Author Topic: Alcohol Issues (Read 209711 times)

Upanishad · « **Reply #800 on:** April 9, 2010, 08:48:20 PM »

I'd recommend this book, absolutely in all seriousness.
http://www.redandwhitekop.com/forum/index.php?topic=256265.0

Alcohol helps people escape because it breaks up harmful thought patterns & emotions. Well the contents of this book, if taken seriously, can help to do this without the need for alcohol, or any other addictive behaviour.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #801 on:** April 10, 2010, 12:32:19 AM »

ok people drunk tonight, how is everyone doing?

WILF · « **Reply #802 on:** April 15, 2010, 10:48:23 AM »

Good afternoon all, how is everyone doing?

I have started drinking again and so far have managed to be restrained and not get drunk.
My friends are still being very supportive and only drinking moderately when we go out together so it is easier for me to keep control.

Also as I am drinking much less my tolerance has dropped dramatically, it's much cheaper

The feeling of wanting to get obliterated is still there, but so is my fear of dire consequences which is good.
I am trying to take life one day at a time and make every day a good day, even if it is only in some small way.

As my body is slowly recovering form the effects of being hit by a car I can go to the gym and do some exercise which helps me relax and feel healthier.

So , all in all things are going ok, so far.

Thanks again to all of you good people who helped me a lot a few weeks ago and good luck to everyone with your issues.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #803 on:** April 15, 2010, 12:01:50 PM »

nice one WILF. glad you seem to have it under control. im moving back to my hometown in 3 months so im hoping that will help me reduce my intake even more. and the part about the tolerance to alcohol being down is right. get pissed cheaper

i didnt touch booze for 3-4 days and had a pint and was tipsy. ahhhhhh.

spen71 · « **Reply #804 on:** April 17, 2010, 08:53:15 AM »

Well after another 3 weeks off the booze I have been drinking for the last week. Been looking at some programmes and I am going to try SMART. Not sure what it will be like but I have to try for my sanity.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #805 on:** April 17, 2010, 01:43:35 PM »

birthday today, so i'll be out soon. probably have some sort of disaster, i'll be in touch.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #806 on:** April 17, 2010, 01:54:14 PM »

good idea spen. altho the 3 weeks off was good. 3 off one on is a great start. and take care Paul, get pissed but watch yourself. and happy burfdee mate. have a good one.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #807 on:** April 18, 2010, 08:16:24 PM »

well after a bad day im gonna get so fucking wankered im gonna puke my ring up. fuck it.

AndyInVA · « **Reply #808 on:** April 18, 2010, 09:44:23 PM »

Shame. That does sound like a fairly self destructive thing to say.

I hope tomorrow feels better.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #809 on:** April 19, 2010, 08:07:52 AM »

im sorry andy but today feels just as bad as yesterday which is why im half pissed at 8am. i need to mave away from the ppl that im using as an excuse to drink. sad i know but i dunno how else to try and take my mind off things.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #810 on:** April 19, 2010, 12:57:00 PM »

whats going on carl

jason23 · « **Reply #811 on:** April 19, 2010, 01:06:35 PM »

Carl, what's going on mate? Thought you were moving?

jason23 · « **Reply #812 on:** April 19, 2010, 01:07:57 PM »

Quote from: And Could He Play on April 19, 2010, 12:57:00 PM

whats going on carl

Happy belated Birthday for the other day Paul. Hope you had a good day without losing to much control and that all is well with you, the missus and your little 'un.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #813 on:** April 19, 2010, 01:24:31 PM »

thanks alot mate, everything is sound, had a good night out. been on it a couple of nights this weekend, nothing mad though.

WILF · « **Reply #814 on:** April 19, 2010, 03:09:14 PM »

Sorry to hear about your problems Harvest. Sometimes moving away from people is necessary, unfortunately. Hang in there mate and I hope you can make some progress soon.

And Could He Play, it is nice going out and having a good time without getting hammered

And Could He Play · « **Reply #815 on:** April 19, 2010, 03:21:57 PM »

Quote from: WILF on April 19, 2010, 03:09:14 PM

Sorry to hear about your problems Harvest. Sometimes moving away from people is necessary, unfortunately. Hang in there mate and I hope you can make some progress soon.

And Could He Play, it is nice going out and having a good time without getting hammered

Yeah well better, dont get me wrong when i'm out i have a good drink like, just knocked the bevvying in the house in the head. probably down to about two nights a week now though, although may go out tonight to watch the game.

