Topic: Mingebags

[Charlie Adams fried egg]

Blimey. I get that to some people having a big fancy wedding isn't the be all and end all and they are a bit of waste of money let's be honest, but even saying all that, fuck me, that sounds like one of the cheapest, most basic, worst weddings I've ever heard of.

That's fucking shocking.
As you say, it's not about spending loads, it's about celebrating and having a good time.

Even as a member of the public there's brewerys that'll sell you a 72 pint barrel of ale for around a ton. Couple of them and you're on your way. You can probably do hot pork baps or beef baps for around £2 per head and a couple of big proper curries. Get a mate who's the best DJ to do the tunes and you've got the basis of a decent do.

Whatever they spent on that shitshow was wasted.

[Drinks Sangria]

That is bizarre Liverbloke.

Update on the mingebag from work I've posted about before, the one who tried to order curry for his family at the staff meal and who tried to replace my water with coke for himself in a meal deal. He's left the company unfortunately, so that source of mingebaggery is no more for any stories.

He got accused of something by another member of staff and resigned before HR could conclude their investigation.

[Mumm-Ra]

That is bizarre Liverbloke.

Update on the mingebag from work I've posted about before, the one who tried to order curry for his family at the staff meal and who tried to replace my water with coke for himself in a meal deal. He's left the company unfortunately, so that source of mingebaggery is no more for any stories.

He got accused of something by another member of staff and resigned before HR could conclude their investigation.

You should have fought his corner, we need him in our lives

[Dench57]

That is bizarre Liverbloke.

Update on the mingebag from work I've posted about before, the one who tried to order curry for his family at the staff meal and who tried to replace my water with coke for himself in a meal deal. He's left the company unfortunately, so that source of mingebaggery is no more for any stories.

He got accused of something by another member of staff and resigned before HR could conclude their investigation.

Stealing post-it notes?

[Qston]

I don`t know if I have posted this before.

My parents are genuinely lovely people who would help anyone if asked. They are also relatively well off. What amuses me each year is the present I get for my birthday. Now I am not expecting anything big, or indeed even expensive but some of the presents have been absolutely brilliant. For my 21st (many years ago) a dictionary and for my 30th (also many years ago)......a paperweight.

I would be disappointed if I got anything normal and actually as I have got older I buzz of their madness.

[keano7]

That is bizarre Liverbloke.

Update on the mingebag from work I've posted about before, the one who tried to order curry for his family at the staff meal and who tried to replace my water with coke for himself in a meal deal. He's left the company unfortunately, so that source of mingebaggery is no more for any stories.

He got accused of something by another member of staff and resigned before HR could conclude their investigation.

Accused of being a mingebag? 😁

[PaulF]

Stealing post-it notes?

Sheets of toilet paper?

[Drinks Sangria]

Stealing post-it notes?

I wish I had a better story to tell but basically he'd just been cutting corners on work and when doing solo, time-sensitive stuff, fudging it to make it look like he didn't manage to get through his workload because of an overwhelming amount of work (which he'd created for himself).

I don`t know if I have posted this before.

My parents are genuinely lovely people who would help anyone if asked. They are also relatively well off. What amuses me each year is the present I get for my birthday. Now I am not expecting anything big, or indeed even expensive but some of the presents have been absolutely brilliant. For my 21st (many years ago) a dictionary and for my 30th (also many years ago)......a paperweight.

I would be disappointed if I got anything normal and actually as I have got older I buzz of their madness.

It's a difficult one. It's certainly not mingebaggery because they obviously think they're thoughtful, useful presents. Have you ever suggested something you might like to them? My Grandparents are the same, wealthy but maybe send me a tenner in a card for my Birthday and get me nothing for Christmas, but are two of the loveliest most hospitable people you'll meet. Feels mean to expect more but I always make a lot of effort on presents for them and it's never reciprocated.

I think they feel that buying a bloke in his late 20s presents is unnecessary basically.

[ChaChaMooMoo]

We are talking about mingebag individuals.

My wifes ex-employer just mailed in to ask if she has any of the remaining shirts/jackets they gave her. They gave her 3 t shirts, 3 jackets and 2 winter jackets.

If she doesnt, they will subtract 300 euros from her September salary.

[Drinks Sangria]

We are talking about mingebag individuals.

My wifes ex-employer just mailed in to ask if she has any of the remaining shirts/jackets they gave her. They gave her 3 t shirts, 3 jackets and 2 winter jackets.

If she doesnt, they will subtract 300 euros from her September salary.

Bizarre corporate mingebaggery. I always wondered why businesses did this, asking to return ratty polos and jackets that have been worn for years.

I suppose so the individual can't claim to be representing the company. But come on.

[paulrazor]

We are talking about mingebag individuals.

