Ok its going to be a hard discussion but I want to focus on the positives on both sides rather than history.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b09y26jk/my-dad-the-peace-deal-and-me#
(a bit if histtory but in context)
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-northern-ireland-43823506 (maybe)
Is it a valid situation? Should we aspire to better than the kids or let them achieve it? or should we try (or not)?
A couple of things to bear in mind:
- Catholic does not automatically equate to Irish Nationalist
- In a 2012 (?) survey, given 3 options those polled went for, in this order 1.) remain in the UK, 2.) become independant and 3.) form a united Ireland.
I'd expect to see option #2 and a protracted struggle with the rest of the UK happen before #3. Romantic ideas of a united Ireland currently ignore the political, social, financial & logistical steps needed to actually unify the island. In short, if anyone wants a united Ireland, they have to prove to 1.) the Unionist community that unity is so overwhelmingly in their best interests that they are willing to set aside national pride to join with the ROI (it would have to be a very, very sweet cake for them to bite into it) and 2.) the population of the ROI that it won't bankrupt them to do so.
I personally wouldn't trust any Irish government not to fudge the issue or find a way to profit from it personally while the population bears the brunt of the cost for the next 4-5 generations and that population is already counting the cost of decades of financial mismanagement so are unlikely to blindly accept a half-assed proposition.
- Hard Brexit may not even give the Republic a choice, forcing either the erection of a walled & patrolled border (which neither ROI or NI wants) or a defacto Eirexit.