Author Topic: Internet Dating (Careful now) (Read 164597 times)

DanFromMars · « **on:** January 5, 2013, 04:50:12 pm »

Well I remember a thread on here that recently shot to like 100 pages in a week and was promptly locked due to inappropriate stuff. I think I saw some fella posting pics of some women he quickly met up with etc.

Anyways, I thought maybe some of us could have a 'sensible' discussion about this and general words of wisdom and light pisstaking if this doesn't get locked by some mods today?

Please don't post any pictures of people or name names.

Anywho I'm finding it difficult on the free sites. I've had two dates so far, one was a complete mismatch and the other was really good, but she went dark after about two weeks.

This was over a year ago and I've decided to have another go and I still see the same old profiles and pictures so I guess I'm not the only one finding it hard.

Anyone done the pay sites? I'm thinking of giving eharmony or match.com a go. Since they're so expensive I thought I'd get some advice on whether they're worth it or not; I'd happily pay if I had more chance of meeting someone.

So premium dating sites - yay or nay?

Mercer · « **Reply #1 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:16:47 pm »

I met my current GF on Match Affinity. Have been with her for 3 years so far. In fact, this is the longest relationship I ever had.

wampa1 · « **Reply #2 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:21:41 pm »

My mate met his wife on match.com

redgriffin73 · « **Reply #3 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:23:22 pm »

Several of my friends have met long-lasting partners online, Guardian Soulmates seems a popular one. One friend is getting married in a few months to a girl he met.

Samie · « **Reply #4 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:24:38 pm »

It's a load of shite personally speaking. That's probably because I had a mare on the odd occasions I used these sites.

My mate met his missus on match.com getting married to her this year too.

DanFromMars · « **Reply #5 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:25:42 pm »

How long where you on those sites before you met them? Did you go through a few dates then met the right girl or was it just the first date and both got lucky ?

J-Mc- · « **Reply #6 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:32:35 pm »

Met my ex on tagged.com and met my current gf on here. It works, you've just got to be careful.

DanFromMars · « **Reply #7 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:38:13 pm »

I've found the biggest problem is a profile. I did quite a serious but detailed/funny-ish profile and had it reviewed by some middle aged women from other forums who gave me advice until it was somewhat decent.

The main thing was getting decent pictures. I'm not a looker and every family pic I look goofy or like something out of house of the dead. So I took some photos myself and cropped them and as soon as I put them up I got 3 messages from women saying 'cute boy' 'you look like that guy from Skins (Nicholas Hoult turns out) I don't...' and some general messages.

Still, I don't feel these messages are going anywhere. Most of the girls on POF seem to be on it all day. I'm talking with about 3-4 birds that I'd go on a date with, but these free sites feel more like chat rooms than dating sites which is why I'm looking to go into the paid ones.

Perhaps paid sites attract more serious women?

Which site then?

Motty · « **Reply #8 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:41:54 pm »

My sister in-law had a few different fellas before she settled down with the one she's with, not sure what site.

Sorry but my personal view is you've got to be a bit sad if you can't get a bird around where you live, either that or an ugly c*by

Billy The Kid · « **Reply #9 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:46:07 pm »

I never tried it before until recently. I always thought it was for losers. But I was wrong. Internet dating is the right way to go. I've got 4 birds on the go at the moment. Happy days.

Motty · « **Reply #10 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:48:11 pm »

Quote from: Billy The Kid. on January 5, 2013, 05:46:07 pm

I never tried it before until recently. I always thought it was for losers. But I was wrong. Internet dating is the right way to go. I've got 4 birds on the go at the moment. Happy days.

well there is always the multiple birds benefits of internet dating

BRdispatch05 · « **Reply #11 on:** January 5, 2013, 05:52:33 pm »

I need to give it another shot, I am horrible at creating profiles though. Maybe that's a testament to why I'm unsuccessful on there. I spend 30 minutes making it look decent enough, think I'm finished, "Now complete our 500 question survey to find that "special someone"". By the time I get to certain sections I just don't care

Mouth · « **Reply #12 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:07:24 pm »

Quote from: Billy The Kid. on January 5, 2013, 05:46:07 pm

I never tried it before until recently. I always thought it was for losers. But I was wrong. Internet dating is the right way to go. I've got 4 birds on the go at the moment. Happy days.

What happened to that Abby one?

hoppyLFC · « **Reply #13 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:10:13 pm »

Quote from: Billy The Kid. on January 5, 2013, 05:46:07 pm

I never tried it before until recently. I always thought it was for losers. But I was wrong. Internet dating is the right way to go. I've got 4 birds on the go at the moment. Happy days.

We want five....we want five..

Malaysian Kopite · « **Reply #14 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:10:30 pm »

Quote from: J-Mc- on January 5, 2013, 05:32:35 pm

Met my ex on tagged.com and met my current gf on here. It works, you've just got to be careful.

Oh?

Mouth · « **Reply #15 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:12:44 pm »

Quote from: Malaysian Kopite on January 5, 2013, 06:10:30 pm

Oh?

Her name is Amir.

Malaysian Kopite · « **Reply #16 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:15:31 pm »

Quote from: Mouth on January 5, 2013, 06:12:44 pm

Her name is Amir.

Ah.

J-Mc- · « **Reply #17 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:20:41 pm »

Quote from: Malaysian Kopite on January 5, 2013, 06:15:31 pm

Ah.

Mouth kept avoiding the traps but in the end I managed to catch DanielleCJ instead.

Telling you, bear traps work really well on humans.

thedanny · « **Reply #18 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:23:38 pm »

Over Christmas my mate was telling me he uses all of the free one's.

