Author Topic: At what age should you grow up? (Read 1917 times)

Col · « **on:** September 26, 2008, 08:21:42 PM »

Go on then, how old were you when you decided to knuckle down, get a proper job, and get some stability?

Or haven't you? Are you still young enough to bum around, travelling and taking whatever comes your way? Or do you have the Peter-Pan mentailty, where you're really far too old to be thinking like the above but you do anyway?

Is 20 too young to get settled? Is 30 too old? Obviously everyones' situations are different, so in an ideal world, when would you play the 'growing up' card?

Party Phil · « **Reply #1 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:25:54 PM »

never had much opportunity to do anything but knuckle down and get a job

scouser4eva · « **Reply #2 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:28:05 PM »

I Like Boobs · « **Reply #3 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:29:47 PM »

I think it's a good question. It's different for each individual. Some people (including me) settle down very young, everything fucks up and then you have to start again in your mid to late twenties - a time where a lot of people haven't even grown up once

AllyouneedisRush · « **Reply #4 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:30:38 PM »

Not sure you choose when to grow up.... It tends to happen with responsibility..... getting a mortgage was when I had to get myself sensible, but I don't think I truly grew up until I had kids...

GinKop · « **Reply #5 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:31:42 PM »

Very good question - had to knuckle down during my 2nd year at uni, otherwise face retaking the first year. Think I grew up a bit then and looked at the bigger picture a bit more.

Don't think I'll fully grow up until I've got some dependents.

MisterLee · « **Reply #6 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:33:29 PM »

20 is way too young...get travelling and do as much as you can, you never know whats round the corner.

Having a proper job doesnt mean you're settled. I've just turned 30 have a career and still go nuts, maybe not to as much of an extreme though.

I've mates with wives and kids who tell me they're jealous that I can still run about. But then again I get a bit jealous of what they have sometimes...

Joe Rogans Chin · « **Reply #7 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:37:31 PM »

Somwhere between 25 and 30, the later being the very latest.

potatomato33 · « **Reply #8 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:39:07 PM »

I'm not growing up until I'm 28!

waittillmay · « **Reply #9 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:39:36 PM »

I'm 27, i have a kid, a house and a job. I still look around me at all the grown ups.... $:-\$

theCanadian · « **Reply #10 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:40:52 PM »

Early 20's.

Billy The Kid. · « **Reply #11 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:43:20 PM »

I was arsing about until i was 23. Had a reasonably good job but I was just living for the weekends. I was saving fuck all and my wages just went on football, booze, and CD's. Eventually I said fuck it, I packed in my job and went to college. Im 26 now and Im just starting my Degree year in Music production & Audio engineering. Its hard at times not having a steady pay cheque but the gratification of knowing that I will hopefully have a decent academic qualification makes it worth while.

CHOPPER · « **Reply #12 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:48:35 PM »

Hello, from the other side of the hill

I have the things that should mean I'm 'grown up', but I ain't

the trick is not to grow up.

Kez · « **Reply #13 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:54:24 PM »

Depends on what you mean by grown up. After I left uni I got my first "proper" job (ie 9-5) although I've been working in some way or other since I was 14. I reckon I grew up periodically - at 18 when I moved away to uni; at 21 when I got my first proper job and managed my finances well enough to plough 60% of my monthly wages into savings; earlier this year for personal reasons and I'll probably grow up a bit more after July next year when I (hopefully) will be looking at starting my first job as a trainee solicitor and renting my own place.

I don't think there's a date at which people suddenly grow up. At 22 I reckon I'm a lot more "grown up" than some people I know and they've got their own houses, 9-5 jobs and are older than me etc. Guess it depends on the personality of the person. I've nearly always been mature for my ages, or as Mike puts it, boring

In Fowler we trust · « **Reply #14 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:56:36 PM »

I still haven't grown up

Elli · « **Reply #15 on:** September 26, 2008, 08:59:49 PM »

Quote from: Kez on September 26, 2008, 08:54:24 PM

At 22 I reckon I'm a lot more "grown up" than some people I know and they've got their own houses, 9-5 jobs and are older than me etc.

That your housemate you're referring to there?

Hightown Phil · « **Reply #16 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:07:41 PM »

I would be lying if i said i didn't have the same thought.

Antony · « **Reply #17 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:12:56 PM »

I've got a job, and I'm in college heading for Uni.

My mate thinks I'm acting as if I'm 40 and I never have time for myself, he's probably right, but he's the one getting arrested and a Dole-Ite.

Alf · « **Reply #18 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:13:08 PM »

18 after I packed up college.

Garstonite · « **Reply #19 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:22:07 PM »

Quote from: In Fowler we trust on September 26, 2008, 08:56:36 PM

I still haven't grown up

Same. Still waiting for the time, 7/8 jobs and 1 wife later.

Cribertinokes · « **Reply #20 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:31:49 PM »

Im 15 and im young and free so fuck adult life.

Franck Le Poof · « **Reply #21 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:36:53 PM »

Quote from: Skrtel the Turtle on September 26, 2008, 09:31:49 PM

Im 15 and im young and free so fuck adult life.

