Agreed to the clear the air talk with them tomorrow night. Dreading it to be honest, don't think anything good will come of it. Sunday night, her sister was there. I made the effort to engage in conversation with her, asked about how she is/what she's been up to etc. Got the same arrogant, clipped responses that I always get from her, almost like I should know this stuff already and nothing in response. Oh, except a short inquiry about how I'm getting on with work, and when I responded, more clipped, patronizing comments, and talking over me. This got a bit old and when she made me repeat what I got my degree in, I did so in a very direct tone.
End of the night, she says to my partner "we need to talk.. just me and you, yeah?" while looking in my direction. Another humiliation, another very thinly veiled dig. She's been on at my partner for the last two days over text message, won't take no for an answer, won't come here if I'm here, because "I might not like what she has to say". What the fuck is wrong with these people? She was so arrogant and rude on Sunday, if anyone is owed an apology, it's me. It's so far past inappropriate for her sister to go wading into a situation she knows nothing about, stirring things up and trying to come between us, and creating issues when there aren't any. My partner has agreed to not meet her as I've made it clear I'm not putting up with this stuff any more. We're going to discuss it with the parents tomorrow.
In answer to someone earlier, yeh my folks are around, but back in Liverpool. I see them maybe every 2-3 months. Her sister actually made a point of laboring the point of "so you're going to Liverpool... again..?" to my partner over dinner last time we saw them. When she said yes we are, the response was a puzzled look and "so.. why exactly..?" (explains it's my sisters birthday so we're going to see her) "so, this couldn't wait until a more convenient time..?" - I then interjected and told her I make my own decisions. I was then blamed for being rude to her sister. What the fuck has it got to do with her? It's none of her business. Beyond comprehension