Only just seen this, good to read.
How is it going?
Good question and thank you for asking. Actually quite a well timed question.
This last Saturday was five weeks exactly that she texted me looking for 'help' for me to come to her rescue when she was pretty sick and wanted a ride home from 150 miles away.
It is the second time that I had quit booze and this time around find it really easy. I had gotten into the habit of wine at bedtime and so I simply substitute that trigger with a glass of milk and some health endangering crisps. It is the first time she has seriously tried to quit and was not able. She is however able to limit herself to one glass of wine when we go out to dinner and then sneaks in a margarita sometimes but only has one. We have so far avoided all booze related drama on my side and her side.
That is not to say the relationship is without drama and within 12 days she was already suggesting we quit dating for some reason or another. Repeat that twice since, but neither has booze as a contributing factor.
First time round I was totally infatuated with her, she really is a gorgeous lady, but now after seven weeks of being alone and in fact going on a few dates with someone else, it has been a bit hard to fall in love to the same level. We had a weekend away this last weekend as it was Thanksgiving last Thursday and pretty much everyone had a long weekend. She has decided that now she wants to be serious again and immediately go back to where we were before. I feel more cautious and am taking it a bit slower.
This weekend as it was just us, we decided on a booze amnesty and allow ourselves to drink on Saturday night. We had two wines each in late afternoon, then I drank two pints of beer pre dinner (as she didn't want hers), then shared a bottle of wine at dinner. We had a great time and no booze drama.
But oh my gosh, I had the absolute worst hang over on Sunday morning which totally ruined the entire day and I had to go to bed as soon as I got home Sunday afternoon. The hang over was the another big motivator to just forget booze. I don't need booze to have a good time and certainly don't need as it can lead to the bad times.
We were serious enough last time to discuss marriage and blended families. We have both avoided that conversation so far but we will have to have that conversation again soon.
But frankly the relationship I have with booze is so much better.I don't have any in the house anymore and I make clearer decisions although I am tired all the time as I am not sleeping anywhere near as well.