My wifes ex-employer just mailed in to ask if she has any of the remaining shirts/jackets they gave her. They gave her 3 t shirts, 3 jackets and 2 winter jackets.

If she doesnt, they will subtract 300 euros from her September salary.

That happened a mate of mine when he left a football team. He was there years, they demanded it back. Thing was his name and initials were on the gear. They could have easily let him keep it

Things must have sorted themselves though as 10 years later he is coaching them

[ChaChaMooMoo]

I was planning on giving them to some homeless people around where we live.

This winter is going to be brutal. But I guess with some misers trying to be penny wise pound foolish, I would rather give it back to them.

[-Willo-]

We are talking about mingebag individuals.

My wifes ex-employer just mailed in to ask if she has any of the remaining shirts/jackets they gave her. They gave her 3 t shirts, 3 jackets and 2 winter jackets.

If she doesnt, they will subtract 300 euros from her September salary.

Could you not just say something like 'What? I left them all on my desk, so someones clearly moved them?' or something.

Then the onus is on them to prove you never and they'll surely not be arsed to?

[paulrazor]

Could you not just say something like 'What? I left them all on my desk, so someones clearly moved them?' or something.

Then the onus is on them to prove you never and they'll surely not be arsed to?

you reminded me of something I did when I left some place

I worked in a section for 10 years, usually did a collection for someone who left, bit of tea and cake etc.

Nothing was done for me, literally no effort made whatsoever which I thought was poor given all the people I looked after and all the people I had trained in down the years. To make matters worse the absolute weasel of a boss sent someone to tell me I was barred from their canteen (instead of coming to me himself he sat in his office and sent someone else to do it like the spineless c*nt he was).

Anyway our office was still unmanned so i went in one day, locked all their desk drawers, locked all their cabinets and said nothing. Few weeks later they had difficulty moving someone in.

came to me
"what happened all them keys"
"havent a clue, havent been there in ages"

I had them all along, took them home and chucked them in the bin. They had to get a load of new ones cut. Hope it cost a few bob

[ChaChaMooMoo]

Could you not just say something like 'What? I left them all on my desk, so someones clearly moved them?' or something.

Then the onus is on them to prove you never and they'll surely not be arsed to?

Nah mate it was a toxic environment going by what my wife had to say.

There were 5 in her team who never uttered anything else other than a "hello good morning" and "have a nice evening". Not even a courtesy "how was your weekend" or "what are your plans for the evening". Sounded like everyone had a stick up their arses and halfway like the climax of animal farm.

We dont care. I told my wife to tell them to come and collect it from home, or anywhere close. We are not driving 30 kms to drop it there.

[liverbloke]

We are talking about mingebag individuals.

My wifes ex-employer just mailed in to ask if she has any of the remaining shirts/jackets they gave her. They gave her 3 t shirts, 3 jackets and 2 winter jackets.

If she doesnt, they will subtract 300 euros from her September salary.

surely the law interprets 'gave' as to present voluntarily and without expecting compensation

so if he has written 'gave' in an email - unless you've just paraphrased - then a written email is admissible as evidence that you were given it and therefore owe nothing in return

if taken to a tribunal or similar

[CraigDS]

surely the law interprets 'gave' as to present voluntarily and without expecting compensation

so if he has written 'gave' in an email - unless you've just paraphrased - then a written email is admissible as evidence that you were given it and therefore owe nothing in return

if taken to a tribunal or similar

to be honest it'll likely need to be in the employment contract, or a separate thing signed when receiving the items, that they are to be returned upon leaving the business and if not a certain amount can be withheld from the final pay.

If it's in neither then tell them to fuck off.

[-Willo-]

Yeah they can't just say we want these back or pay *finger in the air* eeer, £300.

Scumbag c*nts.

[liverbloke]

to be honest it'll likely need to be in the employment contract, or a separate thing signed when receiving the items, that they are to be returned upon leaving the business and if not a certain amount can be withheld from the final pay.

If it's in neither then tell them to fuck off.

good point that man

[ChaChaMooMoo]

Nah mate. It is a good jacket yes but not worth of holding it and facing a tribunal or anything like that.

We were planning on giving all of them away to homeless people who would otherwise be cold in the upcoming winter. We definitely have no intention of wearing them outside even if they had said we could hold on to them.

Let them keep the jacket and do whatever they want with it.

[Brissyred]

Sounded like everyone had a stick up their arses and halfway like the climax of animal farm.

Effes approves of this.

[ChaChaMooMoo]

Effes approves of this.

Its funny you should mention that. Her boss' first name and last name spell F.S.

[mikeb58]

People who watch and enjoy a full buskers set...at a safe distance, then walk away and leave them fuck all.

