Yeah it can seem that way...
You have to be careful that you are fair to kids. But then again you have to be fair and have a classroom where kids can learn.
There’s different ways of doing it though. When I first started teaching there was a woman I worked with who used to regal us with tales of her NQT year.
Her mentor heard some kids referring to her as a complete bitch, and he told her she’d go far. She told this as a positive story. That’s not what I went into teaching for. She seemed to positively dislike kids.
Then there was my mentor Roger. He was second in science and had the best discipline I’ve ever seen. This was one of the worst 50 schools in Britain, and the man never raised his voice, he just sighed, and glared at them.... Another NQT asked him what he’d do if a girl started brushing her hair in his lesson. He was seeking advice about what we all thought was a very low level issue. He replied ‘I don’t know, it’s never happened’. It was a bit dispiriting really, the classroom next door to me had the entire class run out, they ran into my classroom and out of my fire escape, and the head of science caught a kid smoking weed in his lesson.... and Roger had never even found a girl brushing her hair
Anyway I’m rambling...