Topic: Cancer

[Caligula?]

Best wishes to anyone out there who has or knows anybody with the disease.

My father was diagnosed about a year ago with colon cancer. *Knock on wood* he has since been cancer free, and was able to completely rid himself of it due to early detection. It's a horrible fucking thing and just the diagnosis is enough to change your life and those around you for the worse.

You have to question the world we live in when the leaders of our world are more concerned with spending trillions of dollars/euros/whatever for weapons and military, and at the same time reducing national budgets for things like the treatment and or possible cures for diseases like cancer. 

[kitster]

So sick of this fucking disease. =(

[Sr Harvest Fiields]

Thoughts are with you and your Dad Kit. Seems you have lost enough in the last few years to this.

[-HH-]

So sick of this fucking disease. =(

Thinking of you mate.

[Bennekov]

Thinking of you and your dad, Kit. YNWA

[archie]

Bumping this thread and hope people don't mind.
I am running (ok fastish walking) the London marathon this year.

I am doing it for www.helpthehospices.org.uk

See my sig if you would like to give me a couple of quid. Any donations gratefully appreciated.

Many thanks 

A

[koppitekop11]

Two very good friends of mine (brothers) have just lost their dad to this. Went in hospital 4 weeks ago with a headache, got the news this morning that he had passed away. Was only 65

Absolutely devastated. Can anyone give me some advice on how I should speak to them? I sent them a text earlier trying to console them, but obviously that's of little consolation to them. Anyone who has had similar experiences, I don't want to bring up bad memories but if you could tell me what comforted you during your time of grief I would really appreciate it. I'll leave them for the rest of today, they need to look after their sisters and mum so don't need me butting in, but how long do I leave it?

Thanks everyone

[markcd]

not being funny, but don't try and find something to say that will make them feel better, cos there isn't anything really. Maybe just let them know that you're thinking of them, and if there's anything they need, that you're there for them.

From experience, what freaked me out when I lost my mum was that people talking to me split into 2 groups; the ones who had lost someone really close, and were comfortable talking to me, and the ones who hadn't, who either avoided me, or mumbled "sorry about your ma..." The thing that messed me up for a while was realising I'd moved from one group to the other. Does that even make any sense?

[Maggie May]

It was kind of you to send the text, but give it a couple of days and then offer your practical help with anything that needs doing - any running around and such - there's always loads to do.  And be ready to talk or listen to them if they indicate that's what they want.  As Markcd says, some people mumble/avoid - they're not being unkind, they're terrified of upsetting the bereaved, but it does make the bereaved feel isolated. 

[koppitekop11]

Thanks guys. I appreciate the advice.

[Bennekov]

Koppitekop11 Maggie and markcd have summed it up perfectly. Be there for them and offer any help or a shoulder to lean/cry on when it's needed. That's all you can do and in their state right now it's very much needed / appreciated.

Trust me even if they don't tell which they probably won't because their heads are full of emotions and practical thoughts it's a big help for them to know you're there for them if they need you.

God bless!

[lionel_messias]

Best wishes to everyone on here.

I just wanted to say I have seen a picture of our Gary Ablett which was posted by Oliver Kay, from the Mirror website. Its shows how he was before he died from the condition non-Hodgkin lymphoma, which also took my uncle many years ago I should say.

I just can't post any more today after seeing that. RIP Gary and all the best to everyone on here.

[۩ Imperator ۩]

My prayers and very best wishes to this remarkable young lady.

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

[Crimson_Tank]

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

That is brilliant news, well done to all who contributed.

[TSC]

Earlier in this thread I posted about my mum dying (15months ago now) with cancer.  Just before she was diagnosed the next door neighbour was dianosed and given 3 months.  He survived almost 18months but sadly died this week.  Was only 49. 

On a brighter note I was reading the papers this week and stories in there about how some of the stuff within aspirin has now been found to fight cancer successfully, so maybe a bit of hope for those diagnosed in future.

