Debs it sounds like she's stuck in a numbing routine as the result of emotional trauma.
Thanks for your comments Jim, they've been helpful and enlightening.
I've heard about how things like the sudden loss of a loved one, divorce or any personal upheaval can cause strange behaviour like triggering a hoarding addiction. I saw that with my mum throughout my life and put it down to the loss of both her parents within 2wks of each other when we were little.
She left her husband as he was controlling and abusive, both physically and verbally, usually triggered after he'd been drinking yet they've remained very close to the point of having family holidays together and her helping him decorate, tile and landscape the garden of his new house.
She's always found talking about stuff hard, she drives me nuts just trying to have a normal conversation with her as she's never still or sits down. I've always thought the constant need to be busy is due to her not wanting time to realise where her life is. Like sticking fingers in her ears so she doesn't have to hear anything she doesn't want to.
As for the doctor's, my niece told me she hasn't even changed her address for anything since the house was sold. Car insurance, drivers licence or doctors are still registered at my parents address so she's not even going to get her letter for her vaccination though in theory she doesn't have a permanent address now anyway.
I'll do some research on the interventions, see if there's something we could possibly use.
Thanks again for the insights, it's been helpful.
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