Topic: in love with your best mates bird

[۩ Imperator ۩]

Distance yourself from the whole situation for a while. Try to see this girl as little as possible, and you'll get over it.

[richbull76]

My 'Best Mate' Nicked money, cds & dvds off me while living with me and my ex, then when we split up, a week later they were together even though he had done that to me! ill NEVER forgive either of them and it aint worth getting involved buddy, unless you dont want to be friends with your mate anymore, Because i battered the crap out of the lad so many times, everytime i saw them i lost the plot and battered him, I Moved away in the end as it just got too much for me!

[Finn Solomon]

The jokey comments aren't funny, this is one of the major headfucks someone can experience.

I'm sorry, you're right.

Well, way I see it, put yourself in your mate's shoes. It would be devastating if your mate ran off with your bird, so 'do unto others' and leave the pair of them well alone.

[Rizla]

Been down a similar road in the past

I was lucky, I came out of it relatively unscathed and moved on from it all, though never said a word to her about it...couldnt really, it wouldnt have been right. He knew though and was really good about it, and has remained a close mate

But yep, while it lasted, it was a bad place to be in, and imagine it's even worse when she knows and feels the same

Think the only thing you can really do is distance yourself from both for the time being and go out and find other opportunities, is the only way 

[djphal]

if she wont leave him then fuck her off!!

[djphal]

thanks for the advice lads. as you might have guessed i was very drunk when i started this thread and i wish i hadnt done really.

cheers anyway.

tell her you are prepared for the bumming but she has to leave him first

you can do it

you can do it alllll night long

[David Sanction]

tell her you are prepared for the bumming but she has to leave him first

you can do it

you can do it alllll night long

 

[brendanbrady]

The jokey comments aren't funny, this is one of the major headfucks someone can experience.

She's told you she won't leave him and even if she did the chances are the guilt would destroy the relationship.

You have to get away from them both. If they split up then later on perhaps.

But the best thing you can do is tell yourself it won't happen and get as far away as possible. It'll give them a chance to maybe get things sorted and you a chance to sort your head out.

thanks Doctor Phil

[Darren_LFC]

Some thing like that happened to me about 4 years ago.  Wasn't love though. My best mate (we've been mates since kids) was with this girl and we'd always harmlessly flirted, I was single at the time.

Then went threw some crap (they lost a baby and the relationship kinda went down hill from there) and in the end they split up it was a pretty bad break up lot a shit throw in both directions.

A few month later I was in a pub up on allerton road and she comes over to say hello, I couldn't be nasty to the girl cos she'd made the effort to say hello.  So she and her mates joined me and my mates, after last orders we all went back to mine for a after party.......anyway a bit more booze and a lot less aware later we ended up in bed together.

The next day I felt like shit!  Head was right up my arse, felt guilty as fuck knowing I'd broke a sacred bond to a mate who would do anything for me.  She text me a few times afterwards but I just ignored them, she even sent me a text when I was at his saying "I know where you are, should I come say hello!"

So my advice pal is leave well alone....girls come an go but mates are for life.

[Immoral King Brian Blessed]

Seinfeld it.

The bird tells your mate that she wants to have a ménage à trois with him and you. This course of action will have a two-pronged effect. Firstly, the very mention of the idea will cause your mate to recoil in disgust, whereupon he will insist that the bird remove herself from the premises.

At this point, it is inevitable that he will seek out you to apprise you of this abhorrent turn of events. You will then offer him friend the requisite sympathy even as you say part of you cannot help but feel somewhat flattered by her inclusion in the unusual request.

You tell your mate you might be interested in the bird. He wants nothing to do with her. He tells you, "If you want to waste your time with that pervert, that's your problem." Voila

It's a perfect plan. So inspired. So devious. Yet so simple.

[bryanod]

Seinfeld it.

I thought of that but didn't want to bring it up

[Immoral King Brian Blessed]

I thought of that but didn't want to bring it up

Too much of a risk of him becoming an orgy guy?

[Rigga]

Too much of a risk of him becoming an orgy guy?

After all the shite thats gone down this last week, I received an offer this afternoon from my ex's mate and her husband!! pmsl - what to do, what to do lol

[Immoral King Brian Blessed]

Get out the baby oil, silk dressing gown and grow a moustache?

[pistol]

After all the shite thats gone down this last week, I received an offer this afternoon from my ex's mate and her husband!! pmsl - what to do, what to do lol

As if you need to ask!   

[Rigga]

Get out the baby oil, silk dressing gown and grow a moustache?

LMFAO

[PaulF]

Been down a similar road in the past

I was lucky, I came out of it relatively unscathed and moved on from it all, though never said a word to her about it...couldnt really, it wouldnt have been right. He knew though and was really good about it, and has remained a close mate

But yep, while it lasted, it was a bad place to be in, and imagine it's even worse when she knows and feels the same

Think the only thing you can really do is distance yourself from both for the time being and go out and find other opportunities, is the only way 

Word homie.

