Over the years, RAWK has been an invaluable source for both amusement, factual knowledge but also support. thank you moderators !. This specific thread has given me laughter but also tears (no names mentioned, but I think the members that have been around for a while can relate). I will not bore you with details as I am not a great writer (in my second language though) but I'll do a short summary..
I come from a working family (drinkers and alcohol around - think most managed though; kept jobs/familys etc). Been drinking over the years; some issues but somehow controlled it though.. covid - kids moving out etc - it escalated - frequency and volume - and it got out of hand.. some really bad things last year (luckily no-one got injuried etc), but my drinking problem got official within the closest family and friends, and with the officials..
Have to admit - that was the lowest I ever felt, and didnt really have much hope for the future.. After some thought and good help from two close friends; I started to feel a bit stronger and could face it..
Asked for help through the "official" system - and do sessions/talks weekly with experienced people that is helping, but not naive.. Prior to this whole issue; I wasn't too positive about therapy and councillors etc (kumba ya etc), but it probably saved me..
I have a program now with regular talks (still drink etc, but is taking regular blood samples (that is measuring- the past 3-4 weeks of alcohol consumption and giving you a score/result). 2022 with the history is not easy, but much better than 2021/2022 - managed to keep the family which is the most important item to me..
If I could offer some advice (I am not over the finish line yet - probably never will be), that will be :
* If you know that you are on a slippery/dangerous slope - try to change and not let the train hit you...
* talk to people - after my fuck-up; I have had more honest discussions with my family, my closest mates, and the "professionals" than I have ever had.. My actions have been condemned, but I have only felt warmth and support, and my mates have pretty much opened up - and we have become closer...
still a long way to go, but feeling stronger than I have done in years.. take care