Topic: Would you marry your mother in law?

[Helly]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/manchester/4284974.stm

Son and ex mum-in-law hope to wed 
By Claire Heald
BBC News 


 
Brenda at her home in Warrington
A man and his former mother-in-law have told how they hope to marry after the UK's ban on such unions was challenged in a European court.
Clive Blunden, 50, from Warrington, Cheshire, said it would be "fantastic" if he could wed Brenda, 62, his ex-wife's mother.

The European Court of Human Rights earlier this month ruled the ban on marriage between people who were in-laws is a breach of human rights.


The decision came in a case brought by a man and his daughter-in-law.

Coincidentally, that couple were also from Warrington.

'Any normal relationship'

The UK's Department for Constitutional Affairs is considering the implications of the Strasbourg judgement for British legislation.

Clive and Brenda said they had yet to take lawyers' advice on the situation, but the retired couple said they were keen to marry after 17 years together - 15 of them engaged.

  At first it was difficult, but only for a short time

Clive Blunden

They began dating four years after Clive split from his wife, Brenda's daughter.

He has two daughters from that marriage, aged 22 and 27, and five grandchildren.

Describing how he and Brenda got together in 1988, Clive said: "I used to come and see the children at the house.

"We got talking, went for a drink, a meal, like any normal relationship.

"At the time it was just like any other relationship, I had been on my own for four years."

He admitted it was "a shock" for the family at first, but said they have "built the bridges over 17 years".

  It was always done with the greatest of care, there was nothing sleazy about it

Clive Blunden

In fact, said Brenda, her ex-husband even encouraged them.

"He told me to carry on, it was nothing to do with my daughter as she had re-married," she said.

Clive admitted his children felt "pushed aside" at first, but they would have felt that anyway with any new partner.

"It was always done with the greatest of care, there was nothing sleazy about it," he said.

"Yes at first it was difficult, but only for a short time. It's our life, it's turned out fantastic."

As to whether the family would support the couple marrying, Clive said they had not discussed it but he was sure they would want them to be happy.

'Waited long enough'

The couple registered an intention to marry 12 years ago. Clive said he was later arrested and held in a police cell for seven hours.

He said it was partly the shock of that experience which made him determined to try again in light of the new judgement.

"I want the choice," Clive said. "I want to get married in my own town and not go somewhere else, I think I deserve it."

The couple have told few friends of their original connection. But they privately celebrate their "engagement" every Christmas. And they have "100 per cent support from our friends" and "a very close family".

Brenda, also a divorcee, changed her surname to her partner's in 1993 by deed poll.

They hope for a wedding at Warrington Register Office, "a do" after, followed by a honeymoon in Blackpool "because when we first met, we used to go there".

"It would be fantastic," Clive said. "I just can't describe it, we've waited long enough."

 

[Helly]

Another prime example of the world gone mad...

Should cooing at babies be banned? 
 
Do you agree that cooing over new-born babies is an infringement of their human rights?
A West Yorkshire hospital has banned visitors from cooing at new-born babies for fear their human rights are being breached and they may be at risk of infection.

But Labour MP Linda Riordan said the measures were "bureaucracy gone mad" and some new mothers have said they were astonished by the rules.

 

[Wigwamdelbert]

emmmmmm

[Helly]

indeed, looking forward to Raptors response on this one

[the good half]

Sad Fuck. Look at the set of her. These people have a combined age of 112. Utter bastards.

[SGTBabbel]

 

[anon-y-mouse]

indeed, looking forward to Raptors response on this one

Raptor is on a conference call and otherwise unavailable for comment.

[Helly]

Raptor is on a conference call and otherwise unavailable for comment.

very foolish, maybe i should answer for you then?

[morestellata]

I think I can honestly say no.The fucking witch should burn in hell.So that's deffo a no.

[Newbie]

I cannot see what the problem is.  I had no idea, nor would I have thought it would be, against the law.  They are not blood relations and they are consenting adults.  How it can be against the law is beyond me.

I suppose we could talk about the impact this could have their children/grandchildren, but in this case they have been together for 17 years already, so I am sure all kids involved are used to the relationship by now.

[hooded claw]

My first mother in law I'd have done no problem.

