Hey guys
I know at times i get a lot of flak for my sources of information, particularly Egyptian sand structures. But I want to have a serious discussion, about something that I ponder pretty much every time i'm in a situation with challenges.
With the more openness about discussing mental health, there is now less shame by men to talk about their feelings. I remember watching in 2008 a documentary on LFC TV about fans stories about great European nights, and particularly football fandom. One of the people on that show, (forgive me i don't remember his name) talked about how if he said to his brother he loved him, his response would be "less of that la" but it was okay to express your love for your team or a football idol.
This is mainly attached to a caveman ideology that men HAVE to be tough. And that not talking about feelings and having - muscles, cars, status, power and money are symbols of alpha.
I don't believe that. When I think of alpha, I think of Rafa Benitez. Someone who has been through hardship, but always kept fighting and despite moving to several jobs, never sold his family home in Liverpool, as his daughter's stability triumphs him being alone in Naples in a flat.
Another person I think is alpha is a man called James Marshall. He is a life-coach, who has lived in various countries, and does various social freedom exercises, like dancing in the street. As he feels, that to be comfortable as the weirdo, is the only way to be comfortable as the boss, the cool guy etc. This was done without cars, expensive clothes etc. He went from a bullied kid in high school, to CEO of The Natural Lifestyles.
Here is some context on what I am talking about. A six minute video on The Modern Alpha Male.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hN-25Osr10Liam McRae also talks about this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVYeA-YL2AgHe talks about how he went to an event called Menergy, where men were taught to express their feelings. He also talked about how the pros and cons of different archetypes.
We here on Rawk are of different ages, shapes, sizes and cultures. We have different beliefs. What do you guys think an alpha is, based on what you see now, and what you thought when you were younger?
Were all football fans, and are around men quite a lot. What sort of behaviours do you see? And are they helpful?
We are living in an age, where men are more free than ever to be any type of archetype they want. Let's remember the beauty of that when discussing this.