person do I want my son to grow up to see me as? And I knew I had to make real, tangible positive changes to my life- instantly.
I knocked the booze on the head for several reasons. I was drinking way too much but I put a lot of that down to the circumstances and situation of my life then and my reluctance to fight my way out a rut. The most important thing to me was that stopping drinking was a tangible positive change I could do instantly, the job and the other goals I needed to implement would have to come later. So stopping completely with no exceptions (as I was still in the same job, in the same situation that had me in the rut meant it had to be a complete 'no' to any drink whatsoever until I felt I had rectified the situation) allowed me to make a positive change for my own health. But it also had an economical impact immediately as well. I would no longer piss my disposable income away on £4 pints all week, but I'd stick it all to one side and see what I could do trying life different while I also finally looked for a proper job. I also stopped getting the bus anywhere and would cycle everywhere as I reduced my expenditure down to only what I absolutely needed- food, and the odd soda and lime when out and about playing darts.
In the last 7/8 months, I've got a new full time job repairing phones in a phone repair shop which I do 6 days a week, I still continue to work in bars where I can so I'm often doing 60/70 hour working weeks. I've paid off my both of my overdrafts, I've purchased a car and insured it and can drive my little one and his mum around. I've saved enough money up over this year to make even more real positive changes to my life including getting us all into a flat together and while life is a continuous journey and while self improvement can never reach an 'end' - I've reached several of the goals I set out to, a lot quicker than I thought I might be able to. I've even got a lot of money in a separate savings account I set up and paid into just for Liverpool games, so I'm buzzing for the season to start.
I think my own rut and job that I had for the last two years allowed for stupid drinking rather than the other way around. I've kept up the non drinking for so long as I've continually tried to save as much money as I can to help get me, my girlfriend, our son and our daughter on the way into a flat which we will hopefully have done by the time the other one arrives and alcohol is still very expensive! But I've done it, I'm now in a much better position for me and my new family than I was at the start of the year. I was pathetic at the start of the year, I walk with purpose now and can afford to have the occasional beer before a Liverpool game, or on a Saturday night when I have a day off if I want to now and I may well do at some point in time and it certainly won't render the 200 days absolutely worthless whatsoever.
I've felt such shame and depression at things I've done in my life so I reserve the right to be proud at others.
Edit: I've noticed your other posts to Mumm-Ra. I'm sorry to hear you did a year and then struggled and continued to drink to oblivion. My brother is similar and much worse than I have ever been and also hits the spirits which I always think is a lot more dangerous to a person than beer, especially as you can drink vast quantities much quicker. He often sneaks them into bottles of coke and is someone I'm genuinely worried about being a full blown alcoholic who I know takes diazepam to help the withdrawals after large binges.