I’ve got to pipe up because I could well be reading one of Carl’s posts here. Listen if you can to the above advice, but for the love of god please try and keep talking about it and tell anyone you are close to what you are going through because as an observer to watching my brother literally die in front of my eyes this has to be the biggest step. Share your pain, your fears and also your triumphs. You are a young man with a future, don’t throw it to the wind, take every single day dry as a battle won in your war. You have an amazing support network on here. Use it. I’m happy to help where I can too.
As RAWKites states ... you’ll never walk alone... not while you are here with us xx
Thank you Helen. Particularly today I know it isn't easy receiving a notification of a reply in this thread. What you said is why I'm posting in here again. I am so sorry for your loss, Carl was so helpful to me, when drunk and sober. You remind me of my sister when she had known I was drinking. I avoided talking about it, and hid it from everyone I could, but in the end all I'm doing is pushing away anyone that cares about me to continue this habit. It's counter productive but effective in continuing it.
BRdispatch05, as much as I'm reluctant to admit it : Jim is right in everything he has written (to you) so far.
I've dealt with anger issues for the most part of my life. I know this is the Alcohol thread but I wanted to say that no matter your issue changing it requires determination and willpower. I came to a point where my wife sat me down with my children and asked them to tell me to my face how scared I made them when I had my tantrums. That hit me right between the eyes and I started to be aware of how I behaved. Furthermore I added counselling to the mix and I have now managed to be able to control my anger when it starts boiling inside of me. I'm not saying it's easy at all, and I can imagine having a physical craving on top of the mental things must be even harder.
But as Jim says we're here for you mate. Tell us what's going on and we're more than willing to help and support!! YNWA!
Appreciate that Bennekov. I know talking about it will help, but I need to talk about it when sober. I resist this thread like it's the plague when I am. I have no idea why.
Something struck a chord with me when I read this part. The idea that you can live a lie and hide things so long that you actually think you have everyone fooled, when in reality they all know too well but don't know how to approach you about it so they ignore it or flirt around it. At least I think this is what you're saying in a way.
Jim's spot on. Wanting is very easy. What isn't easy is action. Admitting you have a problem is indeed a big step but you have to continue to move forward from that point. If you're lucky, years could pass and you could find yourself still resting on the idea that 'hey, I've admitted it, so I'm getting somewhere.' Things wont change or be fixed overnight, but it is all about progress.
I've not had need to venture into this thread often but RAWK has been a godsend for me over the years with other issues. The anxiety and depression threads, this alcohol thread started by our friend Carl, one or two others. They are all linked by a daisy chain I feel, at least very loosely. If you or anyone else needs to talk via PM you are always welcome to message me, it wont be a problem and I'll be happy to help if I can. I might just be another voice in the small hours, or a conversation about something else might develop which occupies you and lifts your mood one percent. Every little does indeed help.
Keep your head up mate.
I know admitting it is a big step. The first. But you're right in that nothing happens just knowing that information. I knew damn well I was going to drink again tonight, hence the lack of response til now. I've known what I am for some time now. It's funny, the only time I wish I wasn't drunk, is when I am. And the next morning. When I'm desperately trying to recover to interact with other people trying to prove I'm not.They actually probably don't know, as anyone I tell after I get to know them would have never guessed it.
I just wish there were a pill or "perfect advice" to stop me from killing myself essentially. I know that's what's happening, and at the same time accepting I'm still alive so I'm fine.
I'm simply existing. Not contributing anything to this world worthwhile. And I hate that. Why can't I see myself that way sober. I just don't care when I am.