Aspirin appears to be a hidden miracle drug somewhat - every so often the medics discover another benefit re its use.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-17443454

[androulla]

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

That is fabulous news. I'm so glad to hear that her therapy is going well. Her positive attitude will help her to get through so much of what she is facing.

Please keep us posted on rawk.

[Bennekov]

I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark

[-HH-]

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

Brilliant that Mark, keep us updated on her progress. Great to see the success of the fundraising too.

[koppitekop11]

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

Thats brilliant news mate

On a similar note, if anybody could donate whatever they have spare (no matter how little) to this great cause it would be greatly appreciated. As said earlier in this thread, very good friends of mine lost their dad to Leukaemia and are trying to raise as much money as they can to help a great charity. Thanks everyone, it means a lot

http://www.justgiving.com/John-McCann

[macca888]

My thoughts are with everybody who has posted on here about how they've been affected by this disease. I'd love to be able to read through it in more depth, but it honestly just makes me feel sick to the pit of my stomach. A friend's mum recently dies, and now my best mate's uncle has only got a short time to live and it makes me mad. Worse than that though, my eldest sister is just going through Chemotherapy for the third time with breast cancer at the moment. She found out she had it for the third time a few days before Christmas. After the chemo has finished she's got to have a double mastectomy at the end of May, followed by a longish course of radium. Then the reconstructive surgery starts. She's a braver person than me and I think her strength and resolve has seen her through. She's a lesson for everyone and my absolute hero and inspiration. My apologies for not popping into this thread enough to wish people well, but good luck and my very best wishes with all your personal battles.

Take care everybody,

Sean.

[Lady_Brandybuck]

My thoughts are with everybody who has posted on here about how they've been affected by this disease. I'd love to be able to read through it in more depth, but it honestly just makes me feel sick to the pit of my stomach. A friend's mum recently dies, and now my best mate's uncle has only got a short time to live and it makes me mad. Worse than that though, my eldest sister is just going through Chemotherapy for the third time with breast cancer at the moment. She found out she had it for the third time a few days before Christmas. After the chemo has finished she's got to have a double mastectomy at the end of May, followed by a longish course of radium. Then the reconstructive surgery starts. She's a braver person than me and I think her strength and resolve has seen her through. She's a lesson for everyone and my absolute hero and inspiration. My apologies for not popping into this thread enough to wish people well, but good luck and my very best wishes with all your personal battles.

Take care everybody,

Sean.

All the best to your sister Sean, she's a true fighter.

[Sr Harvest Fiields]

Sorry to hear that Sean. Send her my wishes mate.

[Bennekov]

All the best to your sister Sean, she's a true fighter.

Sorry to hear that Sean. Send her my wishes mate.

Seconded...

[koppitekop11]

Seconded...

I'l third that as well.

Hope everything goes okay mate. People who suffer from this horrible disease are truly inspirational. All the best 

[Crimson_Tank]

Sean, it sounds like she is fighter. I hope it all goes well mate.

In other news one of my best mate's father was just cleared and listed as 'in remission' from his prostate cancer this afternoon.

Needless to say we are all well made up about the news.

[Crosby Nick]

Sean, it sounds like she is fighter. I hope it all goes well mate.

In other news one of my best mate's father was just cleared and listed as 'in remission' from his prostate cancer this afternoon.

Needless to say we are all well made up about the news.

Nice one mate - always a welcome boost to read some good news on here.

Good luck to your sister Macca - thoughts are with you.

Cheers for the update Imperator - sounds like she is progressing as well as could be hoped.

[۩ Imperator ۩]

A quick update - she is now half way through her 10 week programme of proton therapy and all is apparently going well. I think the first few weeks in the US were an adventure, but now she's just bored!

Had a fundraiser in school today among her year group, and the kids and parents were so generous, many bringing £20 or more in with them to add to the coffers. I was able to add £100 of my own and £80 of donations gathered from generous RAWK users and I think the total at the end of today had pushed past the £1000 mark, which should certainly help to ease the cost of all the hotels and flights etc. Thanks again for the generosity of RAWK.

Now up to £2031 raised to help the family. I am made up!

