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kj999:
Hi RAWKers.

I really don't know what else to do to seek some solace, comfort, or even just information, so I'm coming here in the hope that someone has experienced something like this and can offer any words of ... well i don't know what I want really. I feel very disconcerted and need to hear anything that might be deemed as positive, because I am terrified and fearing the worst.

My mum is 65, and in generally decent health. Certainly has never showed a single sign of any mental or cognitive illness ever in her life. I live in Bali and I video call home to mum and dad every single Sunday evening, without fail. So I can certainly tell if something is up with either of them.

Anyway, before this weeks call, my Dad WhatsApp's me seperately (not in the group WhatsApp we have) to say "just to ward you son, in case your mum says something weird" I was like, what do you mean? He says "she's been getting easily confused a lot this week, saying things that never happened etc"

Anyway so I called, and in about 20 minute call, my mum was indeed talking nonsense, remebering events that never happened, and seemingly forgetting what she was trying to say half the time. I asked 'what did you do at the weekend' my mum answers 'we took the car to the garage to get fixed' (they don't have a car and havent had one for years). She asked me what I was doing this week i said 'watching the World Cup' and she answered 'oh, yor dad was watching a game yesterday' (he wasn't). Then she told me she had booked a table for us at a restaurant to all have dinner together, which she hadn't, and as I'm in Bali it wouldnt be something we would do normally anyway. She said 'we have visitors (which is true), we are going out for dinner' but made reference to two totally different people even tho the visitors were in the room with her.

Anyway I ended the call and was very disturbed and alarmed... it seemed like my mum was completely losing the plot.

Later that evening my dad messaged me to say that mum had discovred that she had ran out of thyroid medicine a few weeks ago and forgot to order more. A bit of relief as a lack of thyroid meds could explain her strange behaviour... but this relief was shattered when my dad went to the Doc to check and the Doc said she was taken off Thyroid meds 4 years ago... so actually unlikely to be that and is another figment of my mums imagination.

Then yesterday one of her mates turned up at the door out of the blue, apparently my mum invited her but she didnt remembr.. anyway she came in for a cuppa and my dad said he was listening to what my mum was telling her and it was another load of absolute made up events that my mum seems to have invented out of thin air, but telling her mate it happened yesterday or this week or whatever and none of it actually happened.

I'm absolutely terrified. Of course my thoughts imediately turn to those scary things, Alzhiemers or Dementia. I don't know much about them and have never lived with or had a loved one affected by them. But this doesn't seem to fit... it's come on all so suddenly, literally in a week, and she has zero previous of this, usually as sharp as a nail. Also not really 'forgetting' things, more liike she is just making things up that never happened but then telling people about it like it was real events.

She's had bloods but we have to wait a week for results  ::)
And at the speed at which she is 'deterioraring' (i hesitate to use that word...i mean the symptoms are getting worse) then i don't know what to think.

If anyone has any knowledge of this kind of thing or has heard of instances like this? I don't really know what i am expecting really but more just I am going out of my mind with worry and wondering if anyone else has experienced behaviour like this from a loved one, and what it was... :'(

telekon:
Hey mate, sorry to hear.

I have zero expertise in the field, but why didn't your dad just take her to the doctor? He should have done that at the first sign of it, like the very first instance she was saying nonsensical or untrue things?

To me, again, no medical training, it seems like the results of a stroke or aneurysm.

I'd ask your dad to take her to the hospital so that she can get a proper examination, evaluation, and testing.

All the best to you and your family.

kj999:

--- Quote from: telekon on November 22, 2022, 05:13:40 am ---Hey mate, sorry to hear.

I have zero expertise in the field, but why didn't your dad just take her to the doctor? He should have done that at the first sign of it, like the very first instance she was saying nonsensical or untrue things?

To me, again, no medical training, it seems like the results of a stroke or aneurysm.

I'd ask your dad to take her to the hospital so that she can get a proper examination, evaluation, and testing.

All the best to you and your family.

--- End quote ---

He took her when it became very apparent, and she's had bloods taken. But they said we have to wait for the bloods results now before they can do anything else.

duvva 💅:
Sorry to hear this. Again no expert, but I spent a short time in hospital 10 years ago and one chap on my ward started acting very similarly, doing strange things, forgetting stuff etc. it turned out he had developed an infection (I think it was urinary), and apparently it can bring on similar type behaviour and symptoms to a person with dementia. Once they started antibiotics he was fine again.

Obviously it donít sound great from what you describe but occasionally there can be another explanation, but equally donít want to give you any false hope.

Fingers crossed for you all

reddebs:
Hi mate really sorry that this has happened and that you're on the other side of the world and feeling so helpless.

That does sound very similar to my mum when she had a minor stroke so I'm surprised all they've done is take bloods.

Having said that it could also be an infection as mum also displayed those symptoms frequently at the onset of one.

I'm not a medic but saw enough with my mum from a young age to recognise the signs however she was an insulin dependent diabetic so any imbalances to her blood sugars would display similar symptoms.   

I'd be inclined to take her to A&E if she doesn't improve before you get her blood results and get dad to insist it's totally out of character and happened out of the blue.

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