[rushyman]

Got a mate, who I’m starting to think isn’t such a mate

He’s constantly asking for money to help him pay for bills, gambles excessively to try and win money to feed his kids, doesn’t earn a good wage but he’s got the same job he’s had since he was 18/19, (he’s now pushing 40) doesnt think about getting another just expects it all magically to be ok at the end of the month

I put my foot down about lending him money every time but he never takes no for an answer

They’ve got 4 kids and every time he asks for money he pulls the biggest guilt trips ever, ‘I can’t feed the kids’, ‘theyve got no clothes’ I’ve finally in recent  times saud look enough and he’s now upped the ante suggesting he’s going to do bad things to himself etc so I give in

We’ve been mates a long time but it’s a very one way thing. He’s done it again today and he knows my sister just died and I’m off work with injury. Doesnt give a shit

I know I’ve been a total mug with him now. Been delusional for a long time but can finally see him as the user he is.

[PaulF]

I hope everyone finds a mate as good as you. But doesn't take advantage to such lengths .

[Millie]

Got a mate, who I’m starting to think isn’t such a mate

He’s constantly asking for money to help him pay for bills, gambles excessively to try and win money to feed his kids, doesn’t earn a good wage but he’s got the same job he’s had since he was 18/19, (he’s now pushing 40) doesnt think about getting another just expects it all magically to be ok at the end of the month

I put my foot down about lending him money every time but he never takes no for an answer

They’ve got 4 kids and every time he asks for money he pulls the biggest guilt trips ever, ‘I can’t feed the kids’, ‘theyve got no clothes’ I’ve finally in recent  times saud look enough and he’s now upped the ante suggesting he’s going to do bad things to himself etc so I give in

We’ve been mates a long time but it’s a very one way thing. He’s done it again today and he knows my sister just died and I’m off work with injury. Doesnt give a shit

I know I’ve been a total mug with him now. Been delusional for a long time but can finally see him as the user he is.

He is not your mate.  A mate just wouldn't emotionally blackmail you like this.

[I've been a good boy]

You need to put your foot down, don't fall for his bullshit. If he does do something to himself, it's NOT on you.

[redbyrdz]

Got a mate, who I’m starting to think isn’t such a mate

He’s constantly asking for money to help him pay for bills, gambles excessively to try and win money to feed his kids, doesn’t earn a good wage but he’s got the same job he’s had since he was 18/19, (he’s now pushing 40) doesnt think about getting another just expects it all magically to be ok at the end of the month

I put my foot down about lending him money every time but he never takes no for an answer

They’ve got 4 kids and every time he asks for money he pulls the biggest guilt trips ever, ‘I can’t feed the kids’, ‘theyve got no clothes’ I’ve finally in recent  times saud look enough and he’s now upped the ante suggesting he’s going to do bad things to himself etc so I give in

We’ve been mates a long time but it’s a very one way thing. He’s done it again today and he knows my sister just died and I’m off work with injury. Doesnt give a shit

I know I’ve been a total mug with him now. Been delusional for a long time but can finally see him as the user he is.

He's using you to make up for his gambling losses.

If they're really tight on money, and you want to help out, speak to his missus and give her the money.



And sorry to hear about your sister.

[liverbloke]

Got a mate, who I’m starting to think isn’t such a mate

He’s constantly asking for money to help him pay for bills, gambles excessively to try and win money to feed his kids, doesn’t earn a good wage but he’s got the same job he’s had since he was 18/19, (he’s now pushing 40) doesnt think about getting another just expects it all magically to be ok at the end of the month

I put my foot down about lending him money every time but he never takes no for an answer

They’ve got 4 kids and every time he asks for money he pulls the biggest guilt trips ever, ‘I can’t feed the kids’, ‘theyve got no clothes’ I’ve finally in recent  times saud look enough and he’s now upped the ante suggesting he’s going to do bad things to himself etc so I give in

We’ve been mates a long time but it’s a very one way thing. He’s done it again today and he knows my sister just died and I’m off work with injury. Doesnt give a shit

I know I’ve been a total mug with him now. Been delusional for a long time but can finally see him as the user he is.

i've got a nephew who did the same with/to me including threatening to harm himself because he was 'so desperate' and i too succumbed to these 'threats'

but redbyrdz gives some great advice - if he needs money for the family's sake then either meet with him and his girl together or approach the girl separately

you have been a great friend to him, but i had to sever ties with my nephew completely, which was hard as we had a close relationship, but all he did was move on to another family member/friend and leached from them - he will never change unless he seeks proper help

it's gonna be hard but you're going to have to say no

[Barneylfc∗]

Got a mate, who I’m starting to think isn’t such a mate

He’s constantly asking for money to help him pay for bills, gambles excessively to try and win money to feed his kids, doesn’t earn a good wage but he’s got the same job he’s had since he was 18/19, (he’s now pushing 40) doesnt think about getting another just expects it all magically to be ok at the end of the month

I put my foot down about lending him money every time but he never takes no for an answer

They’ve got 4 kids and every time he asks for money he pulls the biggest guilt trips ever, ‘I can’t feed the kids’, ‘theyve got no clothes’ I’ve finally in recent  times saud look enough and he’s now upped the ante suggesting he’s going to do bad things to himself etc so I give in

We’ve been mates a long time but it’s a very one way thing. He’s done it again today and he knows my sister just died and I’m off work with injury. Doesnt give a shit

I know I’ve been a total mug with him now. Been delusional for a long time but can finally see him as the user he is.