JLStretton · « **Reply #816 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:59:05 AM »

Long time no post, same old problems been on it hard, going abroad didnt pan out, maybe do that later in year, but thought no point running away from my problems, need to address them NOW. hopefully the next time I post in here will be cause I have been off it for at least a week, if I manage that then things will be on the up, as the last time i was off the ale for a week was years ago. no more excusses blah blah etc etc ........................

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #817 on:** April 21, 2010, 08:24:59 AM »

i now what my main problem is and im moving away from it on the 18th july. just gotta hang in there till then. the fire was a dumb fucking indication of what im doing to myself.

spen71 · « **Reply #818 on:** April 21, 2010, 08:26:48 AM »

Quote from: Harvest Fields on April 21, 2010, 08:24:59 AM

i now what my main problem is and im moving away from it on the 18th july. just gotta hang in there till then. the fire was a dumb fucking indication of what im doing to myself.

It gave most of RAWK a laugh but seriously look after yourself.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #819 on:** April 21, 2010, 08:36:38 AM »

its funny in its stupidity. i just went nuts for a few days. time to calm it down again.

WILF · « **Reply #820 on:** April 21, 2010, 12:52:14 PM »

Harvest mate it is a funny story falling on the bonfire an all but just like me stepping in front a truck and flying through the air the consequences could be a serious death or even worse

Change something mate, I know its fuckin difficult , and I don't know you from a hole in the wall but I'm sure you're a goodfella and can have loads of happiness in the future if you decide to hang around for a few more years.
You might even see us win the League again some time

All the best and hang in there

WILF · « **Reply #821 on:** April 21, 2010, 12:55:51 PM »

Quote from: JLStretton on April 21, 2010, 01:59:05 AM

Long time no post, same old problems been on it hard, going abroad didnt pan out, maybe do that later in year, but thought no point running away from my problems, need to address them NOW. hopefully the next time I post in here will be cause I have been off it for at least a week, if I manage that then things will be on the up, as the last time i was off the ale for a week was years ago. no more excusses blah blah etc etc ........................

Sorry to hear you're struggling, don't be too hard on yourself, it can a very long hard road.
One thing I find which helps at the moment is to do one positive thing every day and then give myself some praise for that.
This helps me to not get pissed.

All the best, and keep going

And Could He Play · « **Reply #822 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:07:27 PM »

whats this bonfire story carl?

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #823 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:23:09 PM »

ah paul. its been locked. i was wasted. beyond wasted. was unconcious for at least 5 mins. wasnt breathing etc. my mate was about to give me mouth to mouth etc. she told me to sit still, she turned round i went to get up and fell hand/face first into the bonfire. made a mess of my hand and arm and hair. she then carried me to bed and i didnt know what id done till 4am when i woke up in severe pain. i gotta get a grip. when i fuck up i do it royally.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #824 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:24:52 PM »

Fucking hell mate, madness that. you need to come down a level fast matey.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #825 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:27:50 PM »

i was doin ok then my ex got another bloke and its torn me to shreds.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #826 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:32:21 PM »

Quote from: Harvest Fields on April 21, 2010, 01:27:50 PM

i was doin ok then my ex got another bloke and its torn me to shreds.

Ah, that explains a lot. Thats what started sending me off the rails.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #827 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:38:57 PM »

i knew she was seeing someone cos i had 3rd party info. its just when she told me that hope i had of it being shit disapeared. i was final. and i love her. but i fucked up and lost it all. i had it made. poxy booze.

PeterJM · « **Reply #828 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:47:42 PM »

Quote from: Harvest Fields on April 21, 2010, 01:38:57 PM

i knew she was seeing someone cos i had 3rd party info. its just when she told me that hope i had of it being shit disapeared. i was final. and i love her. but i fucked up and lost it all. i had it made. poxy booze.

I know it sounds difficult right now but you can't look back at what could have been.You need to focus on the future.

I had drink issues for a long while where i was on a path to self destruction.I was drinking to hide my depression and realised i was stuck between a rock and hard place(Alcohol or depression).The only one that i could stop was the alcohol so it gradually got cut down.I still suffer with depression but its a lot clearer now that i don't drink to excess.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #829 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:50:14 PM »

andf i also know that know its not easy. i appreciate your comments. i just seem be on a course to oblivion. i honestly think im fucked.

