An update on my friend. I just got back late last night pretty exhausted after a sleepless night because 4 of us were crushed together on a single bed in hospital accomodation. There were about 20 people already down there to see her when we arrived on Monday so we waited until yesterday morning to see her briefly, it seemed more important that she rest and heal from the op than see lots of people. Everyone cried a lot but I managed to smile through it and make her laugh and smile, gave her a knitted punk teddy bear complete with safety pins and mowie which she loved.
Anyway the long and short of it is that they found many tumours, the worst is apparently aggressive and shutting off the blood supply to her bowel by constricting the main vein down to it. One the blood flow stops then she will die. They're not treating her, she's currently on dialysis and if her kidneys start back up they can think about getting her home to live out the short time she has with her family. She's being very strong and positive as expected, she wants to last out til her birthday in March and make it a memorable one. I hope she does but we're not all that confident she will even be able to leave hospital. We'll just wait and see.
Thanks for your all kind words RAWKites.