Sorry to hear about your sister mate.

Your friend is not a friend, he's a sponger.
You need to be firm with him that you aren't financing his lifestyle anymore. Should he then follow through with his threats, that's on him for not being a man and facing his responsibilities. There's plenty of help out there if he feels he has a gambling addiction or whatever, but it really isn't your responsibility to keep bailing him out.

[So… Howard Philips]

Sorry to hear about your sister mate.

Your friend is not a friend, he's a sponger.
You need to be firm with him that you aren't financing his lifestyle anymore. Should he then follow through with his threats, that's on him for not being a man and facing his responsibilities. There's plenty of help out there if he feels he has a gambling addiction or whatever, but it really isn't your responsibility to keep bailing him out.

In one. He’s not a mingebag he’s, frankly, a parasite.

I’ve helped out mates in the past but not to that extent and I certainly wouldn’t subsidise their gambling.

Couldn’t you take a few bags of food round for the kids?

And I wouldn’t recommend meeting up with his wife. Who knows where that may end.

[afc tukrish]

In one. He’s not a mingebag he’s, frankly, a parasite.

I’ve helped out mates in the past but not to that extent and I certainly wouldn’t subsidise their gambling.

Couldn’t you take a few bags of food round for the kids?

And I wouldn’t recommend meeting up with his wife. Who knows where that may end.

Barney may have some spare white goods that need moving...

[rushyman]

Thanks for the replies everyone and well wishes

You’re all completely right. It’s taken a long time to admit to myself the guy isn’t really my friend.

I looked through our text conversation history today and it’s right there in black and white. Nothing about me, how I am etc

All him. Take take take. I’ve been pretty stupid about it really

Thanks again everyone, needed to vent about him and this is the only place I feel I could do it. I didn’t really know what thread to put it in but I think I got it spot on

[afc tukrish]

All him. Take take take. I’ve been pretty stupid about it really

Not stupid, Rushy.

It's just much easier to see when you're not in the middle of it.

Being there for your mate, which is what it was to you, isn't stupid.

[rushyman]

Not stupid, Rushy.

It's just much easier to see when you're not in the middle of it.

Being there for your mate, which is what it was to you, isn't stupid.

Cheers mate. It’s been good to get others view on it which I needed

[paulrazor]

Definitely need to give him a wide berth. You've been too good a friend

[keano7]

Thanks for the replies everyone and well wishes

You’re all completely right. It’s taken a long time to admit to myself the guy isn’t really my friend.

I looked through our text conversation history today and it’s right there in black and white. Nothing about me, how I am etc

All him. Take take take. I’ve been pretty stupid about it really

Thanks again everyone, needed to vent about him and this is the only place I feel I could do it. I didn’t really know what thread to put it in but I think I got it spot on

Did he ever pay you back?

[rushyman]

Did he ever pay you back?

Started I’d say about 10 years ago this

Stopped paying me back I’d say 5 years ago. Posdibly once or twice out of 30

[damomad]

I've a family member who's like that Rushy, although they did pay back for while, the asks started becoming more a more frequent/larger and in the end I seen it for what it was, enabling. Had to call it out for what it was, I respect myself too much to be used like that. It hurts but we are all grown ups here, frendships aren't forever.

[Divock]

A lad I know told me a good one from his work recently.

His work has a referral scheme - if you refer somebody for a vacancy and they get the job, the person making the referral gets a £500 bonus. The scheme has the obvious caveat that managers can't refer people for vacancies in their own team.

One of the managers was gaming the system by asking colleagues in his team to refer applicants that the manager knew. This was on the proviso that each colleague got to keep £100 and they would send £400 to the manager when the applicant got the job. The manager was involved in the selection process so it was a clear conflict of interest.

The manager would act like a proper loan shark when it came to recovering the referral fee, constantly casing the poor sods that he had forced to make the referrals.

The £500 bonus was subject to tax & NI. When one of the colleagues explained to the manager that she had actually received less than £400 after tax from the company herself, the manager stood his ground and continued to demand the full £400 from her. Proper shithouse.

The manager is now facing a HR investigation over all of this...