[Sr Harvest Fiields]

Great news mate.

[Manix]

I had the yearly appointment with my oncologist last week and I am chuffed to hell to be told I am in my 5th year of being cancer free.

 

[Crimson_Tank]

I had the yearly appointment with my oncologist last week and I am chuffed to hell to be told I am in my 5th year of being cancer free.

 

Fantastic news.

Now up to £2031 raised to help the family. I am made up!

that is most excellent news.

[Bennekov]

Now up to £2031 raised to help the family. I am made up!

Please send the family my best wishes...

[John C]

I had the yearly appointment with my oncologist last week and I am chuffed to hell to be told I am in my 5th year of being cancer free.

 

Superb news, really is.

[Redcap]

Source: www.xkcd.com

The creator of the comics's fiancee was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer a couple of years ago.

[Chinbits]

My 84 year old Nan is really starting to struggle after being diagnosed at the beginning of the year. She's being moved into a hospice today but I'd be surprised if she lasts another few weeks. I kind of want her to pass away sooner rather than later as she is in pain but feel guilty for feeling that way.

[mat106]

I had the yearly appointment with my oncologist last week and I am chuffed to hell to be told I am in my 5th year of being cancer free.

 

So very happy for you!

[Sr Harvest Fiields]

My 84 year old Nan is really starting to struggle after being diagnosed at the beginning of the year. She's being moved into a hospice today but I'd be surprised if she lasts another few weeks. I kind of want her to pass away sooner rather than later as she is in pain but feel guilty for feeling that way.

When my Mum died last year i just thought ' about time ' I have very personal reasons for that. For my Dad last year i wanted him to go as it wasnt him lying there, was just a body in pain. Its not what he would have wanted. I think its a more common thought than we think. It does sound callous thinking like that, but imo its more humane if thats the right word.

[Bennekov]

My 84 year old Nan is really starting to struggle after being diagnosed at the beginning of the year. She's being moved into a hospice today but I'd be surprised if she lasts another few weeks. I kind of want her to pass away sooner rather than later as she is in pain but feel guilty for feeling that way.

Tell you what mate. My dad died at 56 from this fucker of a disease and after 8 months of him fighting I thought "Thank God he's in a better, more peaceful and pain free place now". So there's absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty eventhough I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. God bless...

[rob1966]

My 84 year old Nan is really starting to struggle after being diagnosed at the beginning of the year. She's being moved into a hospice today but I'd be surprised if she lasts another few weeks. I kind of want her to pass away sooner rather than later as she is in pain but feel guilty for feeling that way.

I lay on the hospital bed cuddling my Mum, she was out of it but the nurses said she could hear and told her I loved her and that it was time for her to let go. She was a shell of the person she'd been 4 weeks before, she was like a skeleton and she'd fought like mad for the 3 weeks since the diagnosis (lung, bone and breast), the docs had told us she had 3 days, but she wanted to see my wedding in the Sept. Eventually it was time and for the best.

[Chinbits]

When my Mum died last year i just thought ' about time ' I have very personal reasons for that. For my Dad last year i wanted him to go as it wasnt him lying there, was just a body in pain. Its not what he would have wanted. I think its a more common thought than we think. It does sound callous thinking like that, but imo its more humane if thats the right word.

Tell you what mate. My dad died at 56 from this fucker of a disease and after 8 months of him fighting I thought "Thank God he's in a better, more peaceful and pain free place now". So there's absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty eventhough I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. God bless...

I lay on the hospital bed cuddling my Mum, she was out of it but the nurses said she could hear and told her I loved her and that it was time for her to let go. She was a shell of the person she'd been 4 weeks before, she was like a skeleton and she'd fought like mad for the 3 weeks since the diagnosis (lung, bone and breast), the docs had told us she had 3 days, but she wanted to see my wedding in the Sept. Eventually it was time and for the best.

Thanks guys. Hopefully it's soon and as pain free as possible.

[androulla]

Now up to £2031 raised to help the family. I am made up!

That's fantastic!!