I think he said the best one was something cupid or cupid something... it definitely had cupid in the name.

Crimson_Tank · « **Reply #19 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:27:31 pm »

Was watching Temple of Doom last night and saw an advert for a new dating site.... missus and I nearly fell over laughing....

FarmersOnly.com

It is what it says.

Malaysian Kopite · « **Reply #20 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:28:04 pm »

Quote from: J-Mc- on January 5, 2013, 06:20:41 pm

Mouth kept avoiding the traps but in the end I managed to catch DanielleCJ instead.

Telling you, bear traps work really well on humans.

You want to get Mouth, then have a fit but slightly fat bird(think Adele) walk the streets at night and follow her quietly. Pretty soon you'll find a fella trying to load a couch into his van. He's having a lot of difficulty so he'll ask the bird for some help.

You've found him then.

Crimson_Tank · « **Reply #21 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:29:38 pm »

Quote from: Mouth on January 5, 2013, 06:12:44 pm

Her name is Amir.

I hear she is a proper animal.

Not Bob · « **Reply #22 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:31:26 pm »

Quote from: thedanny on January 5, 2013, 06:23:38 pm

Over Christmas my mate was telling me he uses all of the free one's.

I think he said the best one was something cupid or cupid something... it definitely had cupid in the name.

OkCupid (dot com). All the hipsters are on it.

J-Mc- · « **Reply #23 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:31:31 pm »

Quote from: Malaysian Kopite on January 5, 2013, 06:28:04 pm

You want to get Mouth, then have a fit but slightly fat bird(think Adele) walk the streets at night and follow her quietly. Pretty soon you'll find a fella trying to load a couch into his van. He's having a lot of difficulty so he'll ask the bird for some help.

You've found him then.

Really?....always thought that was Harvest Fields.

Malaysian Kopite · « **Reply #24 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:32:11 pm »

Quote from: J-Mc- on January 5, 2013, 06:31:31 pm

Really?....always thought that was Harvest Fields.

Nah he's found the skin he's looking for.

Motty · « **Reply #25 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:35:28 pm »

Quote from: Crimson_Tank on January 5, 2013, 06:27:31 pm

Was watching Temple of Doom last night and saw an advert for a new dating site.... missus and I nearly fell over laughing....

FarmersOnly.com

It is what it says.

I've heard the females are proper stupid cows on that site

MBL? · « **Reply #26 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:38:09 pm »

Some lovely ladies on http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/ladies/

thedanny · « **Reply #27 on:** January 5, 2013, 06:52:17 pm »

Quote from: Nicky English on January 5, 2013, 06:31:26 pm

OkCupid (dot com). All the hipsters are on it.

That's the one...

My mate swears by it!

BRdispatch05 · « **Reply #28 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:05:10 pm »

Any advice on setting up an attractive profile? My "about me" and other sections are so bland and dull, I have no idea how to write them without sounding like I'm completing an interview.

Cruiser · « **Reply #29 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:20:50 pm »

Quote from: Shady77 on January 5, 2013, 06:35:28 pm

I've heard the females are proper stupid cows on that site

You must have some serious beef with them

Chakan · « **Reply #30 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:22:40 pm »

Quote from: Cruiser on January 5, 2013, 07:20:50 pm

You must have some serious beef with them

Possibly a couple of mad ones as well.

Zlen · « **Reply #31 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:23:00 pm »

Met my wife online, not on a dating site though but still online first.

thedanny · « **Reply #32 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:24:23 pm »

Quote from: BRdispatch05 on January 5, 2013, 07:05:10 pm

Any advice on setting up an attractive profile? My "about me" and other sections are so bland and dull, I have no idea how to write them without sounding like I'm completing an interview.

Sound like a c*nt. Always works.

Motty · « **Reply #33 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:24:25 pm »

Too right I had to mooove them off my to date list

DanFromMars · « **Reply #34 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:26:14 pm »

Quote from: BRdispatch05 on January 5, 2013, 07:05:10 pm

Any advice on setting up an attractive profile? My "about me" and other sections are so bland and dull, I have no idea how to write them without sounding like I'm completing an interview.

Sent you a pm.

Ciara (with a capital "C") · « **Reply #35 on:** January 5, 2013, 07:33:24 pm »

Lauren Pope from TOWIE has a dating site called... http://www.hopewithpope.com LOL!

Skidder. · « **Reply #36 on:** January 5, 2013, 08:11:25 pm »

Bizarre.

I've just signed up with that OkCupid, had a search for people in my area and the second person was a girl I used to work with. Got chatting to her and we're going out for a drink.

Bizarro.

Mizerooskie · « **Reply #37 on:** January 5, 2013, 08:30:20 pm »

I went to two weddings of match.com couples this year.

I also know several people that have had terrible experiences with online dating (usually with the free sites).

My best bits of advice, based on these two different situations:

-Stick to the more reputable pay sites if you can afford it

-Find out as much as you can about those you interact with/meet from sources outside of the dating website (a simple Google image search in one of the scenarios gone wrong would have revealed mug shots)

-Don't move too quickly into a serious relationship. It may not be often the case, but there are plenty of people who use these services for cynical purposes, or use them because they have things to hide.

Mizerooskie · « **Reply #38 on:** January 5, 2013, 08:32:33 pm »

Quote from: BRdispatch05 on January 5, 2013, 07:05:10 pm

Any advice on setting up an attractive profile? My "about me" and other sections are so bland and dull, I have no idea how to write them without sounding like I'm completing an interview.

Being honest is the most important part, assuming you're looking for a partner and not a hook-up.

conman · « **Reply #39 on:** January 5, 2013, 08:44:09 pm »

met my gf on Badoo, it's been 5 months now & great