[GBF]

well a blow job doesnt count as cheating anyway....

[cornelius]

My advice is to just have a wank. Then think about the whole situation again. How you feel immediately after the wank is very important.

Let me know how you get on.

[Stretch Armstrong]

My advice is to just have a wank. Then think about the whole situation again. How you feel immediately after the wank is very important.

Let me know how you get on.

HOW dodgy does that sound

[Emlyn18]

Shes a c*nt. Walk away.

[DaveLFC]

This is a shit situation, usually the women is on a power trip. She can have him and you and some of them actually enjoy that. One thing for sure is this will screw with your head if he is your best mate.

You can't come out of this well, reject her and she'll tell him it's all your fault, you made the play  and you did this and that. She already told you she won't leave him, leave it be.

Also think about this, you'll NEVER trust her, EVER. Even if she left him and went out with you. You'd never want to introduce her to any of your friends and you've already lost a good mate.

It isn't worth it, it's not going to be easy but if you do anything with her then remember it will cost you your friend and a lot more.

[kop88]

My simple advice would be what a few others have echoed

NO bird is worth losing a mate over

What i have learnt is when it all goes shit with a bird, who's there to fall back on? Your Mates.
Its your mates that stick with you when it all goes tits up, and pull you through.
Its your mates who are there to take you on a good night out to clear your head when a bird has fucked you over.
Honestly mate, if this lad is a good mate, then no bird is worth it!
Birds come and go, but its your mates who are their for life.

My advice would be to just stay away from her, it wont be easy but its the only way. Seeing them will only make it harder for you. A few weeks in Magaluf will do the trick

[Jim Price]

Bit of a shame for this fella whose bird and best mate are telling eachother they love eachother. Pair of them should have a look at themselves. Should have left it in the wank bank.

[Mirra]

Think the pair of you are shithouses if im honest. I have had a good mates missus say she loves me in the past, i told my mate straight away and he kicked her out. I wouldnt do that to a friend. No way.

She sounds like a twat as well, if she loves you why is she not going to leave the bloke?

A lad who was close to me and my group of friends did this to one lad in our group a few years ago, we all turned our backs on him. With friends like that who needs enemys? You can do the right thing and tell your mate the full story, or you can stay a good mate and tell him about her, mark his card etc. Or you can do the c*nts trick and give her one, it wont last anyway. Never does in those circumstances.

[NatD]

Watch this clip: -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5m2T5yfgsZ0

You win some, you lose some.......

[Phil M]

Think the pair of you are shithouses if im honest. I have had a good mates missus say she loves me in the past, i told my mate straight away and he kicked her out. I wouldnt do that to a friend. No way.

She sounds like a twat as well, if she loves you why is she not going to leave the bloke?

A lad who was close to me and my group of friends did this to one lad in our group a few years ago, we all turned our backs on him. With friends like that who needs enemys? You can do the right thing and tell your mate the full story, or you can stay a good mate and tell him about her, mark his card etc. Or you can do the c*nts trick and give her one, it wont last anyway. Never does in those circumstances.

SPOT ON.

[GBF]

or become gay

[Eric]

Write her a song, give her a false name then shag her behind his back whilst still remaining friends.

Worked every time for Clapton.

That turned out quite well seeing as he and George made millions off of their misery eh?  And they were great friends to the end!

[۩ Imperator ۩]

Bit of a shame for this fella whose bird and best mate are telling eachother they love eachother. Pair of them should have a look at themselves. Should have left it in the wank bank.

It is, after all, what wank banks are for.

[Danny Boys Dad]

The priesthood is your only hope.

[bryanod]

The priesthood is your only hope.

it was only RESTING in his wank bank....

[pistol]

Think the pair of you are shithouses if im honest. I have had a good mates missus say she loves me in the past, i told my mate straight away and he kicked her out. I wouldnt do that to a friend. No way.

She sounds like a twat as well, if she loves you why is she not going to leave the bloke?

A lad who was close to me and my group of friends did this to one lad in our group a few years ago, we all turned our backs on him. With friends like that who needs enemys? You can do the right thing and tell your mate the full story, or you can stay a good mate and tell him about her, mark his card etc. Or you can do the c*nts trick and give her one, it wont last anyway. Never does in those circumstances.

In one.

[gerrardspetal]

After all the shite thats gone down this last week, I received an offer this afternoon from my ex's mate and her husband!! pmsl - what to do, what to do lol

What did you do?

[Rigga]

What did you do?

Had a few conversations with them on msn, they're really keen

I'll be heading back down that end of the country in a few weeks to see my little girl anyway, so I dunno what'll happen - I'll keep you informed

[AJ]

She may love you, you may love her.

But you love your best mate more.

[Mr D J]

leave well alone,smash your gaff up and then go shopping,new start.

[Finn Solomon]

The priesthood is your only hope.