PeterJM · « **Reply #830 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:52:05 PM »

Do you know why you drink?

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #831 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:53:12 PM »

cos it removes me from the pain of reality and helps me forget or not give a shit about my probs.

Chakan · « **Reply #832 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:56:38 PM »

Quote from: Harvest Fields on April 21, 2010, 01:53:12 PM

cos it removes me from the pain of reality and helps me forget or not give a shit about my probs.

which are still there when you sober up.

PeterJM · « **Reply #833 on:** April 21, 2010, 01:59:04 PM »

Thats exactly the same reasons why i was drinking.I'm not gonna come over all saintly and say i saw the light and cutting down was my decision.When i was drinking i was doing seriously stupid things and being verbally abusive to family and friends.I couldn't live with myself because of that and came seriously close to putting an end to it permanently.

You need to confront what causes your pain and your problems.

spen71 · « **Reply #834 on:** April 21, 2010, 02:03:32 PM »

Alright Peter.

Are you sure you are not my twin. What you have described sounds exactly like what happens and what has happened to me.

Sr Harvest Fiields · « **Reply #835 on:** April 21, 2010, 02:04:12 PM »

i but i cant. i think im the main problem. im disappointed in me. i feel nothing but contempt for me. i dont like what i see in the mirror.

AndyInVA · « **Reply #836 on:** April 21, 2010, 02:14:07 PM »

Thats a pretty low opinion to have of yourself.

Its not normal.

Its called depression, plain and simple.

Either you move earlier than you planned or you seriously limit your intake to avoid the seld destructive tendencies.

At the end of the dy, your ex is just a woman and she should not be ruling your life like this.

Its easy to say I know, but you are letting other people have control of your life and put you down.

Try to keep your chin up and move on as quickly as possible.

spen71 · « **Reply #837 on:** April 21, 2010, 02:14:26 PM »

Quote from: Harvest Fields on April 21, 2010, 02:04:12 PM

i but i cant. i think im the main problem. im disappointed in me. i feel nothing but contempt for me. i dont like what i see in the mirror.

Take my advice with a pinch of salt if you want but I really think you need to go and talk to a Doctor. He/she might be good to talk to or know someone like Aquaris who can help you with the drink.

And Could He Play · « **Reply #838 on:** April 21, 2010, 02:58:18 PM »

Quote from: Chakan on April 21, 2010, 01:56:38 PM

which are still there when you sober up.

Yeah, true but when your depressed/strssed out over something, even a four hour break from it is heaven, think carl will agree. Me and my bird was split up for a year, she started seeing someone else, found out now it went on for five months, i only found out about them a few weeks before they finished, every night i'd sit there suicidle, so when i drunk etc it took the pain away. yes it was there the next day but just that short relief was heaven. Back with her now, although were in the middle of more dome3stics not drink related so havent stayed in the house for three nights.

Chakan · « **Reply #839 on:** April 21, 2010, 03:04:31 PM »

Quote from: And Could He Play on April 21, 2010, 02:58:18 PM

Yeah, true but when your depressed/strssed out over something, even a four hour break from it is heaven, think carl will agree. Me and my bird was split up for a year, she started seeing someone else, found out now it went on for five months, i only found out about them a few weeks before they finished, every night i'd sit there suicidle, so when i drunk etc it took the pain away. yes it was there the next day but just that short relief was heaven. Back with her now, although were in the middle of more dome3stics not drink related so havent stayed in the house for three nights.

Fair enough, a temporary release is only that though. I have tried to stay out of this thread cause quite frankly I have never had a problem with alcohol so can't either relate or give advice as to how to deal with it.

Although have had bouts of depression. I just found that talking to people and being able to deal with myself alone is a big part of "getting on the right track". Also there needs to be a willingness to change. To finally look in the mirror and go I don't want to be like this anymore. It's one of the hardest soul searching experiences on can do. To just look at yourself and say "alright, fair enough, lets do something about it".

Anwyay @H_F I really hope you get better. I don't know you from a bar of soap, but there are people all around you with the same experiences and who have gone through what you are going through. Send a PM to one of them or get a number and call them. Talking to a human voice about it starts a road of recovery.

And judging by you starting a thread on your alcohol issues says to me that you want to change. I hope you find the happiness you deserve, and believe me we all deserve happiness.