My girlfriend's mother died of a totally unexpected heart attack this morning. They're both a bit far away from me, since its Holy Week here and people travel to where their families are (i'm from the Capital).
I've let her know I'm so sorry and that I'm here for her; that im available for her 24/7 through phone and that if she wants me to, I'll take the first plane over there... She has a big family and she's dealing with everything... we've hardly talked today, except for a couple of minutes through a phone of a friend of hers that's from her hometown.
I actually have no idea what to do: i don't actually have the money to grab a plane on short notice (I'm a broke student; i'd have to ask someone for money), I want to talk to her but i know I have to wait for her to be ready call me back or look at my messages, and I also know there's nothing i could say to make it better. I don't even feel like doing anything (like meet with friends here or doing anything... i feel impotence and also feel even drinking a beer over here would kinda be disrespecting the hard time she's having right now).
jjMaybe a bit off-topic aside from the cause of death, but i just wanted to put that out there, sorry
Tough that pal and obviously thoughts are with your girlfriend and you. I lost my own mum suddenly to a stroke about 8 weeks ago and its the worst time of your life IMO, but.... if you have a good circle of friends and family to support you then thats a big help. I've got a really tight group of mates and they have been outstanding, but another massive help was people on here. Although I've never met them they offered words of support which meant a whole lot at a rough time.
Anyway, on topic, I was always terrified of heart disease, cholestral etc, because I'm a big lad (6ft tall and 20 stone) and because of the shit I eat and drink. But in December I kind of broke down to a really good doctor, told him I was frightened, health anxiety etc. He had me in the surgery for 40 minutes and we went through every aspect of my health. To my utter astonishment my heart, my blood, my cholesterol are absolutely fine, he actually said I have the cholesterol of an athlete!
Anyway, despite my good news I treated it as a wake up call, cutting out the rubbish, going on runs again. Unfortunately since my mum passed away I have gone back to eating crap, but thats only a temporary issue.