[Wigwamdelbert]

I cannot see what the problem is.  I had no idea, nor would I have thought it would be, against the law.  They are not blood relations and they are consenting adults.  How it can be against the law is beyond me.

I suppose we could talk about the impact this could have their children/grandchildren, but in this case they have been together for 12 years already, so I am sure all kids involved are used to the relationship by now.

Who's talking about them??

Marry MY Mother-in-law

[Forbsie]

My first mother in law I'd have done no problem.

Was one mother in law not enough? 

[the good half]

I cannot see what the problem is.  I had no idea, nor would I have thought it would be, against the law.  They are not blood relations and they are consenting adults.  How it can be against the law is beyond me.

I suppose we could talk about the impact this could have their children/grandchildren, but in this case they have been together for 12 years already, so I am sure all kids involved are used to the relationship by now.

What about the girl he married. This is 'Springer'.

PS. Claw does your ex MIL look like Elsey up there? "Say it ain't sowowow"

[Helly]

the cooing at babies is an infringement of their human rights one is fucking ridiculous.

[Newbie]

Who's talking about them??

Marry MY Mother-in-law

Sorry I was referring more to the story and following comments than Helly's question.

I wouldn't marry mine, that's for sure!

[Forbsie]

the cooing at babies is an infringement of their human rights one is fucking ridiculous.

Couldn't believe it when I read about this...mad, mad world.

[Newbie]

the cooing at babies is an infringement of their human rights one is fucking ridiculous.

Now that one is plain stupid.  Someone with too much time on their hands has come up with that!

[hooded claw]

Was one mother in law not enough? 

 

PS. Claw does your ex MIL look like Elsey up there? "Say it ain't sowowow"

Nah, she was tidy. Her daughter was the problem 

[the good half]

Touchè

[jambutty]

The mere thought is totally repulsive.

But a few here might remember a time when Bill Wyman, then 50 something, was dating a young 20 something.   His 30 something son thought he could shake Dad up by dating Bill's girls' mother.

Made me think if both ladies bore a child through that relationship, would not each child have been grandparent and grandchild to each other?

[hooded claw]

shouldn't do it, girls. claudia schiffer says it'll give you wrinkles

That has to be the single most offensive thing I've seen for ages, that ad.

[Newbie]

The mere thought is totally repulsive.

Just out of interest, what is it that repulses you?  Is it their age difference or the fact they were once in-laws?  Or is it just because there are kids/grandkids involved?

[jambutty]

Just out of interest, what is it that repulses you?  Is it their age difference or the fact they were once in-laws?  Or is it just because there are kids/grandkids involved?

She looks like fucking Godzilla!

[Newbie]

Made me think if both ladies bore a child through that relationship, would not each child have been grandparent and grandchild to each other?

oh, and the relationships would be:

Dad/Daughter would be parents, son would be half brother and Mum would be grandma.

Son/Mother would be parents, daughter would be half sister and dad would be grandad.

All very complicated.

[Newbie]

She looks like fucking Godzilla!

So if she was a stunner you wouldn't care either way.  Which to me also says, if it was an older bloke with a younger woman you probably wouldn't care at all? 

Anyway, I don't really care enough about this to debate it at length - consenting adults is enough for me.

But I personally would not marry my mother in law! 

[Hoppy]

Marry......no!

Shag........most definately!

[kevindublin]

marry her no.

Id be quite happy to hang out the back of my bird's ma, if i thought she would let me though

[Terry de Niro]

My first mother in law I'd have done no problem.

I would have with mine too....

[Barney_Rubble]

Why bother having laws at all? Bound to infringe someone's "human rights" disallowing something.

Why stop at in-laws? What about pigs, sheep, chickens? Why not let 3-year-olds get married?

And if we had no laws, all the lawyers would have to go out and get real jobs...

[Terry de Niro]

Why bother having laws at all? Bound to infringe someone's "human rights" disallowing something.

Why stop at in-laws? What about pigs, sheep, chickens? Why not let 3-year-olds get married?

And if we had no laws, all the lawyers would have to go out and get real jobs...

Have you been watching them mucky vids again Barney lad?.....

[Barney_Rubble]

Have you been watching them mucky vids again Barney lad?.....

No but I been to Wales a few times...

[BSBW]

Ive just seen this thread and the title took my breath away and then I nearly puked my fuckin ring up.  LIKE FUCK I WOULD!