Maybe she felt trapped and scared?
Maybe she thought he would change
who knows. when they had kids it obviously made it harder to walk away, victims sometimes feel it is their fault.
Unfortunately I know people in similar situations, a friend who married someone who beat her, she obviously was scared and intimidated and probably wondered how bad it would be if she walked away particularly as there was a child involved (would the child be safe? would the child be taken away?)
Victims somehow are made to believe it is their fault at times, a family member for instance wasnt beaten but their fella done the dirty on them a month before they were due to get married, they had a house and were together 10+ years. I was with her the day after it came out and she still wanted to marry him, because it was hard to just discard all the time they had together, it was hard to just wake up one day and go "right ill just write off the last 11 years of my life".
Back to what I was saying about victims feeling they are fault, questions she asked us that day
"am I ugly"
"is it me"
"why do you not love me anymore"
"what did I do wrong"
thankfully she found the strength to walk away but she felt scared as to what the future would hold (would she ever meet someone else?, Would she lose her house? Would she ever get another house? Would she ever have a child?)
Nicola Gallagher was bullied, so was I as a kid in school, you hope you can just ignore it and one day it will go away, you see it as weakness and failure to rat these people out, it isnt, it is actually quite brave. a lot of victims find it hard to speak up, look at Paul Stewart (ex lfc) for instance.
People need to be encouraged to speak up, not told "well you married him so thats your bad". Two sides to it, yes, but no smoke without fire either and I think she has done a brave thing.