No wonder us 15 year olds have a bad name

I Like Boobs · « **Reply #22 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:45:04 PM »

At 18 I was in a job that paid a lot of money and I was respected in the company and sector, I had a house, fiancée and child by 21. By 25 I didn't have the job, house or fiancée any more and was living back at 'home' with my Mum only seeing my son 3 days a week. Started a degree, got a job that I loved and got the house I want to stay in forever and have a child that never wants to leave Dad's side.

Was I any less grown up when I was at my Mum's (again!) than when I was 20 and racing full steam ahead? I don't think so. Failing so spectacularly was what made me grow up and become the person I am. Growing up is far more than age or the stuff you own and what job you have - it's the scars you bare from the experiences that life throws at you, good and bad.

I feel the same person today as I did when I was 10, just a bit wiser and a bit smarter.

Cribertinokes · « **Reply #23 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:51:06 PM »

Quote from: Raunchy on September 26, 2008, 09:36:53 PM

No wonder us 15 year olds have a bad name

We can be rude, boistrous and plain annoying but our youthful naivity and ignorance provides a nice bubble to hide inside. I love being young

rushyman · « **Reply #24 on:** September 26, 2008, 09:59:00 PM »

I think 'when you fucking feel like it as its your life' is the real answer

I Like Boobs · « **Reply #25 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:02:01 PM »

Quote from: Skrtel the Turtle on September 26, 2008, 09:51:06 PM

I love being young

That lasts up until you get regular sex

Chivasino · « **Reply #26 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:09:08 PM »

Have a baby, and that will force you to grow up.

Kez · « **Reply #27 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:23:41 PM »

Quote from: Elli on September 26, 2008, 08:59:49 PM

That your housemate you're referring to there?

Quote from: Hightown Phil on September 26, 2008, 09:07:41 PM

I would be lying if i said i didn't have the same thought.

Haha no not at all! Was thinking of someone else entirely! Elli can probably still guess who though!

TSC · « **Reply #28 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:29:02 PM »

Quote from: Billy The Kid. on September 26, 2008, 08:43:20 PM

I was arsing about until i was 23. Had a reasonably good job but I was just living for the weekends. I was saving fuck all and my wages just went on football, booze, and CD's. Eventually I said fuck it, I packed in my job and went to college. Im 26 now and Im just starting my Degree year in Music production & Audio engineering. Its hard at times not having a steady pay cheque but the gratification of knowing that I will hopefully have a decent academic qualification makes it worth while.

Sounds like me only I was a couple of years ahead of you. 24 when I headed off to uni. All worth it in the end. Be harder now with the extent of loans lumped onto students. Still had half grant and half loan in my day & no tuition fees and such shit.

mikek1984 · « **Reply #29 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:32:50 PM »

neverrrr

grimreaper · « **Reply #30 on:** September 26, 2008, 10:37:55 PM »

When your dead.

lainey · « **Reply #31 on:** September 27, 2008, 02:31:51 AM »

97 and i may think about it

kesey · « **Reply #32 on:** September 27, 2008, 02:39:23 AM »

Never.

afc turkish · « **Reply #33 on:** September 27, 2008, 03:28:00 AM »

Quote from: Red Punjab on September 26, 2008, 10:09:08 PM

Have a baby, and that will force you to grow up.

should, although there is depressing evidence to the contrary spread across various Western media...

JonnyCigarettes® · « **Reply #34 on:** September 27, 2008, 01:49:59 PM »

I shall continue to not grow up until further notice.

sabbathfan · « **Reply #35 on:** September 27, 2008, 03:18:51 PM »

I'm sure I'll know when I get there

Red Squiggle · « **Reply #36 on:** September 27, 2008, 05:59:03 PM »

I'm by far the least grown up person I know, it's a little worrying.

Alan_X · « **Reply #37 on:** September 27, 2008, 06:04:13 PM »

I'm 52 and still working on it...

Rob Jones Maybe? · « **Reply #38 on:** September 27, 2008, 06:09:52 PM »

17 and feeling pretty bloody old.

Wouldn't exactly say I was 'grown up' but at the same time can't see myself getting much older. Got myself locked into a mindset where I'm as happy and comfortable as I am likely to be and fully aware of what I need to do to go where I want to go. I have a rough idea of who I am and I'm both aware of my flaws and cautiously acceptant that I have the odd positive quality going for me.

RyanNS · « **Reply #39 on:** September 27, 2008, 06:18:22 PM »

I'm 29 and still haven't technically grown up yet, although I suppose I am working towards that. I no longer take 6 mos of the year off to travel and I have finally finished university. Im currentley working a job that allows me to pay the bills, travel and has great benefits although I would not consider it my career job as it will never pay me what I hope to earn. Hopefully within the next year or two I can land what I would deem my career job and can start to build some equity and savings. I am in a steady relationship with the same girl for the past three years and can see a future with her.

That being said I still get out whenever I want, can travel around and visit mates all over the world and basically do whatever I want. The biggest thing is that I am 100 times more responsible at 29 then I was just 5 years ago and I am starting to appreciate different things the world has to offer. I no longer need to piss away my pay cheque every week and have nothing to show for it to have a good time.